Black male H.S. graduation rates lag behind whites

[PartyHeart]

I hear you, BUT your mother is your first teacher, and if you constantly see her guide your sister, as far as school, and you don't see how you fit in that picture without looking lame(not living the way you want) YET you still want that admiration from a female, you will end up doing things the wrong way just to get that feeling. I'm not saying men fukk up their life for women but they do fukk up their life for that feeling of admiration that they don't get from their mother. It is just something men can't talk about because if you say anything bad about your mother, you're bad.

I recently came to terms with this, and I love my mother to death but I remember her telling my sister she can do this and that, even though she didn't work as hard as I did, while telling me to get a job and have a family at 19 YEARS OLD because I wanted to try something different then going to school to just get a degree. I wanted to find a CAREER that I was happy with. It was like since I wasn't doing things the way she thought they should be done she gave up on me and as I looked back she always did that but in a subtle way, and it hurt me so I reacted in ways that hurt me, while she gave my sister too much confidence and she thinks she could do anything when that is not the case. Everything I did from music to investing, she didn't believe I could do it as well as most people who I told, BUT if my sister try to do these things they pushed her and told her she could do it. Again all of this was subtle and it was when I thought about all of this that I made the connections. I noticed other guys went through the same thing but they won't really go there because it is just something you don't do.

Maybe if women had a father who was around them and did the same, I can't blame girls totally for doing dumb shyt to get that attention and admiration their father didn't give them, from boys. Unfortunately, in this society it's ok to blame the father for everything, even when he wasn't there but you better not say shyt about the mother because like 2pac said, "even as a crack fiend mama, you always was a black queen mama".

Guys are told that in subtle ways, such as not having a girlfriend means you are lame or you aren't a real man, even though most just bag the first thing they can get just for some quick p*ssy and the chicks end up playing them on the low. Really it effects both sexes but when a women does it, she is going towards her career or can't find a good man, when a man doesn't settle with one chick, he is either gay or have issues.

Sorry to hear that. Sometimes parents really take for granted their more driven kids. I think you find similar but opposite complaints with women though. In households women will complain that their parent(s) came down hard on them for getting a B, meanwhile their brothers could come home with straight Cs and Ds but as long as he wasn't in a gang they would be prouder of him than her. The standards are simpler lower for boys than girls (hurtful for girls emotionally, but hurtful for boys developmentally).

As far as missing fathers being blamed for everything, I agree that it shouldn't be that way. A lot of times the MIA men are poisonous themselves and wouldn't necessarily be helpful influences if they were present in the child's life. The biggest issue imo is simply a time thing, one parent simply can't be around the way two can. Its not necessarily the absence of the fathers. I mean, if we are raising, and condoning the raising, of boys whose sole goal in life is p*ssy, weed, and video games, I don't think them being around would create the next Obama before it created the next Cheef Keef anyway. But the big issue is that a single woman could be a great parent and influence on her kid, but if she is on her own she likely has to work more, so her kids will naturally spend a lot of time without her supervision. And more idle time at that age is just more time for them to mess up.

As for the last paragraph, I have to call you out on that one. Come on now. Especially in the Black community, men are encouraged to have multiple women, something that is extremely harmful if we want the end goal to be a nuclear family.

 

[Serious]

As for the last paragraph, I have to call you out on that one. Come on now. Especially in the Black community, men are encouraged to have multiple women, something that is extremely harmful if we want the end goal to be a nuclear family.

I hate when people say this

*rolls up sleeve*

Not necessarily, what you have is multiple women whom only target one type of guy in particular doing certain a age range.

For example: I'd venture to state during early novice dating years, many females tend to associate the jocks and bad boys as ideal candidates. When you take into consideration that some jocks may very will be great potential bachelors and some females will knowingly putting themselves in a line of danger to get hurt in the process by reluctantly pursing the jock(whom has many other options), out of curiosity.

All while, there's a supposed "good" guy or nerd(used loosely), whom was often neglected and denied a chance, and isn't consumed with "whoring" it up. Of course, this same argument goes both ways(gender wise). It kind of condescends, when you get into depth of attractiveness on both sides.

Now fast forward a few years later, into the conclusion of lets say post-secondary schooling, and the tables might have flipped. The women were previously ignored during h/s are now reminiscing in the wonderful attention which was never properly given to them during an adolescence age. As, they have now blossomed into a wonderful women; and the nerds(males), may have transformed into intelligent professionals such as doctors,lawyers, scientist, engineers etc.. This once overlooked group of people are now a genetic catch in the kingdom of attractiveness.

Now both genders of formal outsider, are presented with many options to them available at their disposal. Staying faithfully isn't as easier said than done. This is no surprise to anyone whom is remotely attractive.....

In contrary, this isn't a solely isolated black issue, but mere form of human nature, natural selection, or just bad perception on life.

Quit with these complex equations

(let me know if need the conclusion to the jock / badboy )