I'll look past the obvious shot at the flabbyhead passport bro
But people always tell Men to look at the Man in the mirror and they're correct.
I'll admit there's a Male wall and the auntie class know that a 40 plus dude who has never been married is probably not the marrying kind
But again imagine how it would sound if a dude used an egg donor or surrogate *even though gay dudes do it all the time* even the IVF queens never acknowledge how weird it is to not be able to give it away
The closest that Eboni came to accountability is admitting that her lifestyle is off putting to most Men.
It’s not just men that need to look in the mirror. And women are especially called to the carpet when they’re called hoes, ran through, old, out of their prime, unwanted single mothers, fat, bad attitudes, etc. But none of this is race or gender specific. There’s an entire online culture of people in their 30s-40s complaining about dating and bashing the other gender. So if everyone is fed up and tired then it’s obviously something within the culture of dating that everyone is contributing to.
My theory is that people are staying in the dating game too long and get too jaded for relationships on both sides. When a 35 year old woman complains about not being able to get a man the first thought is that she’s too old, her standards are too high, and her pickings will be slimmer. It’s exactly the same for men.
Especially for Black people because we’re a smaller community. We’re all in an interconnected system and a small portion of the population. So if 50-65% of Black men or women aren’t interested in settling down before age 30, it causes difficulty for the entire dating pool. Because everyone else has a high probability of meeting someone who isn’t serious. Plus you have to factor in compatibility. That leads to our community getting married later and having more kids out of wedlock.
And to address your last point, women have the biological advantage of physically having children. So if they want kids all they have to do is have sex and men won’t say no. Or they can do IVF if they money and avoid coparenting issues if they don’t want to deal with a man at all. It’s weird, but for most women, if you have resources for IVF you’re probably doing better than most of our community. So I won’t waste time worrying about Eboni Williams’ kid when there’s children who aren’t even eating lunch during the summer.
Most men aren’t trying to raise children alone either. If you’re advocating for a cultural reset, that starts more so with people in their early 20s. But you have 40 year olds still chasing behind 25 year olds and still playing the same games that they’ve been playing for 20 years. And judging everyone else at the same time.
