30+ Brehs… What’s up with these old chicks wanting babies?

[Shadow King]

I didn’t tell anyone what age to have kids. I started my career and I had both of my kids before 30.

of course you resort to the sexist bullshyt when you’re wrong about what I’m saying, I never gave any age for when anyone should have children but I’m just moving on with this, life clearly works out the same way for everyone in your world so if you say women should never have kids after 30 or else they’re trying to be men then you got it. Why do you want to keep going?

I want to keep going because you're making assumptions about me because I'm not going to agree with you that women can do whatever the fukk they want with no time-sensitive consequence of sacrifice. I'm resorting to sexism because you gave me a reason to by doing that instead of looking at what I said, and I'm going to show you again what I said.

I'm not having daughters, or sons. But I would tell this Earth-2 daughter that if she wants to "have it all", then it's best for her to find the young breh studying law/medicine/banking like she is in her college years and build the way most people in high socioeconomic circles do, you're equally yoked then, you'll be equally yoked by 27/28 when y'all lock it down, and you'll be equally yoked by 30-33 when you choose to actively conceive children, whether or not she re-enters the workforce is on them.

Instead of waiting till she's 32 when her male peers are married at childrearing workshops with the woman who did what I just said, or finally enjoying his status as a high earner bachelor and not moving on her timeline.

We don't want women to only want husbands and children. Y'all just want to be us and be you at the same time in a couple different ways and it often doesn't work as planned. You can have a career, just understand things are not the same for you. There's things that don't fall in men's favor either in this world and it is what it is.

 

[EARFQUAKE]

Excuses man. All of those problems you named are going to be even worse if the woman is deep in her 30s compared to being 23, 24, 25. Yall got alot of excuses.

Excuses? How about a thing called "circumstances of life"? This is starting to sound like a "pull yourself by your bootstraps" thread.

Out.

 

[GodinDaFlesh]

A lot of nerves were touched in this thread

 

[Deep_Black_Conscious]

The whole premise of this thread is weird as fukk. Having kids too soon is what holds a lot of people back in life and keeps folks stuck in the cycle of poverty.

How come every other month we have a thread on here about how the majority of Americans would be financially devastated by a $500 emergency expense, yet some of you are acting like you can't imagine why a woman would choose to put off having kids??



You act like there's an overabundance of 27-28yr old "dependable" men who want to get married at that age.

Matter of fact, what does "dependable" even mean in this scenario? How many 27/28yr old nikkas you know are marriage minded like that? And even then, how many of them are making enough $$ to fully financially support a wife and kid(s)? And trust that I mean providing 100% of the household income cause you not doing no 50/50 rent splitting and going half on a baby with 22yr old chick.

It's pretty wild that you'd say some shyt like this when every day I logon to thecolidotcom and see a thousand and one #GMB threads and comments.



Hmm yes excellent question. Why is it that other races seem to have it easier when it comes to so many things? It's quite the mystery!

why does life end at 30 on the coli?

 

[Ozymandeas]

Hmm yes excellent question. Why is it that other races seem to have it easier when it comes to so many things? It's quite the mystery!

Stop it. Black people can fukk and have 5 kids out of wedlock but they can’t get married? Because of racism? Y’all really dumb in here. Mexican immigrants out here picking fruit for a job and they married. Nikkas got excuses for everything. Want to get three different women pregnant but buying a ring is out of question. Nikka stop it.

 

[Shadow King]

Dude that doesn't have kids and doesn't plan on having kids giving advice to women about how and when they should have kids

Thecoli.com

Oh you mean @Shadow King ?
Could've used the @

 

[LiveFromLondon]

I forgot how racist / c00nish this place can be.

Also Dont forget how childish it can be when people start name calling and throwing ad hominems when people don't agree with them

 

[KingJay]

It’s irresponsible if we’re keeping it 100
The rate of the child having birth defects goes up exponentially with the age of the mother

 

[Rell Lauren]

You answered your own question. They wasted their time fukking around in their 20s and early 30s. Time began ticking and they're running out of time. Before I deleted Bumble, I saw a number of women in their late 30s and 40s talking about they want kids someday. They've gotta give that dream up and move on. It's over.

 

[Taadow]

Should anyone build a life around someone just because they are dependable? Is that all there is?

Um...YEAH, STUPID - you build chit with people and things that are dependable!

You know what happens then?
You grow to love them!









duhhh

 

[Kasgoinjail]

18 or 35



As long as the child is properly nurtured and taken care of

 

[ThirdAct]

Man I had a girl on a first date start talking about wanting to have kids out of nowhere once. Her face dropped when I told her I didn't want any kids lmao. It's not even that I don't want kids, but I'm not gonna buy the fukking car before I get a test drive.

 

[spliz]

Let’s get this out the way I NEVER said men and women were the same and I NEVER thought that. smfh. And I don’t want to be damn man WTF

You guys are giving specific ages as if life works like that, Relationships end, men leave, men cheat, men die maybe in your world nothing bad happens and people can plan exact ages and times they get married and have kids but sometimes things happen and you end up in a new relationship at 32 and get pregnant that doesn’t mean you want to be a man. Smfh

idk how old you are but life isn’t just cut and dry sometimes you don’t find the right person until you’re older or you don’t know if you want kids and then you get older and realize you do and if you can have them, have them. and the way you’re talking you DO want women to only to want kids and a husband because you CLEARLY think that a woman also wanting a career means she wants to be a man.

This is the shyt I’m saying. A woman can have endometriosis trying to have kids since 28 and the shyt don’t happen till bout 34. shyt def ain’t cut and dry.

 

[Mr. Jack Napier]

Also wanted to add this...

according to the Coli: Women who have kids early are irresponsible hoes Women who wait until their 30s are washed up losers.

So which is it fellas, lol

 

[InkosiYe]

Also wanted to add this...

according to the Coli: Women who have kids early are irresponsible hoes Women who wait until their 30s are washed up losers.

So which is it fellas, lol

“A straw man is a form of argument and an informal fallacy of having the impression of refuting an argument, whereas the real subject of the argument was not addressed or refuted, but instead replaced with a false one. One who engages in this fallacy is said to be ‘attacking a straw man’”


I don’t think I’ve seen anybody arguing that a woman who had a kid after marriage in their 20’s is an “irresponsible hoe”. Anybody that would actually think that way is a complete moron.


Can you show me some specific examples of that type of rhetoric in this thread?