"You find him Attractive..but his NICENESS...BORES YOU"- Female Spoken Word artist

[StickStickly]

Females interpret "nice" as boring. I learned this the hard way. Used to treat girls like how they said they wanted to be treated; princesses. Got burned one too many times. Then I eventually jus started treating them basically like trash. I get much better results now. It's not that I want to, but it's what works

tell me what you were doing? how do you mean you "treated them like trash?".

the problem with treating women like princesses is you put them on a pedestal that they are bound to fall off of because they are human, not princesses, not dolls. they have faults, differences in moods, different life experiences, if they are young they can be fickle. they fukk up, act like a person, and fall off the pedestal and all of a sudden "all women are demons". no, they're people. you're a person. the problem is these "nice guys" want angelic fukk dolls and don't want to accept that the "thing" on the other end of the phone line is a complex being. a man who wants a princess is a man who wants a fairy tale. the moment your crush has diarrhea or a bad day or whatever, she becomes "less perfect", then men act funny . this is why women don't want men for fawn over them- it feels fake. you don't see them- you see what you want to see.

treat a woman like a human being who matters, not a fairy tale.

 

[Terrance Curtis Beasley]

This is what they want

 

[Cool Dr. Money]

Alot of "nice guys" get frustrated with women because they bought into the belief that being an exceptionally polite and "well-mannered gentleman" would be his primary key to romantic and sexual success with women, but found out hat over the years, that belief has caused him nothing but romantic and sexual frustration. A "bad boy" is bold and unapologetic he doesn't care about being liked or pleasing anyone

 

[DontDoIt]

This is what they want

 

[Trapperman Dave]

thugs have no substance. plus i can't stand how they love destroying people and their community. they're idiots. i can't be around people like that for long periods of time without feeling extreme frustration. when i was younger my older brother tried that shyt and it almost destroyed our family. he was smart and headed places but did that to fit in. now that he's older he's grown out of it.

anyway one of my first crushes was on a classmate who said "pardon?" instead of "what?" "or "huh?" when he didn't hear what was said. he was short and skinny, but facially attractive. i wasn't the only girl in the school with a crush on him either.

I meant thats a reference to the kenttv he's like 5'2 always says he's a nice guy and women only want thugs because they won't date him, but i digress. And skinny cats always have girls that like them took me awhile to understand that

 

[Abstract83]

Just because you don't, doesn't mean men don't do it.

The point is people of both genders have this mindset. They may not always go after females who do not want them but when dating, men go after the women they want and court the woman in hopes that they will want them back.

Both sexes want what they can't have. The nice guy just wants a beautiful woman. He would by pass her attitude. And do anything to have her near him. She would do the same for the man that's too busy, unattainable, got options. I just think most women are secretly attracted to a man with options. Both of them want what they can't have. Instead of looking for a respectful loveable soulmate they find out the hard way. Which leads to our race still hating each other.

Edit: I've been that nice guy for yrs. Once i found that one that treated me good I put my all into it. Shyt isn't easy to find.

 

[Wild self]

I'm sick of this nice guy shyt to be honest.

Nice guys are boring. You know why they're boring? Because often, niceness is all they bring to the table when you deep it. I'd go as far as to say that if there's anything a woman doesn't like about a nice guy, it's certainly not his niceness - that's probably one of the things she actually likes about that guy.

What exactly is the nice guy's character? Is he intelligent? Witty? Charismatic? Passionate? Is there anything else about that guy that is remotely interesting? Is he confident? What does he consider his purpose?

This is one of the problems I find. Women are searching for a multidimensional man in a sea of 1-dimensional men. It's either black or white (not literally). The bad boy persona or the average good guy.

I used to be on that nice guy shyt - when I was like 20-21. Then I grew up and stopped being a fukking prick and realized I actually have a personality and a character that I need to cultivate. A lot of these nice guys instead of blaming women's "choices" could just do that instead of bemoaning how their niceness is stopping them succeeding with "bytches who only wanna date thugs" when it's the fact that their fukking boring and feel entitled to p*ssy because they're nice

Another thing. A lot of dudes overdo the niceness and end up not knowing what they want and just appeasing others. That's not particularly very attractive either. Women will think you are weak and lack a spine. I've been very guilty of that in the past too so I know by experience.

True, but they can't get angry when they get ditched in the dirt when they get old. shyt, I make women and tease them all the time, but they can't complain about the dudes who pass em up.

 

[SPACE IS FAKE]

This is what they want

HEEL

 

[Wild self]

This is what they want

Dime piece chick's with tatted up brehs that talk shyt to her on a dog leech...sounds about right

 

[QueenSheba]

@ChocolateQueen

What?

 

[jwonder]

Both sexes want what they can't have. The nice guy just wants a beautiful woman. He would by pass her attitude. And do anything to have her near him. She would do the same for the man that's too busy, unattainable, got options. I just think most women are secretly attracted to a man with options. Both of them want what they can't have. Instead of looking for a respectful loveable soulmate they find out the hard way. Which leads to our race still hating each other.

Edit: I've been that nice guy for yrs. Once i found that one that treated me good I put my all into it. Shyt isn't easy to find.

Americans have dating wrong. Traveling to different countries. They don't have the stupid idiosyncrasies we do.

 

[Lo-Co]

The issue with a lot of truly nice guys is their selection in women. They have a lot of trash to weave through and avoid. For men who are kind, caring. loyal and want to treat women well they need to go after women who appreciate these qualities.

Some of these nice men are the types that are introverted, stays at home a lot, watches movies, watches sports, plays video games etc... yet they want women who go out every chance they get and are outgoing. That's why they get bored. There's not enough true compatibility.

These dudes who are struggling should understand that they can still find attractive and nice women that like their qualities and no these women don't have to look fat or goofy looking. The options aren't act like an a$$hole to women to have success or settle for a goofy looking chick if they want women. This only applies to guys who are truly nice dudes and aren't hiding behind a label to excuse their issues with women though.

honestly im just an awkward hesitant guy when it comes to women. ive approached a couple times but i suck at it at the moment. and theres nothing wrong with that i feel. im just used to being by myself, and thats something that i can always change. i know offer something to someone that will appreciate it.

 

[Abstract83]

Americans have dating wrong. Traveling to different countries. They don't have the stupid idiosyncrasies we do.

Why u think my chick is from switz? No pawg.

 

[Lo-Co]

I'm sick of this nice guy shyt to be honest.

Nice guys are boring. You know why they're boring? Because often, niceness is all they bring to the table when you deep it. I'd go as far as to say that if there's anything a woman doesn't like about a nice guy, it's certainly not his niceness - that's probably one of the things she actually likes about that guy.

What exactly is the nice guy's character? Is he intelligent? Witty? Charismatic? Passionate? Is there anything else about that guy that is remotely interesting? Is he confident? What does he consider his purpose?

This is one of the problems I find. Women are searching for a multidimensional man in a sea of 1-dimensional men. It's either black or white (not literally). The bad boy persona or the average good guy.

I used to be on that nice guy shyt - when I was like 20-21. Then I grew up and stopped being a fukking prick and realized I actually have a personality and a character that I need to cultivate. A lot of these nice guys instead of blaming women's "choices" could just do that instead of bemoaning how their niceness is stopping them succeeding with "bytches who only wanna date thugs" when it's the fact that their fukking boring and feel entitled to p*ssy because they're nice

Another thing. A lot of dudes overdo the niceness and end up not knowing what they want and just appeasing others. That's not particularly very attractive either. Women will think you are weak and lack a spine. I've been very guilty of that in the past too so I know by experience.

i used to overdo the niceness to cover up the fact that i was so awkward. and being awkward made me come off as boring when in real life im far from it when im comfortable enough. i just need to learn how not to fear showing my true self.

 

[philmonroe]

Alot of "nice guys" get frustrated with women because they bought into the belief that being an exceptionally polite and "well-mannered gentleman" would be his primary key to romantic and sexual success with women, but found out hat over the years, that belief has caused him nothing but romantic and sexual frustration. A "bad boy" is bold and unapologetic he doesn't care about being liked or pleasing anyone

I don't know why anyone would buy into that shyt regarding "nice guys""Folks just like to play stupid and or like kissing other people ass. Who likes somebody that's too nice for no fukking reason? Nobody cause the person doing it usually looking for something in return like most sales people that have to be nice. That's how self proclaimed "nice" guys come off to people like a fukking annoying sellsman.

honestly im just an awkward hesitant guy when it comes to women. ive approached a couple times but i suck at it at the moment. and theres nothing wrong with that i feel. im just used to being by myself, and thats something that i can always change. i know offer something to someone that will appreciate it.

If you're awkward chances are you have something you subconsciously know you're lacking fam. Most people that I've run into that are awkward, shy, hesitant, and all them types of things around girls usually missing something and they know it. That's why they awkward in the first place. Its always exceptions but that's usually the case. Its something wrong with that and don't lie to yourself and say it isn't. Anytime you can't be who you can be with your friends and family that's a problem that will hold you back IMO not just in dating but life in general.