Hmmm...I just watched this YouTube video kinda sorta about this topic.
I think with most black men and women have kinda been pitted against each.
Society tells black women they are strong and independent... what do you need a man for? Black men see this and go so she says that she doesn't need me so why even bother trying to help.
People are trying to make black women seem more masculine and black men the latter when they want to step up and help.
I believe the ass hats on the coli call it simping. I call it treating a lady with respect. As long as she is giving it... I don't see the problem in helping.
Marriage is about give and take and most people wanna take and never give. Being open , vulnerable, accepting, loving, etc etc gets you a spouse... Not singing lil webbie. Women don't wanna be submissive. Being submissive doesn't mean you have to be a slave... But letting a man direct the path his family should go provided that it is the right path.
Men should allow his girl/wife to have a voice as well. Don't just say I'm the man and I know what is right. You'll just be pushing her away and to that I can do bad all by myself mentality.
As soon as black men and women realize they should be uplifting and not tearing down.... You'll see more black love out here winning.