At what point does the fact that black women significantly outnumber black men in this country taken into account? And out of those available black men, many of them in their prime have no desire to settle down with one woman. If every single black woman of marrying age did what you guys are saying, there would still be a large number of them shyt out of luck.
I got a little time today so I'll bite. The whole "black women outnumber black men" narrative is completely overblown when it comes to dating and marriage.
If you go to google and type in "black male population in us" you'll get 19.9 million (they're pulling from census data btw). And before you talk about the black men that are in jail, I'll adjust for those numbers. The total prison population for all races combined in late 2020 was about 1.8 million (
source). The percentage of the male prison population that's black varies depending on your sources, but let's say it's about 38% (
source). 38% of 1.8 mil is 684k black men in jail. So subtract 684k from the previous 19.9 million and you have 19.2 million free available black men.
The black female population in the US is about 21.72 million. So overall black women outnumber free black men by ~ 2.5 million. 2.5 mil/21.72 mil = 11.6%. So 11.6% of black women aren't finding a man if every single black woman is wifed up. We'll round it up and say 12 out of every 100 black women won't have a man, it's not like that's some insane number. 88% of black women still being able to find a marriage is pretty damn high. And more importantly, that would be more than double the current black female marriage rate.
For comparison, there are 9.416 million asian women and 8.514 asian men, about a 900k difference. 900k/9.416 million = 0.0955 = 9.5%. So basically around 10 out of 100 asian women wouldn't have a man if they all got married to one another. so 10 out of 100 vs 12 out of 100 for asian and black women respectively, that's not a very significant difference. But yet, ~60% of asian women 16 and older are married whereas ~30% of black women 16 and older are married (
source, check the graph labeled "percentage of women currently married"). So look at what we're seeing here. Asian women and black women are damn near even in terms of outnumbering their men, but yet black women are still married at essentially
HALF the rate asian women are married.
That alone is enough evidence to prove that "outnumbering" their men is NOT the reason so many black women are out here unmarried. We gotta stop with this "not enough black men" false narrative.
And lastly, in regards to the whole black men don't want to settle down, bruh, you do realize black women are basically the creators of the whole strong independent woman that doesn't need a man mantra right? Black women have been running with that for years. I won't for a second sit here and act like all these brothers are marriage minded and/or marriage material, and in turn all I ask is you please do not sit here and act like all these sisters are marriage minded and/or marriage material either, it cuts both ways.
So bottomline, "there ain't enough black men" is a weak narrative that doesn't at all explain why black marriage rates are so low, and there are plenty of black women out here who move like settling down clearly isn't a priority for them as well (until they start hitting those 30s that is....
).
If anything what Coli brehs have been advocating is for women to take relationships in their 20s/early 30s more seriously and start families with quality men. Don't be having kids with multiple ain't shyt dudes, and don't wait until your late 30s to start taking relationships seriously when you had suitors 10 years earlier. It's not rocket science.
one of those girls who was always cute even as a teen but is just now growing into her woman look at 23/24. Definitely an L on my behalf, she just graduated nursing school.
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