"toxic feminity would be caring too much"
Actually, the manipulation and loaded social bias within that statement will clue you in on "toxic femininity".
Toxic feminity is:
"Mean girls" social exclusion culture...making bash pages, legit attemping to get lower level women to kill themselves.
Using proxy violence to control men's behavior.
Castrating/Beating/abusing sons.
Setting men up to get robbed.
Using certain men for utility and others for enforcement, and yet others for pleasure.
Yeah, it's caring too much: about going out, attaining more social status, and hiding a child at home so you can be seen.
Toxic feminity is putting dope in your son's hands and telling him he's man of the house.
Toxic feminity is being able to smoke crack through the whole 90s, have your grandparents raise the kids, and have your huge segment of the population wiped from the general memory because "dear mama".
Toxic feminity is using Skinner Operant Conditioning in R&B format.
"She want a soldier and no scrub, pay my bills, and don't bug me" became a culture. R&B is "resonation" music. If they can't relate or emulate, it ain't gonna hit.
Y'all keep on being fools and looking at things from a suburban blackface perspective.