newworldafro
DeeperThanRapBiggerThanHH
Like others said, its biological..
Females gonna choose provider before anything
When the cities start reopening, so will options...
Damn yall....
Anyone Else Noticing a LOT of Engagements This Year
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Damn yall....
I see a bunch of sucker ass men, those relationships will not last because of this
Like others said, its biological..
Females gonna choose provider before anything
When the cities start reopening, so will options...
Married couples are not around each other 24/7 under normal circumstances. Covid lockdown had all couples going crazy because now suddenly it was 24/7 so divorce rate shot up and relationships came to an end
but those that split weren’t meant to be anyway if you couldn’t handle a couple months like that
to their fiancées.
HarlemHottie
Uptown Thoroughbred
My lady has been pushing for it recently. She knows I’m not even considering it until my mid/late 30s though.
her: “one of my colleagues just got engaged.”
me: “ah that’s great.”
her: “isn’t it wonderful.”
me: “mm hmm.”
her: “to make that commitment for life.”
Me: “mm hmm.”
her: “it must be a great feeling.”
me:
What's holding you back (or are you just gmb)?
ThrobbingHood
Take from the b*tch, give to the whores.
Nah, not GMB. I definitely want to raise my children in a married home. I can’t go on about the lack of black family structure and not lead by example.
Having said that, my lady is marriage material, I can’t have any complaints. But... as fukked up as it sounds, I’m still waiting to see if something better comes along.
I know people will think that’s out of line but most of us don’t want to feel like we “settled”, when in reality most of us do. I wouldn’t be mad if she had the same sentiments.
Like I said, once I reach 35, if I truly feel like she’s the best I can do, then I’ll propose to her.
Sounds fukked up but I promise you, 99.999% of men in long term relationships have the same mindset. I’m just being honest.
HarlemHottie
Uptown Thoroughbred
No, i feel you. This is a big decision. My question is, where do you feel she's lacking?
ThrobbingHood
Take from the b*tch, give to the whores.
She’s not lacking. It’s me. It could be my fear of commitment so I use “settling” as a defense mechanism. She’s a good woman. My parents and siblings love her. She can cook. She’s funny. Thoughtful etc.
Apart from her annoying gay ass friends, she doesn’t have any flaws. We don’t live together (which I strongly pushed for), but she stays over at mine for weeks at a time.
I haven’t cheated at all, despite the temptation being there. I just have to really ask myself is this really it? Is this the woman I want to wake up to everyday until I die? I’d like to believe I wouldn’t have a side woman if I do get married but almost every married man I know has one.
People change, children come into the equation, sex drives could go down. It’s daunting thinking about it. Any man would be happy to have a woman like her. I guess it’s a case of always wondering “is the grass greener?”.
Why waste her time? Lmfao thats corn ball ish man and you going to ruin her for the next person
ThrobbingHood
Take from the b*tch, give to the whores.
If I marry her then I’m not wasting her time. She knows the deal. I’m not holding her captive.
P.S., why would I want to upgrade her for the next nikka? I want him to inherit an emotional wreck if we break up.
If you and your partner didn't kill eachother during the Pandemic...you'll probably be ok.
If I marry her then I’m not wasting her time. She knows the deal. I’m not holding her captive.
P.S., why would I want to upgrade her for the next nikka? I want him to inherit an emotional wreck if we break up.
you’re going to learn the hard way. Trust me on that one.
ThrobbingHood
Take from the b*tch, give to the whores.
We’ll see.
Oldschooler
All Star
How old is she? Trust me females think different, you might lose her if she's reaching her 30s soon. If I was you I would push to move in together. Live with her for 1 year and then make your decision. It's different when you live with someone 24/7. You get to pick up on their tendencies and also they lose that "luster". At that point if you still love them for who they are than you will know.