90 Days: NO Porn or Fap Challenge

[IShotTheSheriff]

blocking sites, counting days, all things that CAN and most likely WILL work against you.

i'm not perfect in terms of this habit, still working on it after years of ignorance of what i was actually doing to myself but... i've seen that simply making the conscious decision to improve yourself in all aspects while enjoying the moment can do wonders.

i attempted to quit smoking, drinking, listening to too much music as well as other media in order to create more of my own and it was just too much to chew at once, you got to take steps towards greatness. i'm only smoke/drink socially anyway so i didn't need to be so hard on myself.

all in all, if it helps you count until the 90 day mark or set a numbered goal and once you reach that just know that you're capable, embrace that confidence boost and make this a lifestyle. don't spill or waste the seed unless you're consciously working on creating a child and you could reach god status.

 

[Saiyajin]

blocking sites, counting days, all things that CAN and most likely WILL work against you.

i'm not perfect in terms of this habit, still working on it after years of ignorance of what i was actually doing to myself but... i've seen that simply making the conscious decision to improve yourself in all aspects while enjoying the moment can do wonders.

i attempted to quit smoking, drinking, listening to too much music as well as other media in order to create more of my own and it was just too much to chew at once, you got to take steps towards greatness. i'm only smoke/drink socially anyway so i didn't need to be so hard on myself.

all in all, if it helps you count until the 90 day mark or set a numbered goal and once you reach that just know that you're capable, embrace that confidence boost and make this a lifestyle. don't spill or waste the seed unless you're consciously working on creating a child and you could reach god status.

all of that is pointless if you dont start meditating

there is no other way to master controlling your desires.

meditation teaches you how to control everything that goes on in your mind

 

[IShotTheSheriff]

all of that is pointless if you dont start meditating

there is no other way to master controlling your desires.

meditation teaches you how to control everything that goes on in your mind

I wouldn't say that at all...

It takes a certain level of discipline to keep the habit of meditation anyway...

If all of what I said was "pointless" without meditation, that implies that if you can't meditate now, there's no way alternative way to build that discipline and you're shyt out of luck.

Everyone chooses their own box of tools brother. Changing my perspective on certain things has been one of my greatest weapons.

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

Respect. Make it a lifestyle breh, so that way you don't feel like your life is over if you slip up, lol. Think long game.

I'm coming up on that 7 month stretch

Definitely not about to get cocky, but I think my brain is rewired. When I get turned on by something my mind tells me to fukk and not beat my meat, so it's not really a struggle at the moment. The sexual energy is there but I don't have the urge to rub it out and get rid of it anymore and that seems like half the battle.

Well, see...I think that's part of breaking the habit.
If you have the option of fukking instead of jerkin off when you feel the urge...then you will become accustomed to that...body and mind.

 

[Dak Pickscott]

I made it the first few days of May and then fell off smh

 

[Dak Pickscott]

I gotta make this thread my home page on all computers

 

[Nymbus]

all of that is pointless if you dont start meditating

there is no other way to master controlling your desires.

meditation teaches you how to control everything that goes on in your mind

Meditation

 

[unit321]

What's the results man, The effects of not fappin?
Day 1 well 8 hours going on strong for me

I don't feel guilty or self-shame, that is a positive. No one is proud of talking about a 3-hour Megabus-like fap session.

 

[Saiyajin]

Meditation

thought meditation was some retarded shyt that only buddhists did

until I learned that its basically practicing the skill of controlling your thought process

I read a book about it called mindsight by siegel

heres how meditation works

for example if you have to take a piss but you cant, you hold it in right? but what exactly does your brain do to hold it in? The feeling of having to take a piss is your bladder sending excitatory signals up to your brain to make you aware that you have to piss and it expects your brain to send the signal back down to release your bladder and piss. But if you cant take a piss atm, your brain instead sends inhibitory signals down to your bladder which cancel out the excitatory signal of needing to take a piss. But eventually your bladder becomes so full that the excitatory signals are just too powerful to inhibit and you piss yourself.

Scientists knew this for a while but recently realized a similar process occurs in your brain when you think or worry. When you worry a part of your brain is sending excitatory signals to the rest of your brain to make you aware of whatever you are worrying about. So the same way we send inhibitory signals down to our bladder, we can inhibit thoughts and urges we dont like through meditation (which is thinking about nothing in other words INHIBITING all signals in your brain)

but heres the problem.

what does every parent do for kids? they potty train them, which is in reality training the brain to develop the INHIBITORY signals (WE ARE NOT born with them!) so they can inhibit their bladder. Babies cant do this, it takes practice.

SAME thing for meditation, we are not born with the ability to inhibit our desires and thoughts. We need to TRAIN ourselves and meditation is the training.

Imma make a thread on this.

 

[Nymbus]

thought meditation was some retarded shyt that only buddhists did

until I learned that its basically practicing the skill of controlling your thought process

I read a book about it called mindsight by siegel

heres how meditation works

for example if you have to take a piss but you cant, you hold it in right? but what exactly does your brain do to hold it in? The feeling of having to take a piss is your bladder sending excitatory signals up to your brain to make you aware that you have to piss and it expects your brain to send the signal back down to release your bladder and piss. But if you cant take a piss atm, your brain instead sends inhibitory signals down to your bladder which cancel out the excitatory signal of needing to take a piss. But eventually your bladder becomes so full that the excitatory signals are just too powerful to inhibit and you piss yourself.

Scientists knew this for a while but recently realized a similar process occurs in your brain when you think or worry. When you worry a part of your brain is sending excitatory signals to the rest of your brain to make you aware of whatever you are worrying about. So the same way we send inhibitory signals down to our bladder, we can inhibit thoughts and urges we dont like through meditation (which is thinking about nothing in other words INHIBITING all signals in your brain)

but heres the problem.

what does every parent do for kids? they potty train them, which is in reality training the brain to develop the INHIBITORY signals (WE ARE NOT born with them!) so they can inhibit their bladder. Babies cant do this, it takes practice.

SAME thing for meditation, we are not born with the ability to inhibit our desires and thoughts. We need to TRAIN ourselves and meditation is the training.

Imma make a thread on this.

This can be applied to so many different things

 

[Saiyajin]

This can be applied to so many different things

exactly

like when you go for a run and you start feeling fatigue, if you close your eyes it feels like you can run more right?

similar concept because when you close your eyes, theres no visual input to your brain which normally needs to be processed, by closing your eyes you allow your brain to devote more power and energy to inhibiting the feeling of fatigue.

I took a bunch of cognitive neuroscience related courses the stuff I learned is CRAZY bruh

 

[Nymbus]

exactly

like when you go for a run and you start feeling fatigue, if you close your eyes it feels like you can run more right?

similar concept because when you close your eyes, theres no visual input to your brain which normally needs to be processed, by closing your eyes you allow your brain to devote more power and energy to inhibiting the feeling of fatigue.

I took a bunch of cognitive neuroscience related courses the stuff I learned is CRAZY bruh

But how do I go about this exactly?
Is it similar to when yiu fantasizing about a bih and you can almost tell what her tittys taste like just by concentrating ?

 

[Saiyajin]

But how do I go about this exactly?
Is it similar to when yiu fantasizing about a bih and you can almost tell what her tittys taste like just by concentrating ?

nah its legit the exact opposite actually

you have to sit in a room close your eyes and think about NOTHING

just focus on breathing only to help guide you because it is a weird concept at first

right away you will start having thoughts and start thinking about random shyt

you need to push those thoughts away and go back to thinking about NOTHING

be the observer of your thoughts

 

[Saiyajin]

I wouldn't say that at all...

It takes a certain level of discipline to keep the habit of meditation anyway...

If all of what I said was "pointless" without meditation, that implies that if you can't meditate now, there's no way alternative way to build that discipline and you're shyt out of luck.

Everyone chooses their own box of tools brother. Changing my perspective on certain things has been one of my greatest weapons.

my bad I phrased it too harshly/ wrong

i meant the success and positive feelings we feel when we do nofap for a long time and are able to resist our urges, is a small taste of what meditation can provide.

i shouldnt have said pointless IDK why i said that. I meant if you are doing nofap, there's no reason not to also meditate to Maximize your potential and increase your discipline and self control

i personally believe without meditation, nofap becomes 100x harder because we are unprepared to deal with our desires, something meditation trains us to do.


please check out this thread I made http://www.thecoli.com/threads/ever...asap-i-will-explain-why.428883/#post-19204696

i hope itll clear up what i meant

 

[IShotTheSheriff]

my bad I phrased it too harshly/ wrong

i meant the success and positive feelings we feel when we do nofap for a long time and are able to resist our urges, is a small taste of what meditation can provide.

i shouldnt have said pointless IDK why i said that. I meant if you are doing nofap, there's no reason not to also meditate to Maximize your potential and increase your discipline and self control

i personally believe without meditation, nofap becomes 100x harder because we are unprepared to deal with our desires, something meditation trains us to do.


please check out this thread I made http://www.thecoli.com/threads/ever...asap-i-will-explain-why.428883/#post-19204696

i hope itll clear up what i meant

100% clear now brother.

the fire (sexual energy) that accumulates by abstaining from orgasms/porn usage can be too much to bare without proper breath control, meditation, and direction. we're on the same page my dude.