Bedwench Article: Racism On Dating Apps Made Me Regret Trying Tinder & Bumble At All — Here's Why

[EndDomination]

Which is a major reason why bw/wm is literally worse than bm/ww(not that either is great)

When I have to go in on and teach a white female about the state of oppression of melanated peoples in western countries, I dont get any back talk or pushback

Because the man is supposed to lead in a relationship, his mindstate dominates PERIOD, ESPECIALLY in IR relationships

A white Male trying to tell ANYONE about racial oppression is no different than me trying to tell a female about child birth smh

I would not say this.
We've got a lot of dead Black men whose lust for White flesh offed them.
We've got even more dead Black men who by existing near a White woman, ended their lives.

Both are embarrassing.
If we're comparing levels of hell I daresay, you're in hell regardless.

 

[staticshock]

Funny thing is I can't find one picture or information about her or any other authors with similar writing.

I looked too & didn’t see any pic. She’s probably using a fake name

 

[HARLEM AL]

 

[null]

Yo some of these book titles are wild. They seem to have a fetish/fantasy about getting pregnant by a billionaire or a CEO.

Like this is a whole sub genre of books I had no idea that existed. Do black men who PAWG have these same kind of books to read? Where some breh lusts after a WW and dreams of getting her pregnant?

 

[Abraxus]

Well you have to match with them to exchange messages


Says alot about what she's looking for

Fasho for real! And why all the white boys if you not trying to get some white dik up your ass? Hell 90% of people on both apps only trying to get some that’s for both sexes. I met the best person to date off bumble. I have a killer body count from Tinder though. Buncha skanks looking for that hotdog

 

[BlaqkSpliffin]

Well none I personally know are interested in wm. So I can’t really speak on this situation I guess. I only know one bw that had a pattern of dating wm, and she admitted she ain’t even attracted to wm, she likes bm and cheated on her white husband with black men... so that’s all I got.

I will see my way out this thread lol.

 

[Gravity]

i don't think you got my comment, i'm a breh

just saying once you understand hypergamy, all the fukkery regarding IR dating as it pertains to women makes more sense

No, i don't think that you understand the point others are making and what we are calling out. If we're going to use hypergamy as an excuse then no blacks who put non blacks on a pedestal can be called out because all non blacks are in a higher caste.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Lol, it's crazy. She was pregnant, and she had been talking to this dude for a minute, but she really wasn't interested in him like that. She thought that in telling him that she was pregnant he would go away, but he ended up proposing. At the time she was young and didn't want to live under her parents roof, so she accepted his proposal, but she said he couldn't fukk, he was annoying and ignorant, made ignorant comments all the time about black men, and he was very naive. She ended up cheating on him with bm. They've since divorced, and he's back with WW, and she's now fukking with Bm only and said she will NEVER be with a wm again. I mean, I could really elaborate but that's the best summary. He was willing to marry her, and marry her quick, even with that baggage, because he wanted to be married. His dad, who was a wm, was also married to a BW. It was like a family thing I guess. But she admitted that the only reason she even entertained WM for a period of time, is because she felt like they commit quicker. She also struggled to attract BM--she said because of her body type(she's very thin), so I guess she did better with WM back then.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Cacs in cowboy boots tho?

Imagine a cowboy boot wearing, white man with a cowboy hat to boot, breh, coming up and saying in a surfer sounding white "dude" voice, "hey babieeee your fukking hot, can I take you out?"

It was that sort of thing going on. In this particular town, I never saw so many IR relationships in my life, no one black was dating each other, BW were with WM, BM were with WW. WM were honking horns, approaching, following me, etc. Just overly aggressive. And even here in the south, I've noticed they tend to be bold asf when they approach too. Like making comments about my ass, and whatnot, shyt that I guess they think will go over well, because I'm black.. But yes, I feel like that with that overly vocal group of BW pushing the message that WM are the shyt, it has WM approaching us like they are too. Now, I can only speak for myself, I've grown up around whites most of my life, lived in mostly white areas--so their compliments, approaches, wokeness, etc doesn't impress me, the way it might for that subgroup of bw. But, at the same time, I do understand why some BW have opened their options, I just think the way they're going about it, is incredibly embarrassing and cringe worthy. I feel like blacks in general, with the way we put these cacs on a pedestals, it's overly embarrassing and pathetic. From threads about pawgs, to threads about brads, to books, to youtube videos, to tweets inviting people to the BBQ, shyt is just sad. the thing is, it seems like this happens mostly on social media. But offline, I rarely meet people that say the things that are spoken on social media. So IDK what to think, I mean I will admit to knowing a good amount of single BW that would love to be in relationships and get married, but even they are not trying to date white men. They'd rather just stay single.... It's interesting how offline experiences differ from what's being said online.

 

[BlaqkSpliffin]

Lol, it's crazy. She was pregnant, and she had been talking to this dude for a minute, but she really wasn't interested in him like that. She thought that in telling him that she was pregnant he would go away, but he ended up proposing. At the time she was young and didn't want to live under her parents roof, so she accepted his proposal, but she said he couldn't fukk, he was annoying and ignorant, made ignorant comments all the time about black men, and he was very naive. She ended up cheating on him with bm. They've since divorced, and he's back with WW, and she's now fukking with Bm only and said she will NEVER be with a wm again. I mean, I could really elaborate but that's the best summary. He was willing to marry her, and marry her quick, even with that baggage, because he wanted to be married. His dad, who was a wm, was also married to a BW. It was like a family thing I guess. But she admitted that the only reason she even entertained WM for a period of time, is because she felt like they commit quicker. She also struggled to attract BM--she said because of her body type(she's very thin), so I guess she did better with WM back then.

Okay a couple of things. 1)White dudes are the biggest simps. 2)White dudes do commit far easier and quicker than BM. As do Asian and Latino men. Ironically all those groups women also IR date/marry at rates higher than BW and also complain about their men possibly even more than BW do BM. Take that as you will.
3)People who IR date normally do hate or dislike the the men or women of the opposing race of their partner and it's weird as hell.
4)They always end up with they own.
5)Her being a thin BW made everything even more crystal clear and proved what I already knew.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Okay a couple of things. 1)White dudes are the biggest simps. 2)White dudes do commit far easier and quicker than BM. As do Asian and Latino men. Ironically all those groups women also IR date/marry at rates higher than BW and also complain about their men possibly even more than BW do BM. Take that as you will.
3)People who IR date normally do hate or dislike the the men or women of the opposing race of their partner and it's weird as hell.
4)They always end up with they own.
5)Her being a thin BW made everything even more crystal clear and proved what I already knew.

She was pregnant at the time too, with a black baby. This man did not care. He still married her and took care of her son. Even to this day, he gets her son, when he picks up the child they had together. Interestingly enough she did say he later came back and apologized for the things he said about bm, because now he has two black sons... he’s been peeping everything happening in terms of Trayvon martin, etc.

I have a couple of white female friends who are married to bm, that also started to have a similar awakening once they had biracial children, like they really were ignorant but thought they weren’t, only to realize through their kids experiences the truth about their privilege and racism in this country. Some of them even hate whites now because of it. Like one of the white girls I know hates white people now.

I feel like blacks in these arrangements get exposed to their nonblack partners ignorance, and their racism. The person in the op experience doesn’t surprise me in the least. I feel like a lot of times the black partner is doing a bit c00ning or downplaying their partners hidden racism. And it isn’t just unique to bw/wm relationships it happens in bm/ww relationships too that’s why so many biracial women from the ww/bm union often see themselves as better than bw(they get their ideas about bw from their white mothers that also think they are better then us). While the biracial men from these unions tend to see themselves as bm but don’t find attraction in bw and often end up with ww like their mothers.

On the other hand in the reverse union, of bw moms and wm dads, the biracial girl’s often prefer wm, and have a harder time understanding/relating to bm unless their white father wasn’t in their life.

So these unions imo often result in kids that overinflate whiteness too, and take on the ideals of the white parent, which is why they are often confused. But that’s another topic.

**these are my observations before anyone in one of these unions gets defensive or tries to say it doesn’t apply to their IR relationship

 

[BlaqkSpliffin]

She was pregnant at the time too, with a black baby. This man did not care. He still married her and took care of her son. Even to this day, he gets her son, when he picks up the child they had together. Interestingly enough she did say he later came back and apologized for the things he said about bm, because now he has two black sons... he’s been peeping everything happening in terms of Trayvon martin, etc.

I have a couple of white female friends who are married to bm, that also started to have a similar awakening once they had biracial children, like they really were ignorant but thought they weren’t, only to realize through their kids experiences the truth about their privilege and racism in this country. Some of them even hate whites now because of it. Like one of the white girls I know hates white people now.

I feel like blacks in these arrangements get exposed to their nonblack partners ignorance, and their racism. The person in the op experience doesn’t surprise me in the least. I feel like a lot of times the black partner is doing a bit c00ning or downplaying their partners hidden racism. And it isn’t just unique to bw/wm relationships it happens in bm/ww relationships too that’s why so many biracial women from the ww/bm union often see themselves as better than bw(they get their ideas about bw from their white mothers that also think they are better then us). While the biracial men from these unions tend to see themselves as bm but don’t find attraction in bw and often end up with ww like their mothers.

On the other hand in the reverse union, of bw moms and wm dads, the biracial girl’s often prefer wm, and have a harder time understanding/relating to bm unless their white father wasn’t in their life.

So these unions imo often result in kids that overinflate whiteness too, and take on the ideals of the white parent, which is why they are often confused. But that’s another topic.

**these are my observations before anyone in one of these unions gets defensive or tries to say it doesn’t apply to their IR relationship

Whiteness in relation to black people is one of those most interesting things to examine because it can either be incredibly damaging or in some ways very beneficial. In my experience biracial kids are either super c00ns or super "woke". Same thing with black people who grew up in predominantly white areas. They either try to assimilate and be like their peers or they become super militant due to the racism and micro-aggressions they encounter on the daily. It is fukked up that it took them having black kids for them to find some humanity in them when it came to black people considering they were befriending and having sex with black people but that's also not surprising either.

Also Ironically I just came across a bunch of black women who were cosigning the belief that when BW date WM they do it for love while BM do it solely for self-hate reasons. This is in response to Snoop saying at Nipsey's memorial yesterday that "Every real BM needs a real BW." They took that and twisted into BM who date non-black women ain't real which of course resulted in Serena being brought up and the juelzing commenced. I wish black people weren't so cringey when it came to IR relationships.

 

[Dynamite James]

OK.
Not My Problem

Good for Her

 

[iBrowse]

 

[LordDeathwatch]

Mike's death stare after the fact is what gets me every time. :DemonicJuice: