Anyone here ever date a Narcist person?

[The Guru]

A narcissist is not a person who loves to talk about themselves but it can be a narcissistic trait. A person who has narcissistic personality disorder is a sociopath. Some traits include:

Lack of empathy
Grandiose delusions about their capabilities
manipulation as a control tactic
gaslighting i.e constantly doing seedy or questionable shyt but when caught makes it seem as if you are the crazy one
Low self esteem masked by ego
Will never admit to wrong doing but will constantly deflect
Easily shamed... when the narcissistic ways are discovered or unmasked...they will ghost you. They run from reality
Usually have multiple sexual partners. They almost are always unfaithful
Lack the ability to really love as they truly hate
themselves and they believe they can only get what they want through manipulation.
Don’t view other humans as people with feelings only extensions of their own narcissistic desires aka supply. Narcissistics crave attention/praise and acceptance. That’s it. They can’t truly love... but they crave supply and can pretend they love as long as their narcissistic needs are being met.

The NPD is usually triggered in childhood. It’s a coping mechanism that eventually gets worse as it they Age. Narcissist for the most part can’t change because they disconnect from self to cope. A person who can’t self actualize and connect with self can’t be changed. If you are with one run . The most draining people on earth.

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This doesn't happen to be more common with people who also are borderliners and bi-polar? Starting to sound very familiair to someone i know.

 

[beanz]

Narcissistic people are only that way to shield their complete lack of self esteem. They over compensate or have parents that do too much to build them up and they become self centered egotistical a$$holes.

In many cases, narcissists are also sociopaths as someone else said above.

In my experience, they are to be avoided at all costs.

Imagine being with a person and getting into an argument, but that person is completely unable to see your point of view and refuses to budge because your need is just not as important as theirs.

Cannot state this strongly enough, STAY AWAY FROM NARCISSISTS!

 

[Abstract83]

I think I'm currently dealing with one. Been arguing on and off for 2 yrs. Every other week its drama. I cant even begin to explain the shyt. Basically everything is my fault no matter what the problem is. I tried blocking her she cried for 2 hrs and begged me to talk to her. Constantly irritates the hell out of me with slight criticisms. Back handed compliments. She can be cocky one minute. Then the most miserable victim the next. Always deflecting when backed into a corner. But she wont go away. I told her to leave me alone. And I'm done with u. She took it personal and thru it back to me crying and that was today. Shes the only one that I go at it with. Everyone else in my life isn't like that. She claims she loves me. Screams my name during sex. Cant go a day without speaking to me. She says i treat her like shyt. Sometimes I wonder if I'm narcissistic.

 

[hatealot]

I think I'm currently dealing with one. Been arguing on and off for 2 yrs. Every other week its drama. I cant even begin to explain the shyt. Basically everything is my fault no matter what the problem is. I tried blocking her she cried for 2 hrs and begged me to talk to her. Constantly irritates the hell out of me with slight criticisms. Back handed compliments. She can be cocky one minute. Then the most miserable victim the next. Always deflecting when backed into a corner. But she wont go away. I told her to leave me alone. And I'm done with u. She took it personal and thru it back to me crying and that was today. Shes the only one that I go at it with. Everyone else in my life isn't like that. She claims she loves me. Screams my name during sex. Cant go a day without speaking to me. She says i treat her like shyt. Sometimes I wonder if I'm narcissistic.

That's far from a narcissist, that is a woman who behaves like a child and hides behind being a victim.

 

[Abstract83]

That's far from a narcissist, that is a woman who behaves like a child and hides behind being a victim.

U sure? Because she has some of the traits. But I'll admit she is down to squash shyt once we thoroughly talk it out.

 

[hatealot]

Narcissistic people are only that way to shield their complete lack of self esteem. They over compensate or have parents that do too much to build them up and they become self centered egotistical a$$holes.

In many cases, narcissists are also sociopaths as someone else said above.

In my experience, they are to be avoided at all costs.

Imagine being with a person and getting into an argument, but that person is completely unable to see your point of view and refuses to budge because your need is just not as important as theirs.

Cannot state this strongly enough, STAY AWAY FROM NARCISSISTS!

My mother is a narcissist, bonafied.

All conversations will always be directed about her and how she contributed to it, perceived or real.

If she isnt the center of attention she makes it about her in skme fashion.

100 lacks any social awareness about how she looks to other people as she can only see her own perspective.

Someone can be having a celebration or a milestone she will find someway to make it about her.

Everything always revolves around her and her feelings. When she is challenged her goto defense is to fake cry and go into victim mode. She will pull anything from distant history to try to shame others if she isnt in control no matter the context.

I can go on and on, its unfortunate but she also suffers from alcohlism and she is elderly. To be honest I'm just waiting for that call to find out she is dead.

 

[hatealot]

U sure? Because she has some of the traits. But I'll admit she is down to squash shyt once we thoroughly talk it out.

She prob does some self centered stuff , we all do time to time. But usually naracissim doesnt just pop up in some situations that is convenient for them, it pops up in all factors of their life. They cant control it.

 

[Abstract83]

She prob does some self centered stuff , we all do time to time. But usually naracissim doesnt just pop up in some situations that is convenient for them, it pops up in all factors of their life. They cant control it.

I dont think she has the disorder though. But the traits are strong. That victim shyt is annoying. I havent dealt with a woman like that before. The ones I've been with own up to most of their shyt.

 

[Knicksman20]

She prob does some self centered stuff , we all do time to time. But usually naracissim doesnt just pop up in some situations that is convenient for them, it pops up in all factors of their life. They cant control it.

Meant to respond to this sooner. What you said is 1000% true & these kinds of people always have problems in their personal & jobs. It's ingrained in their personality & I don't even know if a person like that could change. I was in a relationship with one for way too long & know this for a fact

 

[Frump]

I just dumped my last bytch cuz of this. Always playing the victim. Apparently its everybody elses fault in her book

I have a friend like that. She always finds herself in the craziest situations especially with dudes she dates yet she knew from the beginning these dudes were trouble yet stayed with them awhile anyway and then complains that she has horrible luck with men.

She was molested by her uncle as a kid so I think that’s where the being a perpetual victim and looking for drama in relationships comes from

 

[3rdWorld]

I dont even know where to begin..but I'm glad she's gone.

 

[UberEatsDriver]

My mother is a narcissist, bonafied.

All conversations will always be directed about her and how she contributed to it, perceived or real.

If she isnt the center of attention she makes it about her in skme fashion.

100 lacks any social awareness about how she looks to other people as she can only see her own perspective.

Someone can be having a celebration or a milestone she will find someway to make it about her.

Everything always revolves around her and her feelings. When she is challenged her goto defense is to fake cry and go into victim mode. She will pull anything from distant history to try to shame others if she isnt in control no matter the context.

I can go on and on, its unfortunate but she also suffers from alcohlism and she is elderly. To be honest I'm just waiting for that call to find out she is dead.

Damn bro wtf that’s harsh. Lol

 

[Vandelay]

As I said earlier in the thread, my ex was a narcissist. I've kinda touched on it here and there on this website without going into full detail, and while we're anonymous on here, it was still hard for me to come to terms with how badly she treated me or even express it to others. It was hard, because although the shyt that narcissists do is blatant and obviously disrespectful, as it was mentioned earlier, they will have you questioning your own fukking reality. I started thinking I was the fukked up one. I'm no saint. I wasn't even a saint to her.

Narcissism isn't solely about being selfish. It's how fukked up their actions are when it comes to doing what they want. And they will have everyone else looking at you like you're the crazy one. When you first meet them, they really aren't selfish at all. They pour on the attention and have you thinking, damn I must be the shyt. But as soon as they get what it is that they want from you, they go cold and just start doing evil shyt...that's the sign that you need to bounce. My problem was, I go tit for tat with people at times...you can't go tit for tat with a narcissist because they have no limits to the fukked up shyt that they will do. No limits...and that's why you need to run. Don't play their game...don't matter how pretty she is, how good her p*ssy is, how smart she is, how good a job she has...just bounce. There will be other women.

Sadly they can't be corrected either, their shyt gets worse with age and gets more reinforced. It's a mindstate; a thought process. It's how they work things out in there head. You can't change how someone thinks. You can't...You just have to leave them alone. Which is the worst thing you can do to them. You'll never know it, because you are not around to see how fukked up they are from it...but it fukks them up.

A few good movies on it are The Good Son, Basic Instinct, American Psycho, To Die For or Eat, Pray, Love...which the movie doesn't paint Julia Roberts as one, they play it like she was on some middle age self-discovery shyt, but she was definitely a textbook narcissist.

 

[re'up]

Narcissim is an overly generalized word, it's more like a scale, if someone is high enough up the scale, they generally exhibit traits that are

My Dad and a close friend from high school are right in there, a true relationship with a narcisst is very unhealthy

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• Signs and symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder and the severity of symptoms vary. People with the disorder can:
  • Have an exaggerated sense of self-importance
  • Have a sense of entitlement and require constant, excessive admiration
  • Expect to be recognized as superior even without achievements that warrant it
  • Exaggerate achievements and talents
  • Be preoccupied with fantasies about success, power, brilliance, beauty or the perfect mate
  • Believe they are superior and can only associate with equally special people
  • Monopolize conversations and belittle or look down on people they perceive as inferior
  • Expect special favors and unquestioning compliance with their expectations
  • Take advantage of others to get what they want
  • Have an inability or unwillingness to recognize the needs and feelings of others
  • Be envious of others and believe others envy them
  • Behave in an arrogant or haughty manner, coming across as conceited, boastful and pretentious
  • Insist on having the best of everything — for instance, the best car or office
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  At the same time, people with narcissistic personality disorder have trouble handling anything they perceive as criticism, and they can:

• • Become impatient or angry when they don't receive special treatment
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  • Have significant interpersonal problems and easily feel slighted
  • React with rage or contempt and try to belittle the other person to make themselves appear superior
  • Have difficulty regulating emotions and behavior
  • Experience major problems dealing with stress and adapting to change
  • Feel depressed and moody because they fall short of perfection
  • Have secret feelings of insecurity, shame, vulnerability and humiliation

 

[Knicksman20]

As I said earlier in the thread, my ex was a narcissist. I've kinda touched on it here and there on this website without going into full detail, and while we're anonymous on here, it was still hard for me to come to terms with how badly she treated me or even express it to others. It was hard, because although the shyt that narcissists do is blatant and obviously disrespectful, as it was mentioned earlier, they will have you questioning your own fukking reality. I started thinking I was the fukked up one. I'm no saint. I wasn't even a saint to her.

Narcissism isn't solely about being selfish. It's how fukked up their actions are when it comes to doing what they want. And they will have everyone else looking at you like you're the crazy one. When you first meet them, they really aren't selfish at all. They pour on the attention and have you thinking, damn I must be the shyt. But as soon as they get what it is that they want from you, they go cold and just start doing evil shyt...that's the sign that you need to bounce. My problem was, I go tit for tat with people at times...you can't go tit for tat with a narcissist because they have no limits to the fukked up shyt that they will do. No limits...and that's why you need to run. Don't play their game...don't matter how pretty she is, how good her p*ssy is, how smart she is, how good a job she has...just bounce. There will be other women.

Sadly they can't be corrected either, their shyt gets worse with age and gets more reinforced. It's a mindstate; a thought process. It's how they work things out in there head. You can't change how someone thinks. You can't...You just have to leave them alone. Which is the worst thing you can do to them. You'll never know it, because you are not around to see how fukked up they are from it...but it fukks them up.

A few good movies on it are The Good Son, Basic Instinct, American Psycho, To Die For or Eat, Pray, Love...which the movie doesn't paint Julia Roberts as one, they play it like she was on some middle age self-discovery shyt, but she was definitely a textbook narcissist.

I've told people recovering from a breakup after a narcissist is a totally different experience than just a regular breakup. After mine I had to be single for a minute to detox myself from that chick. You hit the nail on the head though. The lengths a narcissist will go to get their way or to spite you is way past next level shyt. I've tried to warn people here to never get involved with one. I don't think people fully get it until they've had to deal with one