People still don't get that confidence isn't something you just turn on and off or choose to have. It's easy for some people to be confident because of their outlook and they have certain personality traits. Every one doesn't have the same traits or values...
Some dudes need dope clothes, need to get women, need to get money, need to have a career, own place, be in shape etc... before they start feeling confident and like they stand out. Confidence isn't something that every one can choose to have over night.