Anybody ever felt their parent held them back?
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KillerB88
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I went to college in 2006, one year before the iPhone was released and apps took over. I wanted to major in Computer Science while my mother wanted me to pursue a law career. She said computers were something I could do as a hobby, but I needed to focus on law so I could actually make some money 
The book four agreements touches on this....all of us are victims of lives that are presented to us by our parents....but how long are we going to cry about it before taking control and changing our own lives
Must not have understood my post bruh
God no! Everything I have I have because of my mom and dad. I'd jump on a bomb for those two nutjobs.They sacrificed EVERYTHING to make sure we had every opportunity. I grew up supported, loved, pushed, cherished, happy, and encouraged.
Sure we were broke as hell and living like Little House on the Prairie sometimes lol!
But poverty never kept my parents from loving us with everything they had and if I had to do it all over again, I wouldn't change a thing.
I remember one time, my father put his head in his hands and he was so stressed b/c they had gotten evicted and we were staying in my one bedroom apartment in college.
Or my mother was ashamed one day b/c we once went close to a year without electricity. I remember cutting up dishrags to make wicks for kerosene lamps. But I also remember making shadow puppets with my father and us playing Tunk and blk jack by candle light.
It's hard to discuss, not because I'm ashamed but b/c I really, really hope my parents understand how grateful I am to them. They gave us so much love and positivity growing up even despite the hard times. Sometimes I think they are ashamed of having struggled throughout life but I need them to know I would take the love they gave us over ANYTHING else. They were there for us in every way. From driving me out of state to my first Tae Kwon Doe tournament to seeing my dad cry for the first time when I went to live overseas. From taking food to my sister on the marching band to taking me to the pool everyday in the summer. Me and my dad up at 6am on Saturday watching Conan the Barbarians with mixing bowls full of cereal. My mom interrupting Pirates of Darkwater to make me get dressed to sing in a talent show. I adored my childhood and my family. We are all so close to one another. If there is anything good about me, it's b/c of them.
I adore life and people b/c of the beautiful foundation in love that they gave me. I'm looking forward to helping them both retire and live out the rest of their lives having fun traveling and stuff.Nope. Whatever my mother didn't do or could have done better has been forgiven and forgotten long ago. I'm more appreciative of what she did and that's good enough for me. No point in looking back, only moving forward and hopefully making it up with my daughter.
I went to college in 2006, one year before the iPhone was released and apps took over. I wanted to major in Computer Science while my mother wanted me to pursue a law career. She said computers were something I could do as a hobby, but I needed to focus on law so I could actually make some money
You would have been ahead of the curve but it's not like she gave u terrible advice like studying something u love..which I did and was one of the biggest mistakes of my life
KillerB88
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It was terrible because it WAS my passion AND I would have been ahead of the curve.
I see, you didn't make that 100% clear...well it's never too late
Are you a practicing attorney now?
KillerB88
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No, I own a SAS tech company making bank while being semi-estranged from my mother.I see, you didn't make that 100% clear...well it's never too late
Are you a practicing attorney now?
Hell nah. My parents did everything to make my life as a child wonderful. And 99% of the time it was. They had money but kept us humble by not giving us everything we wanted. But got us everytbing we needed like and more like cars and college tuition. Savings account for when we graduated college ect.
They still help me out if I need something today.
For what I've seen from other people Ive seen many peoples parents hold them back and basically fukk their life up from day one. Sad really
They still help me out if I need something today.
For what I've seen from other people Ive seen many peoples parents hold them back and basically fukk their life up from day one. Sad really
Iceson Beckford
Rich In Spirit.
Breh it’s like you’ve lived my life
A lot of the hobbies my mom picked for me sucked and she did because other peoples kids were doing them
WaveCapsByOscorp™
2021 Grammy Award Winner
Yes but I’ve been an adult for a while now and can make my own decisions. One clear example is how my mother didn’t want me doing martial arts while my father was very keen on me taking some while I grew up. However, their inability to compromise led to me not studying growing up. Wasn’t until 5 or so years ago I decided on my own.
There’s other things too, like vehicles or education; while my father did go to college, he never finished and he racked up on debt. This led to him always having a sour attitude instead of positive approach towards college. And it also means that you can’t rely on your parents to give you a proper view on managing college debt finances because his aren’t good.
But, the more you become aware of what you want/what you have wanted, the easier it becomes to get it. Went to college, graduated. Studied martial arts regardless of my mother’s past views.
There are a lot of things I am grateful for. Like the original post said about the Sax, my father always encouraged me to continue that and here I am 20+ years later with a full blown career playing music and touring.
Parents have it hard. Especially black parents
There’s other things too, like vehicles or education; while my father did go to college, he never finished and he racked up on debt. This led to him always having a sour attitude instead of positive approach towards college. And it also means that you can’t rely on your parents to give you a proper view on managing college debt finances because his aren’t good.
But, the more you become aware of what you want/what you have wanted, the easier it becomes to get it. Went to college, graduated. Studied martial arts regardless of my mother’s past views.
There are a lot of things I am grateful for. Like the original post said about the Sax, my father always encouraged me to continue that and here I am 20+ years later with a full blown career playing music and touring.
Parents have it hard. Especially black parents
Yep. My dad never learned how to save or prioritize his children. He lived frivolously and spent most of his adulthood living flashy. I’ve had to pay for his debts, get him out of legal beefs and I spent most of my 20s getting him out of trouble.
My mom is money hungry and greedy. She always finds a way to ask me for money. Always throws hissy fits and orders everyone around her like they’re her minions. Because of her, I don’t think I’ve ever fully trusted any woman.
I’m grateful for their care of me as a child. But if I have a child someday, I wouldn’t even let my child spend a weekend with them.
My mom is money hungry and greedy. She always finds a way to ask me for money. Always throws hissy fits and orders everyone around her like they’re her minions. Because of her, I don’t think I’ve ever fully trusted any woman.
I’m grateful for their care of me as a child. But if I have a child someday, I wouldn’t even let my child spend a weekend with them.
She didn’t know any better. I doubt she was trying to intentionally hold you back, just misjudged the direction tech was going on at the time. You’re doing your thing now. Send your mother a card at least and try to make up with her. Life is too short