Any of y’all cut of toxic religious parents before?

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

I cut off my grandma who kept telling me I was going to hell because I stopped going to church. I didn’t get anything when she died.

 

[Dad]

Create boundaries, OP.

It’s been helpful.

 

[MMS]

Yup but this person had far bigger issues than being an abusive Bible thumping narcissist. The fact he hides all his cruelty and worst wrongdoings behind vague convictions of God, and accuses anyone who speaks out against his behavior as being "possessed by the devil" is just the tip of the iceberg for how much of a toxic unbearable moron he is.

I don't identify as an atheist. I'm not ultra religious but I would tell you I believe in God. However I was raised around tons of hypocrites. Committed every sin in the book short of murder and can't be convinced they are anything less than righteous all-knowing mystics. Im almost traumatized by church, church families, and church communities from my upbringing. I have to know aim in the company if true spiritual academics and advisors. I just have a hard time trusting people who shout from the rooftops how much they love and follow Jesus.

Two sides to followers of Jesus, those who want him crucified and those who dont

Read between the lines and you’ll see what they really do

 

[Illuminatos]

Haven’t ”cut her off” but I haven’t seen her in about 12 years. I left her and moved with my Father at 16 and my sister (she’s 23) left her about 2-3 years ago. She was on some goofy hyper religious borderline abusive bullshyt and pretty much killed any care I had for having a relationship with her.

Right now the only reason I still talk to her is because my 16 year old brother still lives with her and going through her is the only way to have some sort of relationship with him. As far as my relationship goes with her it’s really some cordial hello and goodbye type shyt. As soon as she gets on that overly religious, power trippy babble the phone gets hung up and block her number worst case, although it’s never gotten to that point.

That bullshyt is really only effective when you live with them and they control you financially ex. as a child.

 

[Gloxina]

And that is actually supported by the Bible (at least from a Christian perspective). Jesus hated the fukk out of the Pharisees because they were hypocrites who made loud declarations of their faith but had evil hearts.

It's so sad that hypocritical Christians don't get the irony.

It’s not sad. It’s how you can tell the real from the fake.

It’s only sad if YOU don’t have discernment.

 

[3rdWorld]

May as well have cut your own umbilical cord in the womb..

 

[Gloxina]

Can’t speak to my mother without her bringing up God, ALWAYS judging my life, watches these African Pentecostal churches 24/7 and all they talk about is devils and hell so ANYTHING I do she has to be negative about. For example, if I’m going to a party, instead of wishing me to enjoy myself she’ll say ‘I had a dream something bad happened, you shouldn’t go. That’s God speaking to me’.

Doesn’t approve of my relationship even though she hasn’t met my girlfriend, just says her ‘spirit’ doesn’t feel her. Wants me to bring her to her pastor as she believes God speaks through her pastor, which I refuse to do.

Typical hypocritical Christian, condemns me for fornicating even though she did the same. Oh but it’s different because she asked for forgiveness.

I could go on, she relies on me financially but I just can’t stand how negative she is because of religion. It’s starting to affect my mental health and how I view her.

Ooooh yea.
Keep your distance.

So, it seems your mom is using religion as a coping tool. My mom is like that too. It’s like all common sense goes out the window and whatever pastor she encounters/knows is TMH incarnate.

And being negative will affect you too.

I mentioned my mom earlier and she’s so similar!

So, her bro (my Unc) is out of town and he charged me with checking on the house. No biggie.

She called me yesterday to say hi and asked where I was. I said I was at his house.

“Why are you there? Why do you have to do that? Did he ask you to watch the house? No, did he specifically ask YOU or can someone else go there? You don’t need to stress yourself out doing that”!

I’m looking at my phone like “Listen I gotta go” and I hung up.

Psycho shyt. In what world would I be in your BROTHER’s house with all the CODES if he didn’t want me there?

In what world do you not help family when family has gone above and beyond for you and me since forever?

In what world is checking the mail on a Sunday afternoon challenging and stressful?

But if you don’t have a strong mind of your own, you feed into that shyt. A simple: “Hey, it’s nice of you to help out your uncle. You’re a good niece. Enjoy your day” was literally the only reasonable response one could give.

 

[The Pledge]

I have. The hypocrisy was too much to deal with. I matter more.

 

[Huda2daf]

You probably annoyed with what she says cuz u know she right frfr lol.

Op I wouldn’t cut her off but u should love your mom through it. Her words are annoying but it’s not interfering with your heathen lifestyle.

 

[MMS]

Ooooh yea.
Keep your distance.

So, it seems your mom is using religion as a coping tool. My mom is like that too. It’s like all common sense goes out the window and whatever pastor she encounters/knows is TMH incarnate.

And being negative will affect you too.

I mentioned my mom earlier and she’s so similar!

So, her bro (my Unc) is out of town and he charged me with checking on the house. No biggie.

She called me yesterday to say hi and asked where I was. I said I was at his house.

“Why are you there? Why do you have to do that? Did he ask you to watch the house? No, did he specifically ask YOU or can someone else go there? You don’t need to stress yourself out doing that”!

I’m looking at my phone like “Listen I gotta go” and I hung up.

Psycho shyt. In what world would I be in your BROTHER’s house with all the CODES if he didn’t want me there?

In what world do you not help family when family has gone above and beyond for you and me since forever?

In what world is checking the mail on a Sunday afternoon challenging and stressful?

But if you don’t have a strong mind of your own, you feed into that shyt. A simple: “Hey, it’s nice of you to help out your uncle. You’re a good niece. Enjoy your day” was literally the only reasonable response one could give.

Many folks confuse walking in the spirit with walking with their whims to and fro

... this King Teti's meal is in Nun,
for this King Teti is one who goes to and fro ...

What happens when we borrow other peoples words and mannerisms?

This is why these pastors are unknowingly putting false spirit into people with haughtiness

 

[Hoodoo Child]

"On my skull is 666, no tricks, when I catch fits, my Mom picks up the crucifix!"

But nah, if she's starting to affect your mental health wit it, then yeah you gotta find a way to distance yourself. It don't have to be permanent, just practical.

 

[Conan]

Can’t speak to my mother without her bringing up God, ALWAYS judging my life, watches these African Pentecostal churches 24/7 and all they talk about is devils and hell so ANYTHING I do she has to be negative about. For example, if I’m going to a party, instead of wishing me to enjoy myself she’ll say ‘I had a dream something bad happened, you shouldn’t go. That’s God speaking to me’.

Doesn’t approve of my relationship even though she hasn’t met my girlfriend, just says her ‘spirit’ doesn’t feel her. Wants me to bring her to her pastor as she believes God speaks through her pastor, which I refuse to do.

Typical hypocritical Christian, condemns me for fornicating even though she did the same. Oh but it’s different because she asked for forgiveness.

I could go on, she relies on me financially but I just can’t stand how negative she is because of religion. It’s starting to affect my mental health and how I view her.

1. There is no point in a religion that looks to coerce people to obey through the fear of hell, that defeats the fukking purpose

2. Ask her why God can't speak to you instead of her being the conduit (i know you're Atheist but it's the concept)

3. Similar for your girlfriend. Why the fukk you gotta go to a pastor to "vet" her

4. She's sinning by judging. Especially when she can be condemned by her words. God is big enough to condemn if he feels the need to, he definitely doesn't need human beings (flawed human beings at that) doing the condemning.

You're in the right. I would bet though that religion is a conduit through which she channels her negativity, and she'd be just as insufferable without it.

 

[Justin Nitsuj]

My mother isn't a ultra religious person but she's a believer. I do have other ultra religious relatives that I don't deal with at all because they fake as fukk.

 

[Kuma the Bear]

I wouldn't say you should cut them off but distancing yourself from her might be best. When the time is right, maybe you can have a conversation with her about this issue and tell her what's up.

A lot of African mothers unfortunately have this "mummy's boy" syndrome in which they love to have this sort of hold on their adult sons and it's five times worse when religion is thrown into the mix. They tend to be a bit lenient with the adult daughters.
If the mother was a single mother, they usually use their sons as the "replacement father" in which they are positioned as "man of the house" when they are still the child no matter the age. It's very toxic when you deep it.

I left religion nearly five years ago with no plans to return and while I've never told my mum and dad about it, they wouldn't be tripping about it if they found out. More parents should understand that once a child turns into an adult, they have their free choice and can make their own decisions.

 

[Rekkapryde]

I cut off my grandma who kept telling me I was going to hell because I stopped going to church. I didn’t get anything when she died.

(no pun intended)


At the end of the day, it's God who is the final judge so I don't understand all these people casting judgements on what is going to happen to you. That's not your decision.

And REAL Christians are judgemental like that especially knowing the things they have done. Never trust a holier than thou religious person.