Ancestry DNA Matches from Africa - Are These Questions Ok to Ask Them or Nah?

[xoxodede]

So, I found another African (Nigerian) relative. She's a Lawyer in Lagos, Nigeria.

She wants to chat - so we will see how that goes....

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

So, I found another African (Nigerian) relative. She's a Managing Partner (Lawyer) in Lagos, Nigeria.

She wants to chat - so we will see how that goes....

What ethnicity is this lawyer?

 

[xoxodede]

What ethnicity is this lawyer?

Not sure. Last name is Dosekun.

 

[Black Haven]

So, I found another African (Nigerian) relative. She's a Managing Partner (Lawyer) in Lagos, Nigeria.

She wants to chat - so we will see how that goes....

be nice now Dede lol

 

[xoxodede]

be nice now Dede lol

Of course! I am a sweetheart. Really, I am.

I have no beef or issues with anyone - I just want to connect for my family tree research.

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

Not sure. Last name is Dosekun.

I'm guessing Yoruba. You would be related to afonjas

 

[xoxodede]

I'm guessing Yoruba. You would be related to afonjas

Who is Afonjas?

I doubt it

 

[BigMan]

be nice now Dede lol

its not like her own family sold her

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

Who is Afonjas?

I doubt it

Afonja was a Yoruba general who betrayed the Oyo Empire and allowed the Fulanis to capture the city of Ilorin. His action sped up the disintegration of Oyo and the sale of millions of Yoruba into slavery through the subsequent Yoruba Civil Wars.

When I say ‘afonja’, I’m calling Yorubas cowards but it’s in jest

 

[Black Haven]

Of course! I am a sweetheart. Really, I am.

I have no beef or issues with anyone - I just want to connect for my family tree research.

I know I'm just messin with ya. I hope everything goes well and you both find what you're looking for, good luck.

 

[Deuterion]

What I will say is that don’t assume that just because someone lives on the continent that they know anything. Just like how the average American doesn’t know shyt about the USA is the same with our African brother and sisters. To you, all the different tribes are fascinating because you have had your connection severed but many of them take it for granted since they were born in it so they don’t take the time to explore it. I as a Black American had to learn to stop seeing continental Africans as some beaconof African wisdom...half of them just as deaf and blind as Black Americans.

 

[BigMan]

anybody get an update today?

EDIT: my AncestryDNA estimates changed a lot

 

[Tim Dripcan]

So, I found another African (Nigerian) relative. She's a Lawyer in Lagos, Nigeria.

She wants to chat - so we will see how that goes....

Any updates with your African relative?

 

[xoxodede]

Any updates with your African relative?

She actually never got back to me. But, I have spoken to my distance relative from Ghana from the "Ga" tribe.

I asked: Did you ever hear any family folklore or stories of family being taken, sold or kidnapped into slavery?

He responded: Not really. We hardly talk about such issues because of the pain that Africans is the diaspora went through.

I haven't responded since. I need too - but I just don't understand how they don't talk about their relatives and loved ones that were taken from them. But, oh well....

 

[Tim Dripcan]

She actually never got back to me. But, I have spoken to my distance relative from Ghana from the "Ga" tribe.

I asked: Did you ever hear any family folklore or stories of family being taken, sold or kidnapped into slavery?

He responded: Not really. We hardly talk about such issues because of the pain that Africans is the diaspora went through.

I haven't responded since. I need too - but I just don't understand how they don't talk about their relatives and loved ones that were taken from them. But, oh well....

I can see why you are AA gang all the way. Africans and AA need have an open discussion with each other to clear up the issues we have with each other. We're not going anywhere if we don't sit down and build with each other.

I'll give you props for trying.