FYI, this is why some women really don’t trip off relationships. Some of y’all don’t know how common this shyt is and how many women you know have dealt with some form of harassment, disturbance, abuse, etc.
People like to joke or say women are exaggerating, but it never starts like this.
It’s your man yelling or over talking you, and you rationalizing it because “Well, he was just mad. Who doesn’t yell from time to time?”
Or him getting too close or trying to physically intimidate you without actually touching you. And part of you feels silly completely walking away from the relationship because “well, he didn’t actually put his hands on me”. But then 6mon or a year later that’s when he finally goes all the way and hits you.
Now, some women are built to fight back and not be concerned about being hurt (probably because of exposure to prior physical abuse from family, neighborhood or possible self defense training). Some women can disengage emotionally and play the game until they get away and are safe.
MOST WOMEN, however, MOST are shell shocked and are too scared because they don’t know what the man is capable of doing when he gets even more upset. <— This is the normal thought process of someone who is emotionally attached and PHYSICALLY WEAKER than their abuser.
Like this case in OP. I’m sure if she willingly stayed he wouldn’t have killed her.
He would’ve just continued to beat, and beat, and beat her.
She got away.
And he found her and murdered her.
So, I just want y’all to understand WTF it’s like for women.
Men don’t just start physically abusing you out the gate.
There’s a slow build up, and they usually wait to get physical when they know they’ve got you hooked emotionally, financially dependent, and or pregnant.
She did the right thing. The tough, strong thing. She got the restraining order and moved.
And then she was murdered.