45% Of Women Are Expected To Be Single And Childless By 2030

[MikelArteta]

facts all around. what i will say now is THIS

We are all grown, we all have internet and even therapy access. Are we gonna continue to make the same mistakes or are we going to continue to carry the baggage and act a fool. As a man who grew up in a 2 parent home it is CRAZY FRUSTRATING when you try to show a woman what's really good when it comes to these relationships and they simply wont trust you, wont let you lead, wont cooperate etc. It seems damn near impossible to meet a woman who comes from a stable 2 parent household and understands these things...the importance of communication, conflict resolution, respect, trust etc.

its a mess and instead of righting the ship we are perpetuating it by having more children out of wedlock, getting into more situationships, and ultimately placing no value on the blueprint we should all know at this point

This is why it's better to marry and date women from two parent households.

Every girl I've ever dated who didn't have a father in their life just couldn't handle a functional relationship. It seemed they liked dysfunction, could not work through quarrels etc. everything could be going well and they'd just try and start something

Broken women who need therapy

Not every day is going to be exciting, not every day is going to be good.

 

[MikelArteta]

Do you think my two African parents talked to my sister lol? It’s not really that necessary…my mom is even my sisters step mom. At best my parents just led by example

It’s more of a cultural/values matter than anything. A lot of black women just see men as a financial tool and nothing else. Thats where this soft life bs comes from

It's what you see as well.. I've seen my parents right, sleep in seperate rooms sometimes, dad silent treatment to mom etc. etc. but they worked though that all and still together over 40 years

These chicks ain't battle tested, all they know is r&b songs, reality shows, and their own terrible relationship history.

 

[skyrunner1]

it's really only women who do this shyt

its a big part of the reason why the black community's neck remains under the foot of society. women are very impressionable and ultimately drive/influence most decision making within a community. the "powers" exploit this impressionability to cause divide and destruction within the black community. you wont hear another race of women consistently say they dont need men. but for us it has become common place because of how matriarchal our community is.

one day women are "corporate girlies" / "boss bytches" who wont settle for a man that doesnt make >50% more than they do and take care of em etc.
then its, "i am in my soft girl era" and expect a man (or sugar daddy) to take care of me because cardi b, yung miami and sza told me thats what i deserve

what ends up happening is that all these women waste time and men psyche themselves out of messing with them due to the delusion and expectations

meanwhile, in other races there is a larger proportion of women who are doctors, finance professionals, lawyers, teachers etc. married to other successful men and currently on their mat leave as we speak. why? because they were grounded and followed the blueprint laid out for them while our women were out here wasting their best years following social media trends and shyt they see on reality TV. shyt is a fukkin joke

Yea that soft girl era is something I see more from the under 30 crowd now and it lowkey seem like its basically gonna put women on assembly line for pro work by another name..

 

[Geek Nasty]

The only reason we don't have negative population growth is illegal immigration

 

[Bigblackted4]

I was gone say this is how countries die

 

[MikelArteta]

Yea that soft girl era is something I see more from the under 30 crowd now and it lowkey seem like its basically gonna put women on assembly line for pro work by another name..

Alot of women want the finished product as well. And they be acting like Taraji Henson in that Tyler Perry movie when another woman reapz

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

facts all around. what i will say now is THIS

We are all grown, we all have internet and even therapy access. Are we gonna continue to make the same mistakes or are we going to continue to carry the baggage and act a fool. As a man who grew up in a 2 parent home it is CRAZY FRUSTRATING when you try to show a woman what's really good when it comes to these relationships and they simply wont trust you, wont let you lead, wont cooperate etc. It seems damn near impossible to meet a woman who comes from a stable 2 parent household and understands these things...the importance of communication, conflict resolution, respect, trust etc.

its a mess and instead of righting the ship we are perpetuating it by having more children out of wedlock, getting into more situationships, and ultimately placing no value on the blueprint we should all know at this point

You can’t expect a woman to let you lead, when she’s working full time, and paying half the bills. This system worked back in the day, because our grandmothers stayed home.

 

[Gloxina]

facts all around. what i will say now is THIS

We are all grown, we all have internet and even therapy access. Are we gonna continue to make the same mistakes or are we going to continue to carry the baggage and act a fool. As a man who grew up in a 2 parent home it is CRAZY FRUSTRATING when you try to show a woman what's really good when it comes to these relationships and they simply wont trust you, wont let you lead, wont cooperate etc. It seems damn near impossible to meet a woman who comes from a stable 2 parent household and understands these things...the importance of communication, conflict resolution, respect, trust etc.

its a mess and instead of righting the ship we are perpetuating it by having more children out of wedlock, getting into more situationships, and ultimately placing no value on the blueprint we should all know at this point

No- that’s why older women are having the conversation online NOW with younger women.


Dawg, I’m a woman. I’m telling you what it is. Millennials got FUKKED by this programming.

That’s women who are late 20s to early 40s.
So either we just got out the fog by 40 or we’re lucky enough to get the message mid 20s to mid 30s the latest and have a chance to figure it out.

That’s why covid shook everything up. Everyone said “hold up, this shyt they told us to pursue is pointless”.

I said it here in my own family. I have a relative who is a doctor and was lamenting the fact that she listened to her parents, pushed to become a doctor, but she’s unmarried with no kids. This is some real shyt girls were taught. If you weren’t taught the importance of relationships and how to find/maintain one…

Younger girls are getting the message now.


The ones who aren’t getting it now will probably still catch it by late 20s.

Social media flipped everything that was happening in our community- in some bad ways, definitely, but this conversation was NOT HAPPENING in most Black households.


You even had chicks getting on social media saying they didn’t understand the babymomma stigma because no one around them was married and it was expected that men had kids with different women. I mean, that’s sad but there are a lot of hoods like that.
What are the young pretty girls supposed to do when that’s all they know?

The difference with men is, you can learn better @30, become a new man and find a younger woman who learned the game. Ultimately, it’s a man’s world. If women don’t learn quickly enough…. That’s the truth of the matter.

 

[Gloxina]

Alot of women want the finished product as well. And they be acting like Taraji Henson in that Tyler Perry movie when another woman reapz

Well the thing is, Taraji’s character didn’t want the finished project. She was down 95% of the time.

Her issue was she should’ve left him alone and found another guy. Lol

The other girl was in the right place at the right time, AFTER Taraji game him what he needed to be in position

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

Alot of women want the finished product as well. And they be acting like Taraji Henson in that Tyler Perry movie when another woman reapz

I think this depends on the circumstances. A woman being with you through medical school, and waiting until you start making money is one thing. But everybody knows some guys who have a business idea, and asked their girlfriend for investment money, or to put a car in her name. Those men tend to either never make anything of themselves, or leave once they start making money, because they have more options. I’ve seen this in my own family.

An attractive woman in her 20s can pull a man around 35 who is still in shape, and is already making money, and can provide.

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

It's what you see as well.. I've seen my parents right, sleep in seperate rooms sometimes, dad silent treatment to mom etc. etc. but they worked though that all and still together over 40 years

These chicks ain't battle tested, all they know is r&b songs, reality shows, and their own terrible relationship history.

Do you realize this will significantly limit your options when it comes to black women?

 

[Ohene]

It's what you see as well.. I've seen my parents right, sleep in seperate rooms sometimes, dad silent treatment to mom etc. etc. but they worked though that all and still together over 40 years

These chicks ain't battle tested, all they know is r&b songs, reality shows, and their own terrible relationship history.

That’s it

When you see it you understand it and know it’s possible.

No- that’s why older women are having the conversation online NOW with younger women.


Dawg, I’m a woman. I’m telling you what it is. Millennials got FUKKED by this programming.

That’s women who are late 20s to early 40s.
So either we just got out the fog by 40 or we’re lucky enough to get the message mid 20s to mid 30s the latest and have a chance to figure it out.

That’s why covid shook everything up. Everyone said “hold up, this shyt they told us to pursue is pointless”.

I said it here in my own family. I have a relative who is a doctor and was lamenting the fact that she listened to her parents, pushed to become a doctor, but she’s unmarried with no kids. This is some real shyt girls were taught. If you weren’t taught the importance of relationships and how to find/maintain one…

Younger girls are getting the message now.


The ones who aren’t getting it now will probably still catch it by late 20s.

Social media flipped everything that was happening in our community- in some bad ways, definitely, but this conversation was NOT HAPPENING in most Black households.


You even had chicks getting on social media saying they didn’t understand the babymomma stigma because no one around them was married and it was expected that men had kids with different women. I mean, that’s sad but there are a lot of hoods like that.
What are the young pretty girls supposed to do when that’s all they know?

The difference with men is, you can learn better @30, become a new man and find a younger woman who learned the game. Ultimately, it’s a man’s world. If women don’t learn quickly enough…. That’s the truth of the matter.

i hear you but my point is this i think

1. Why are only black women being taught to be power/career driven and not to pursue a man as well? Ask yourself that. I know other races of ppl who are very educated and successful and are on their mat leave or pregnant and married as we speak.

2. You shouldn’t have to consciously be taught the opposite - to find a man. Perhaps you just need an example in front of you and your natural want for companionship and attraction to the opposite sex should drive you to find that.

3. Why can’t you do both. If i was a female doctor (or male) i would have gotten close with another med student. We would have grinded together and built a future with shared experiences together. This is common for otther races…ppl often find their partner doing their mba or in school. Why is it so foreign for us? Why are we teaching or programming black women to do the opposite and why are they so susceptible to it. It goes back to my first post you quoted lol

 

[Ohene]

I said it in a previous thread

The problem is exacerbated because at least women are usually present in he kids life. As a result you have black men who value, perhaps even OVERVALUE women because they were raised by a single mom. But when you have women who were raised by a single mom it leads an inflated ego and the idea you dont need a man

As a result men are considered useless and women are considered Goddesses or some shyt.

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

Men’s hoe phases start usually when they get their shyts together so they see the difference and shallowness of girls who passed up Steve Urkel for Stephon Urkel

Breh, we’re not doing this today. You would not want your daughter around a boy who does stuff like this. Nobody would think this is romantic.



Nerds are annoying. And why did he like Laura? He liked her because he thought she was pretty. She was rude to him all the time. So he’s just as shallow, just like all the other nerds, and ugly gang who aim for the most attractive women, and feel entitled to them. You don’t fall in love with qualities. There’s just something that draws you to a person. If it’s not there, it’s not there, no matter how nice they are, or how many good qualities they have.

 

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