Anyone else notice friends dwindle the older you get?

[LastEmperor2k2]

Yep. First noticed this with friends who got married in their early 20's. Suddenly those friends weren't around and available to hang out as much as they had been. I really didn't think I was heading down that road anytime soon until this year when I got into a serious relationship and slowly but surely enough your old buddies get replaced by "couple friends." Not a bad thing really as I probably need to grow up and mature before I become the "old guy" in the bar/club and some of my friends were kind of a drain in their own ways, but couple friends are way more boring than your single and unattached friends. It's weird too because couple friends have way more money to do fun things than your borderline-broke single friends so you would think they'd be more fun but I guess getting older and having bigger responsibilities has a sobering effect on most people.

I hate couple friends, I don't like that whole dynamic. Honestly, that just isn't me and my girl knows that.

It's like I have to pretend to be having fun because hey it's our couple friends, it's like a snooty ass way to look down on single people. Like you can't associate with someone whose fukking random people, like they`ll corrupt you or something.

Plus like you said, couple friends are boring. It turns out to be an ass-kissing fest.

 

[LastEmperor2k2]

you just might be a bit lame son

Yeah, if your friends are dwindling at 18, that's way too soon. That just shows the only good times ya had was in HS

shyt, 18 is when you're always around new people and making acquaintances.

 

[LastEmperor2k2]

These days I just cut nikkaz off who get on my nerves.

This is what i`m on.

Back in the day I had the one know-it-all friend, annoying as fukk. Always trying to one up people, really insecure type. Back then it was like a funny character trait, now I just don't like the guy and don't wanna be around him.

Same thing with one of my selfish friends, it was like his thing. People would always clown him for being the selfish dude, but as you grow older, that shyt isn't really funny and it's just annoying. Type of dude you cop a ticket for in advance to a game, and when the game comes he hits you with the "Oh,. hey I only got 70 bucks, i`ll get you back though" knowing the tix 100, but then buys you a beer at the game like it's all cool

 

[Double Burger With Cheese]

Just cut a nikka of a few months ago. A nikka tried to hustle me and my other nikka on a lil weed deal. I was like damn dog, you go do this to your own nikkas? To make matters worse, the nikka don't wanna own up to it. Benn fukking with him for like 10 years but I had to cut that nikka completely off. Can't associate myself with someone I don't trust.

 

[LastEmperor2k2]

Just cut a nikka of a few months ago. A nikka tried to hustle me and my other nikka on a lil weed deal. I was like damn dog, you go do this to your own nikkas? To make matters worse, the nikka don't wanna own up to it. Benn fukking with him for like 10 years but I had to cut that nikka completely off. Can't associate myself with someone I don't trust.

That same know it all dude, pulled some shyt on me a while back that made me never trust em again either.

Dude asked me about relationship advice, said he hasn't fukked his girl in 4 months and they just fight and he's not happy and neither is she. So I told em, hey man, maybe it's best you guys just go your separate ways at this point.

A couple days later, his girl asks me "Why did you tell James to dump me" I looked at her and was disgusted, ever since then dudes been in the can't-trustem category. Trying to blame me for his ass wanting out the relationship. Never again

 

[Rarely-Wrong Liggins]

Yeah and it's depressing.

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[malbaker86]

Yea everybody goes through this for the most part. Settling down, kids, career, wasn't really as tight as you thought y'all were, etc comes into play the older you get.

 

[CJ]

This threads timing couldn't be any more perfect, just went through this thought process over the weekend. Good stuff Emp.

I'm 27, recently got engaged. My closest boys aren't married/dont have kids/have manageable work schedules (2 of them had both their engagements fall through though) but you'd think they are tied up cause they just disappear at times. Then when they want to chill it's always something low key.. which I'm fine with but not everytime. I still want to go out y'know? Doesn't have to necessarily be a club per-say but a bar/casino/restaurant/batting cages/shyt, anything. Something semi-active. Example: Just this past Friday a buddy hit me up around 3pm asking to chill (haven't seen/heard from him in a week). I told him sure, we're thinking of an impromptu trip to Fallsview Casino (with our other good buddy, the 3 of us are tight), come. I know it's not his thing (never really drinks/gambles), but even still, come out. Seen this guy twice all summer. I don't hear back. So at 730 I tell him we're about to leave let me know. Don't hear back. 830pm rolls around (at this point we're in Niagara) "sorry bro got tied, enjoy." Like come on, just say its not your thing, dont ignore. Dude's phone is literally attached to his hip, at all times. And I know if I didn't mention where we were going, he would have responded back right away to come over to game, or catch Expendables 2 or something. But since it didn't suit his interest, we get no response. It's childish shyt like that that makes me just temporarily cut people off, or minimize future effort. I know it's minor but I'd do something out of my particular interest if it's for a buddy, plus it's a reason to chill and get together/catch up. The people I know who can cure my occasional nightlife itch are just too immature, where I end up feeling like I'm chaperoning. Can't win

Is anyone here the friend who everyone depends on to get the ball rolling? Like calling/txting, and setting up the entire plan for the night/weekend. Essentially the glue guy for the group? That's me and I used to take pride it in, and now I hate it. For once I'd like the "Hey Mike let's do this on Friday, I'll pick you up."

Sorry for the rant brehs

 

[x2y]

Yea I don't even have kids or wife yet but I'm like damn the older you get the less I trust these random Wanna be friends and those who were friends are a long distance apart friendship wise and by location.

I just roll solo must of the time.

 

[OG_StankBrefs]

Yep.

 

[LastEmperor2k2]

This threads timing couldn't be any more perfect, just went through this thought process over the weekend. Good stuff Emp.

I'm 27, recently got engaged. My closest boys aren't married/dont have kids/have manageable work schedules (2 of them had both their engagements fall through though) but you'd think they are tied up cause they just disappear at times. Then when they want to chill it's always something low key.. which I'm fine with but not everytime. I still want to go out y'know? Doesn't have to necessarily be a club per-say but a bar/casino/restaurant/batting cages/shyt, anything. Something semi-active. Example: Just this past Friday a buddy hit me up around 3pm asking to chill (haven't seen/heard from him in a week). I told him sure, we're thinking of an impromptu trip to Fallsview Casino (with our other good buddy, the 3 of us are tight), come. I know it's not his thing (never really drinks/gambles), but even still, come out. Seen this guy twice all summer. I don't hear back. So at 730 I tell him we're about to leave let me know. Don't hear back. 830pm rolls around (at this point we're in Niagara) "sorry bro got tied, enjoy." Like come on, just say its not your thing, dont ignore. Dude's phone is literally attached to his hip, at all times. And I know if I didn't mention where we were going, he would have responded back right away to come over to game, or catch Expendables 2 or something. But since it didn't suit his interest, we get no response. It's childish shyt like that that makes me just temporarily cut people off, or minimize future effort. I know it's minor but I'd do something out of my particular interest if it's for a buddy, plus it's a reason to chill and get together/catch up. The people I know who can cure my occasional nightlife itch are just too immature, where I end up feeling like I'm chaperoning. Can't win

Is anyone here the friend who everyone depends on to get the ball rolling? Like calling/txting, and setting up the entire plan for the night/weekend. Essentially the glue guy for the group? That's me and I used to take pride it in, and now I hate it. For once I'd like the "Hey Mike let's do this on Friday, I'll pick you up."

Sorry for the rant brehs

Nah man that is all good stuff, and it hits home with me big time. This year actually is the first year I really see it all coming into focus like it has. And like I said, it's not cool, but it's just reality.

The bolded is the absolute worst, that's what really killed it for me and the know-it-all dude. He been on our softball team for years, I texted him 2-3 times the week before asking him if he's still in., dude just completely ignores the shyt.

That was it, that's kid games. Just tell me like a man a yes or a no. And like you said, he was another dude attached to his phone.

 

[Mantle Drunk]

Is anyone here the friend who everyone depends on to get the ball rolling? Like calling/txting, and setting up the entire plan for the night/weekend. Essentially the glue guy for the group? That's me and I used to take pride it in, and now I hate it. For once I'd like the "Hey Mike let's do this on Friday, I'll pick you up."

No I always knew it was a pain in the ass to deal with so I always let someone else deal with it. But then when we get to a destination that's when I start making calls on where to go from there I make somone else do the dirty work

 

[MikelArteta]

Yep

As you grow older, friends move away, your family and career priorities change....your interests shift from friends to other priorities.

 

[LastEmperor2k2]

Yea I don't even have kids or wife yet but I'm like damn the older you get the less I trust these random Wanna be friends and those who were friends are a long distance apart friendship wise and by location.

I just roll solo must of the time.

My ass went to Batman alone (never had problems doing things alone though) had a blast.

The more and more you see why old people give a fukk less about everyone else, you find your deal and stick with it

 

[BruhMayne]

Man I think most of yall are talking about associates and false friendships based only on being cool cause yall enjoyed doing the same shyt at the time

I've had the same 3 best friends since I was 9 years old and aint nothing really changed about our friendship since then