Anyone here ever date a Narcist person?

[Vandelay]

I've told people recovering from a breakup after a narcissist is a totally different experience than just a regular breakup. After mine I had to be single for a minute to detox myself from that chick. You hit the nail on the head though. The lengths a narcissist will go to get their way or to spite you is way past next level shyt. I've tried to warn people here to never get involved with one. I don't think people fully get it until they've had to deal with one

To make it worse, my ex was funny. She would shyt on me, blame me for it, then clown me to others.

Had me looking like a straight nut ass nikka...

 

[Mr.Moon]

I feel like this thread is about me

 

[Donny]

I’ve definitely displayed some narcissist traits in my past relationship to the point where I’m kind’ve scared myself away from dating.

Ain’t no fake in the game brehs don’t get into a relationship when you ain’t 100% sure about what you want from it and aren’t confident and complete in yourself shyt will deadass become a nightmare for your significant other.

I’ve been on both sides trust me you can dead ass stop somebodies progress if you ain’t giving them the right energy really gotta work out yourself before stepping into anything.

 

[NotaPAWG]

yes, most fukked up people ever. PURE evil

most ppl posting in this thread soundloke they havent truly dated a narcissists

narcissists traits:

emotionally and verbally abusive, manipulative, deceptive, ANGRY.. lack the ability to self reflect..anything theyve done thats hurtful its because of something YOU did. i found myself apologizing so many times for things He did. they will have you questioning if its you whos the problem for your reaction to being hurt while theyre the ones doing the most fukked up shyt imaginable.

things they do to manipulate, feed their ego, keep control, keep you coming back

love bombing

future faking

silent treatment

withholding affection as punishment

ultimatums

gaighting

intermittent affection

hoovering

stay far away! they cant be fixed. they are pure evil and parasitic leeches

 

[NotaPAWG]

I've told people recovering from a breakup after a narcissist is a totally different experience than just a regular breakup. After mine I had to be single for a minute to detox myself from that chick. You hit the nail on the head though. The lengths a narcissist will go to get their way or to spite you is way past next level shyt. I've tried to warn people here to never get involved with one. I don't think people fully get it until they've had to deal with one

they question your ability to even have healthy relationships because they are very good at manipulation and deception.

they are sych messed up people emotionally and mentally, you truly dont understand how evil someone can be until you have one in your life.

and the tactics they use make you addicted to them, everyone will ask “why are you still dating:talking to them” but they cant understand unless theyve been with one

 

[kuts]

Imma be honest I’m speaking to one right now who openly lets it be known she’s a narcist.

She does talk about herself way too much and she expects me to immediately understand everything she says. If I don’t catch on right away or don’t answer it to her standards she claims I’m acting weird

What part of the game is this?

 

[Knicksman20]

To make it worse, my ex was funny. She would shyt on me, blame me for it, then clown me to others.

Had me looking like a straight nut ass nikka...

I hear you bro. Anyone that's dealt with one had had similar experiences. Mine was passive aggressive, intentionally do things to get a response, & then would play victim when I'd respond. She'd view any differing opinion as an attack on her or criticism which she couldn't handle & would lash out. She's manipulative AF & perception was everything.

 

[NotaPAWG]

I hear you bro. Anyone that's dealt with one had had similar experiences. Mine was passive aggressive, intentionally do things to get a response, & then would play victim when I'd respond. She'd view any differing opinion as an attack on her or criticism which she couldn't handle & would lash out. She's manipulative AF & perception was everything.

theres a subreddit called narcissticabuse and every description and the things people desvribed going through its like theyre describing the exact person you dated.

my NEX would hit me, say some of the most cruel and hurtful shyt.. give some fake half ass aplogize when then want me to comfort him!!! when i didnt hed tell me what a POS i am and go back to saying a bunch of cruel and hurtful shyt

the only way to handle a narcissists is to not entertain them AT all. they feed off of your emotions, kindness, empathy, etc its a supplly to them because they are devoid of any of it.

 

[GreenGhxst]

Nah I know y'all joking saying women, but idk if y'all know what a true narcissist is or ever been around one

A nagging, annoying, entitled woman isn't necessarily a narcissist, that's probably just a immature bytch

When you start talking about them manipulating people around them, purposely turning people against you, premeditated actions to destroy, false sense of superiority and gas lighting.. That's real narcissistic behavior

 

[Vandelay]

I hear you bro. Anyone that's dealt with one had had similar experiences. Mine was passive aggressive, intentionally do things to get a response, & then would play victim when I'd respond. She'd view any differing opinion as an attack on her or criticism which she couldn't handle & would lash out. She's manipulative AF & perception was everything.

My guy, I was married to her. It started off that she couldn't take criticism. She'd find the worst thing to say about you when you criticized her. Then she'd act like she was doing me a favor being with me. Then all these random people started popping up that she was obviously flirting and/or fukking.

Chick would cheat, then blame me for the cheating. I would try to get away from her and the chick would keep following me. Then when I couldn't run or bounce, I would detach from her emotionally and verbally and the chick would start hitting me because she could tell I wasn't connected to her anymore. Then joke about the shyt to her girls, who thought the shyt was a joke...but didn't realize, nah bytch she's really throwing blows at me. Everyone finally knows the truth, but shorty put me through hell...only way I fixed it was to cut her off completely, but the damage I did to myself by cutting her off completely fukked me up for years financially and mentally.

None of these signs were initially there. The only sign that was there was how her and her ex broke up. I always look at how people talk about their exes now.

 

[Abstract83]

As I said earlier in the thread, my ex was a narcissist. I've kinda touched on it here and there on this website without going into full detail, and while we're anonymous on here, it was still hard for me to come to terms with how badly she treated me or even express it to others. It was hard, because although the shyt that narcissists do is blatant and obviously disrespectful, as it was mentioned earlier, they will have you questioning your own fukking reality. I started thinking I was the fukked up one. I'm no saint. I wasn't even a saint to her.

Narcissism isn't solely about being selfish. It's how fukked up their actions are when it comes to doing what they want. And they will have everyone else looking at you like you're the crazy one. When you first meet them, they really aren't selfish at all. They pour on the attention and have you thinking, damn I must be the shyt. But as soon as they get what it is that they want from you, they go cold and just start doing evil shyt...that's the sign that you need to bounce. My problem was, I go tit for tat with people at times...you can't go tit for tat with a narcissist because they have no limits to the fukked up shyt that they will do. No limits...and that's why you need to run. Don't play their game...don't matter how pretty she is, how good her p*ssy is, how smart she is, how good a job she has...just bounce. There will be other women.

Sadly they can't be corrected either, their shyt gets worse with age and gets more reinforced. It's a mindstate; a thought process. It's how they work things out in there head. You can't change how someone thinks. You can't...You just have to leave them alone. Which is the worst thing you can do to them. You'll never know it, because you are not around to see how fukked up they are from it...but it fukks them up.

A few good movies on it are The Good Son, Basic Instinct, American Psycho, To Die For or Eat, Pray, Love...which the movie doesn't paint Julia Roberts as one, they play it like she was on some middle age self-discovery shyt, but she was definitely a textbook narcissist.

Like i said before I argue with this chick almost once a week. When I block her she looks miserable when I see her. She yells and throws all her frustrations out on me. To the point of screaming. But she never cursed at me or said anything derogatory. It's very covert. She even says I'm always getting mad at her etc. But she never leaves. Always wanting me back. And wanting to date me. She takes some accountability but she'll play the victim almost always. I try not to talk to her but we'll end up talking and repeat the cycle again. shyt is weird. And I usually cut people off but not her.

 

[Knicksman20]

they question your ability to even have healthy relationships because they are very good at manipulation and deception.

they are sych messed up people emotionally and mentally, you truly dont understand how evil someone can be until you have one in your life.

and the tactics they use make you addicted to them, everyone will ask “why are you still dating:talking to them” but they cant understand unless theyve been with one

The "funny" thing is they're the ones incapable of having a normal relationship

What you said is the absolute truth