Y’all should be concerned about single men. Not single women.

[JQ Legend]

Do you believe ANY of the goofy threads on women on these sites are out of genuine concern?
And I didn’t deflected. I wanted to know why you were defensively assuming that anybody who levels critique of the institution of marriage means they wanna call it off altogether. It’s like you can’t fathom the idea that maybe people want companionship but without the unnecessary bullshyt that goes with it. Furthermore, stop making general exchanges about me or any poster in particular personal. This isn’t about me. This is about some men literally being triggered whenever the spotlight is drawn to their own issues while they worrying about women.

Yet another deflection avoiding answering the question or better yet answering the question with another question. But even by doing that you indirectly answered it with a “no”. You know damn well she didn’t make this thread out of Love or concern, it was a bitter deflection from the original.

But unlike you, I will actually answer your question.

No I don’t think dudes make women bashing posts/threads out of concern. The different is they don’t pretend it’s out of concern. When do dudes on here ever make threads bashing women pretending it’s out of Love?

When dudes bash women they at least be up front about their intentions. Dudes don’t bash women and pretend it’s because they care like OP is doing.

And you didn’t simply “criticize the institution of marriage” which actually would be ok. You flat out said having a husband is an inconvenience, and wives tend to end up miserable. So I asked why do u still want a husband. Which is a legit question anyone would ask, why would you want something you speak so unfavorably of? How is that being defensive? You do this a lot, get defensive then accuse others of being defensive. Deflect while accusing others of deflecting. Avoid and/or answer questions with questions when honestly answering “yes” or “no” invalidates everything you said prior.

 

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At least you're telling the truth about this. Most modern single women just want to play this role

I think most modern single women do still want happy, positive, healthy companionship. But that’s at odds with a lot of traditional relationships. Women want sexual satisfaction in marriage whereas like 80% of wives in previous generations reported not even having an orgasm. They are unwilling to put up with being cheated on, whereas some men feel they are entitled to multiple women regardless if they made monogamous vows or not. If they are working full time jobs just like the men are, they expect men to put in just as much work around the house and care for the kids too. Meanwhile some dudes still feel like that’s primarily women’s responsibilities.

Women want the companionship if it’s happy and healthy. Otherwise, they don’t wanna be bothered. And as single women, they can get the companionship when they want it, and not have to deal with the other stuff. None of this means a lotta women themselves aren’t problematic. It’s just addressing the fact that being a single woman in today’s world isn’t the death sentence some dudes like to make it seem. shyt, in some cases it can be a blessing.
Doesn’t mean that love/good healthy relationships arent wonderful. Just means being single, making enough money to live well and waking up without being bothered or responsible for somebody else as a woman can be awesome too…

 

[Stir Fry]

You got pics or nah?

Yeah, DM me.

 

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Yet another deflection avoiding answering the question or better yet answering the question with another question. But even by doing that you indirectly answered it with a “no”. You know damn well she didn’t make this thread out of Love or concern, it was a bitter deflection from the original.

But unlike you, I will actually answer your question.

No I don’t think dudes make women bashing posts/threads out of concern. The different is they don’t pretend it’s out of concern. When do dudes on here ever make threads bashing women pretending it’s out of Love?

When dudes bash women they at least be up front about their intentions. Dudes don’t bash women and pretend it’s because they care like OP is doing.

And you didn’t simply “criticize the institution of marriage” which actually would be ok. You flat out said having a husband is an inconvenience, and wives tend to end up miserable. So I asked why do u still want a husband. Which is a legit question anyone would ask, why would you want something you speak so unfavorably of? How is that being defensive? You do this a lot, get defensive then accuse others of being defensive. Deflect while accusing others of deflecting. Avoid and/or answer questions with questions when honestly answering “yes” or “no” invalidates everything you said prior.

Nope not deflecting. I answered your attempt to try and make this personally about me and other female posters by letting you know that this isn’t about us. Just general trends in what the surveys, studies and data have indicated. But I also let u know that what a lotta of those women have expressed resonated with my own beliefs.


You seem perturbed by the underlying reasons some women have for trying to delay or forgo marriage. And you petulantly asked why even want marriage if women think it makes them miserable? My answer to you is that women want human companionship, but not the toxic components that came with some traditional set ups. Namely the loss of identity, being full-time caretakers, no time for oneself and other reasons.

Expressing concerns about these issues don’t preclude women from wanting healthy companionship. They are just unwilling to put up with unhealthy behaviors to have it, and are also finding that being single isn’t the death sentence the old cat lady scare tactics tried to project on to the single life.
In fact here’s an article on a recently emerging trend called Living Apart together (LAT) that might clue you in on why it’s happening and primarily driven by women.
How Living-Apart-Together Relationships are Changing Marriage for Older Couples

Gender also weighs in on the desirability of “living apart together” relationships.

Swedish research showed that older women were significantly more interested living apart together as a way of side-stepping tired old household gender roles and maintaining a greater independence.

 

[semicko82]

I think most modern single women do still want happy, positive, healthy companionship. But that’s at odds with a lot of traditional relationships. Women want sexual satisfaction in marriage whereas like 80% of wives in previous generations reported not even having an orgasm. They are unwilling to put up with being cheated on, whereas some men feel they are entitled to multiple women regardless if they made monogamous vows or not. If they are working full time jobs just like the men are, they expect men to put in just as much work around the house and care for the kids too. Meanwhile some dudes still feel like that’s primarily women’s responsibilities.

Women want the companionship if it’s happy and healthy. Otherwise, they don’t wanna be bothered. And as single women, they can get the companionship when they want it, and not have to deal with the other stuff. None of this means a lotta women themselves aren’t problematic. It’s just addressing the fact that being a single woman in today’s world isn’t the death sentence some dudes like to make it seem. shyt, in some cases it can be a blessing.
Doesn’t mean that love/good healthy relationships arent wonderful. Just means being single, making enough money to live well and waking up without being bothered or responsible for somebody else as a woman can be awesome too…

Ehhhhh some women

 

[KidJSoul]

Y’all keep saying this thread hit us so hard. The whole reason this thread was made was because of how hard the original one hit OP. There was already an active topic on this, what was the point of making a whole new thread besides flipping it around on men?

Y’all full of shyt if u really telling me u genuinely believe OP made this thread because of Love and concern for black men

The way the topic is titled is even defensive. Had she came from a place of genuine concern she would have gotten a whole different response. But we can clearly see what her real motives were.





Women are not on SM crying about not being able to find a man? Not all online crying bout the men they want not choosing tbem? Have no problem being alone?

There’s a thread bout a fine ass women literally crying about not having a man and the fact she’s on the path to staying that way. And this woman is younger than all of you in this thread pretending you’d be happy with this scenario.

Y’all were @‘d in that thread a few times and y’all conveniently avoided it

This is what I was saying. It was manipulative.

 

[Dave24]

That's the issue someone is always down while others is up. You can't fix that. Women really really really want that. If that wasn't the case how could a old ass rich cac be seen as High value in almost any society?




In this movie Danilov is "High Value". a political functionary in the Soviet Union the chick he wanted was a fellow Jew and also educated as he was. But at that time the uneducated rural hunter was the man show she choose him. When he saw that he couldn't get the girl be realized that their would never be a truly equal society

@Wiseborn check this clip out:

 

[Dave24]

Black Men especially know this. The biggest per capita population of Homeless Men in the america (and probably the world) is Black Men. You make bad decisions and you're gonna have to live with them. The reality is at the end of the day no one does shyt for the homies:




Again you gotta always look out for number 1 because no one else will. fukk whether a bytch likes you or not the question is Do YOU like You??? and if you don't why do you expect anyone else to care about you?


Purpose over p*ssy always and you usually get both.

@Wiseborn how do you make yourself or get yourself to like yourself? What if you have low self esteem and hate yourself?

 

[Wiseborn]

@Wiseborn how do you make yourself or get yourself to like yourself? What if you have low self esteem and hate yourself?

Well the first thing you need to do is read Black History.

You read Black history and see all the Great Things Black Men have done and your perspective will change

Start here:




Home Team History is a great channel.

But that being said I grew up in a super Pro Black area in the 70's I thought the Negro National Anthem was the National Anthem because that was what we started every assembly with and we ended with this:


Donny Hathaway died before I was born yet he's my favorite singer because I grew up listening to his records.


Finally you have to center yourself. What do you like to do that doesn't involve how other people think of you?

For example I like playing ball and swimming and fishing and jet skiing and stuff like that. I'd like to get into sailing and parasailing and being a piliot. None of that requires anyone else to do and I want to do stuff like this For Myself not anyone else.


It's all about having a purpose that doesn't involve anyone else, My purpose now is to life the best retired life I can for as long as humanly possible.

You have to believe that you're the only person that really matters and that you are as good as if not better than anyone else. I can't really tell you how to do this but I will say I put myself first and I always capitalize Black and Man. I also always but Knowledge aka Man before wisdom aka woman. That's Five Percent Nation talk no need to follow that but I will say that it helped me when I started studying when I was 15.

 

[Wiseborn]

@Wiseborn check this clip out:

First of all STOP WATCHING BULLshyt LIKE THIS!!! I reality had that happened for real shorty would've either slobbed the dude down more or laughed at the Simp dude. Dude should've shut the door quickly and went back to the party. If anything he should've saluted the other guy just to show it was no hard feelings. Even the girl would've respected that.

Secondly I forgot to add in the other post YOUR BODY IS YOUR TEMPLE!!! Frankly all that american bullshyt that you eat isn't good for you physically or mentally. Eat Clean and excercise, Trust me you will feel better in a month. If you drink Coffee put chia seeds peruvivan maca root and maybe some glutamine in your shyt. Drink Green Tea with Ginger especially the kind you grind yourself. Get a blood test check your testosterone levels being overly concerned with what others think and being emothional in general is probably related to higher estrogen levels. You take some Tongkat Ali and lift weights and your overall outlook will improve. You do all that for you, Get some clothes that fit you properly just knowing that you look fly will improve your mood and women will notice too but don't do anything for women.



In your case if someone gamed you up you might benefit from the confidence boost of a DR trip.

 

[Wiseborn]

I think most modern single women do still want happy, positive, healthy companionship. But that’s at odds with a lot of traditional relationships. Women want sexual satisfaction in marriage whereas like 80% of wives in previous generations reported not even having an orgasm. They are unwilling to put up with being cheated on, whereas some men feel they are entitled to multiple women regardless if they made monogamous vows or not. If they are working full time jobs just like the men are, they expect men to put in just as much work around the house and care for the kids too. Meanwhile some dudes still feel like that’s primarily women’s responsibilities.

Women want the companionship if it’s happy and healthy. Otherwise, they don’t wanna be bothered. And as single women, they can get the companionship when they want it, and not have to deal with the other stuff. None of this means a lotta women themselves aren’t problematic. It’s just addressing the fact that being a single woman in today’s world isn’t the death sentence some dudes like to make it seem. shyt, in some cases it can be a blessing.
Doesn’t mean that love/good healthy relationships arent wonderful. Just means being single, making enough money to live well and waking up without being bothered or responsible for somebody else as a woman can be awesome too…

The bolded contradicts the underlined. As you say women feel they can get the companionship they want when they want it On their own terms Women also agree that the average Man isn't good enough for the average woman, So why shouldn't the small amount of Men that woman do want not cheat on them and striaght up charge them for companionship?


I'm not arguing with you but just walking you through the logic. Because at the end of the day Men generally feel that the majority of women are basically good enough to be wifed.

 

[Wiseborn]

Nope not deflecting. I answered your attempt to try and make this personally about me and other female posters by letting you know that this isn’t about us. Just general trends in what the surveys, studies and data have indicated. But I also let u know that what a lotta of those women have expressed resonated with my own beliefs.


You seem perturbed by the underlying reasons some women have for trying to delay or forgo marriage. And you petulantly asked why even want marriage if women think it makes them miserable? My answer to you is that women want human companionship, but not the toxic components that came with some traditional set ups. Namely the loss of identity, being full-time caretakers, no time for oneself and other reasons.

Expressing concerns about these issues don’t preclude women from wanting healthy companionship. They are just unwilling to put up with unhealthy behaviors to have it, and are also finding that being single isn’t the death sentence the old cat lady scare tactics tried to project on to the single life.
In fact here’s an article on a recently emerging trend called Living Apart together (LAT) that might clue you in on why it’s happening and primarily driven by women.
How Living-Apart-Together Relationships are Changing Marriage for Older Couples

Sounds like a Friends with Benefits situationship to me. In my experience a chick will claim to be ok with that then hit you with the where is this going?

 

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The bolded contradicts the underlined. As you say women feel they can get the companionship they want when they want it On their own terms Women also agree that the average Man isn't good enough for the average woman, So why shouldn't the small amount of Men that woman do want not cheat on them and striaght up charge them for companionship?


I'm not arguing with you but just walking you through the logic. Because at the end of the day Men generally feel that the majority of women are basically good enough to be wifed.

It’s not about the average man not being good for the average woman. It’s about the attitudes and entitlement some men carry when it comes to their relationships with women. Wanting it on their terms means not being taken for granted or dealing with the disrespectful way some men think about women or not having to clean up or take care of a grown man while forgoing your own health. And it’s funny you mention cheating, b/c the attitude some men have, namely that they are entitled to cheat, contributes to this. Also modern men may feel that women are good enough to wife but that doesn’t mean much to women if it equals being stuck in that same cycle of unsatisfying sex, cleaning, caretaking, raising kids, cooking, taking care of everyone but themselves. What I’m getting from the older women is that they’ve spent their entirely lives putting others before their own needs and a lot of these women also worked full time. Now they don’t mind a bit of romance or company but they don’t want to be bothered with the mess a lotta men bring to the table if they can live well themselves.

 

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Sounds like a Friends with Benefits situationship to me. In my experience a chick will claim to be ok with that then hit you with the where is this going?

Apparently it’s the men in these cases who want to live together but the women are pumping brakes. I can imagine several reasons why they might not wanna live with a man in their old age, but still value their companionship. It basically forgoing the drudgery of caretaking, and the inconvenience of sharing their space with someone else, while still enjoying the benefits of a relationship. And also maintaining a bit of freedom.

 

[semicko82]

Apparently it’s the men in these cases who want to live together but the women are pumping brakes. I can imagine several reasons why they might not wanna live with a man in their old age, but still value their companionship. It basically forgoing the drudgery of caretaking, and the inconvenience of sharing their space with someone else, while still enjoying the benefits of a relationship. And also maintaining a bit of freedom.

Interesting