Anyone else notice friends dwindle the older you get?

[The_King_of_Everything]

Is anyone here the friend who everyone depends on to get the ball rolling? Like calling/txting, and setting up the entire plan for the night/weekend. Essentially the glue guy for the group? That's me and I used to take pride it in, and now I hate it. For once I'd like the "Hey Mike let's do this on Friday, I'll pick you up."

Sorry for the rant brehs

Realist shyt ever.

I realized I put a lot on the line for my friends even my life but fukk all that I'm doing me.

nikkas is sketchy as fukk these days. Same with female friends everybody got a motive.

 

[LastEmperor2k2]

Don't even get me started on trying to put together a softball team with friends I don't think I've ever been more frustrated. In the end, I ended up not playing this summer (and all my bats expire since they're changing the u-trip requirements for 2013.)

This was the hardest year for me to do it, been doing it 6 years.

I almost didn't field a team, did so at the very last second, never should have season was a disaster and I had to pick up the slack in some of the money and shyt was not cool.

But our league if you don't have the funds you forefit.

 

[LastEmperor2k2]

Lol. The team I was on last year, almost every game we'd be short 1-2 guys. Almost had to forfeit one game. Another time we played with 2 guys in the outfield, me and another dude. Should have got slaughtered but we lost by 1 run, not bad. I had no legs after that though.
But every week I'd get a txt from the captain on some "you know anyone that can play tonight"

You just described my whole season man.

The worst part was then some of the newcomers started to try and pull rank, and i`m not the captain who`ll ever pull a power trip, but I had to put this dude in place. Guy was trying to force himself to play CF when the guy we had in CF I`ve known since Kindergarten, is a good player and been with us 4 years

 

[ProfessionallyTrill]

My friends has already dwindled after college.

Once I moved south it was a wrap. I'm thinking career, I got a good woman and I like my space

 

[Grand Cru Boo]

this thread reaches home so much.

I use to have wild friends growing up. It seem like damn near every year I would lose someone that was in my circle.nikkaz started dropping of the map like flies for real. Some lost their life to the streets, . A few went up state, a few stop messing with me because i didnt want to do the same hoodrat shyt from before, some showed their true colors and others just faded into obscurity for whatever reason.

It happens but its kind of sad. Ive noticed the older I get, the more I cherish the quiet time. I would rather go out by myself ( gambling, drinking, picking up females, sporting events) than be around a bunch of nikkaz that dont want to do this because " theirs not enough hoes here" or whatever silly ass reason it is

 

[CJ]

You just described my whole season man.

The worst part was then some of the newcomers started to try and pull rank, and i`m not the captain who`ll ever pull a power trip, but I had to put this dude in place. Guy was trying to force himself to play CF when the guy we had in CF I`ve known since Kindergarten, is a good player and been with us 4 years

That is the worst, I had that on a separate team last year. Good thing you checked him quick. We had two captains who were actually beefing, so the new guys would just play one against the other. Childish shyt. That's why I didn't re-up with them this year and tried to start my own. Failed miserably though since I couldn't rely on anyone to confirm/pay the fee.

 

[TNC]

This threads timing couldn't be any more perfect, just went through this thought process over the weekend. Good stuff Emp.

I'm 27, recently got engaged. My closest boys aren't married/dont have kids/have manageable work schedules (2 of them had both their engagements fall through though) but you'd think they are tied up cause they just disappear at times. Then when they want to chill it's always something low key.. which I'm fine with but not everytime. I still want to go out y'know? Doesn't have to necessarily be a club per-say but a bar/casino/restaurant/batting cages/shyt, anything. Something semi-active. Example: Just this past Friday a buddy hit me up around 3pm asking to chill (haven't seen/heard from him in a week). I told him sure, we're thinking of an impromptu trip to Fallsview Casino (with our other good buddy, the 3 of us are tight), come. I know it's not his thing (never really drinks/gambles), but even still, come out. Seen this guy twice all summer. I don't hear back. So at 730 I tell him we're about to leave let me know. Don't hear back. 830pm rolls around (at this point we're in Niagara) "sorry bro got tied, enjoy." Like come on, just say its not your thing, dont ignore. Dude's phone is literally attached to his hip, at all times. And I know if I didn't mention where we were going, he would have responded back right away to come over to game, or catch Expendables 2 or something. But since it didn't suit his interest, we get no response. It's childish shyt like that that makes me just temporarily cut people off, or minimize future effort. I know it's minor but I'd do something out of my particular interest if it's for a buddy, plus it's a reason to chill and get together/catch up. The people I know who can cure my occasional nightlife itch are just too immature, where I end up feeling like I'm chaperoning. Can't win

Is anyone here the friend who everyone depends on to get the ball rolling? Like calling/txting, and setting up the entire plan for the night/weekend. Essentially the glue guy for the group? That's me and I used to take pride it in, and now I hate it. For once I'd like the "Hey Mike let's do this on Friday, I'll pick you up."

Sorry for the rant brehs

I feel you on this, but lemme give you the other side of this considering I been on both sides of these kind of situations.


First of all, you practically married if not already married. No matter what y'all do, things gonna be different because you now move as a unit wit ya wifey. He cant really go out and pick up chicks with you anymore because you married and can't do the wingman thing anymore, wife gonna trip, etc. At best you gonna be running interference for him, and that's only if you good. And if he's a single dude, he is DEFINATELY trying to get some kinda new p*ssy.


2nd, it don't really sound like y'all got the same idea of a good time. Maybe he just wants to do chill shyt to be respectful to ya wife, but honestly he probably works better and is more comfortable in low key environments. And when he hit you up to chill, you immediately came to him with a gameplan full of shyt he ain't into. It's like, you didn't really even consider his plan of action before you made yours. I got numerous friends who do that shyt all the time. A homie of mine likes doin outdoorsy shyt and I hit him up and he wanted to go hiking and camping for a weekend with some random dudes and no bytches.

I ain't even dignify that shyt wit a response because he KNOWS I ain't into shyt like that and the no bytches part felt like he was trolling.


And honestly he probably mass texted folks with that and had a better option. You seemed fine about moving on to what you wanted to do, he probably just did the same. At least he remembered to text back because most heads I know wouldn't even do that.


I do feel ya on being the "glue" in your group because I play the same role in multiple of my groups. I'm fortunate to be able to say I have about 30 legit friends I still kick it wit and I'll be 30 soon, but it's a bytch actually trying to alter my schedule around just to catch up with folk. But I don't mind doin it for my clost people because they do the same for me. With your boy to, it just sound like y'all are growing apart or never had that much in common to begin with

 

[BrothaZay]

I noticed this at 16

 

[OSUBaneBrowns]

Realist shyt ever.

I realized I put a lot on the line for my friends even my life but fukk all that I'm doing me.

nikkas is sketchy as fukk these days. Same with female friends everybody got a motive.

QFT

 

[Virtuous_Brotha]

I noticed this at 16

 

[Ice Water]

This is true. I got like 3 good friends where we are mad tight. Dudes you can call up at 3 in the morning to pick you up if you stranded. You can't do ish like that with some half arse "associates" Close friends dwindle as you get older simply due to more responsibility, kids, wife, life. Life slows down, but it def ain't gotta get boring.

 

[Last Dayze]

this is a natural cycle of life but with the times the way they are everyone's energy fields(even the wicked&lost) are highly magnetic/electric right now..

so for all my metaphysical/spiritual bruhtren be aware of this fact because the wicked will be on the hunt to corrupt,the lost will either try to hang on and bring you down cause they can't pull their own energy or distance themselves because they'd rather chase 3-D Babel-On,and other spiritual beings are fighting their own battles..

Life In Marvelous Times but the beast is clawing for those last few proverbial straws of power..

 

[ProfessionallyTrill]

I had to post my friends music to see if he should even take this music shyt seriously cuz he bout to be the next nikka I cut off

http://www.the-coli.com/tunnel/34203-please-critique-my-homies-music.html#post1225959

 

[Kilgore Trout]

Well the people you grew up wiht werent really your friends by choice you kind of just were put together.

The older I get, the friends I make seem to have more in common with myself or were in the same industry.

There are only so many hours in the day so I tend to have different friends for different occations based on their attributes. I have friends I party with cause are cool and can get bytches. I got friends I work out and play sports with. I also have friends at work.

I have 3 close friends though, the thing i notice about them is that those are people Ive done the most ratchet shyt with lol.

 

[Majestic Pape]

this is a natural cycle of life but with the times the way they are everyone's energy fields(even the wicked&lost) are highly magnetic/electric right now..

so for all my metaphysical/spiritual bruhtren be aware of this fact because the wicked will be on the hunt to corrupt,the lost will either try to hang on and bring you down cause they can't pull their own energy or distance themselves because they'd rather chase 3-D Babel-On,and other spiritual beings are fighting their own battles..

Life In Marvelous Times but the beast is clawing for those last few proverbial straws of power..