So if i decide to go with the whole life insurance option, to replace my idea in the OP, what is the annual fee to manage this equity account? I'm trying to budget as much as possible. or are equity accounts free?
i also wanna have a revocable trust to put a minor on since i know everyone says its not smart to put minors on life insurance policies and to set up a trust
You are conflating several elements here.
Let's separate them out followed by their combination.
You have insurance which is for purposes of risk transference.
You have investing (technically speculation, but I'll cover that another time).
You have estate planning.
You have cash flow and allocation.
A whole life insurance policy can be done for as little as $250 - $350 per month.
The fees on any accounts for investing are determined by the manager of the account or funds.
As to estate planning, an estate planning attorney should be consulted for designing an estate plan that is right for you. You should at least have a will, but you can take it far beyond that such as a living (inter vivos) trust. Beneficiaries are specified in insurance policies.
Cash flow and allocation are critical. This is the keystone of your personal economy. You should always seek to maximize your cash flow and minimize expenses such as taxes as well as consumption. A tax management strategy will be helpful at this juncture.