Y’all should be concerned about single men. Not single women.

[Wiseborn]

If this is really how u see marriage, why do you still want to get married?

Because they need someone to take care of them/ take out the trash when they get old.

 

[Wiseborn]

https://youtube.com/shorts/9mLZM4AwoSA?feature=share

Black Men especially know this. The biggest per capita population of Homeless Men in the america (and probably the world) is Black Men. You make bad decisions and you're gonna have to live with them. The reality is at the end of the day no one does shyt for the homies:




Again you gotta always look out for number 1 because no one else will. fukk whether a bytch likes you or not the question is Do YOU like You??? and if you don't why do you expect anyone else to care about you?


Purpose over p*ssy always and you usually get both.

 

[The Wall Is Undefeated!]

Ya'll think a lot of women today will end up single at an old age?

^this thread got me thinking…

I don’t understand why a predominate male site is obsessed with the idea that women will regret being single late in life when study after study proves that single women are among the happiest subgroup of people on the planet. In comparison, single men struggle to maintain meaningful friendships, are more likely to live isolated lonely lives, and are more likely to be homeless because of it.

I’ve attached some studies below:

1. “In five of the six nations, women who had no children and had been single all their lives had more expansive social networks [than men in the same circumstance] in which friends were an important part of their everyday support system. These lifelong single women were not growing old alone.”

“Women are always more satisfied with the number of friends they have, whether they live alone or with someone else. But the difference is bigger when they are living alone—71 percent of the women, but only 48 percent of the men, are satisfied with the number of friends they have.”
Smaller Share of Women Ages 65 and Older Are Living Alone

2. Women savor their solitude more than men do. When asked whether they enjoy their time alone, women are more likely than men to say that they do.
When "together" means "too close": Agency motives and relationship functioning in coresident and living-apart-together couples - PubMed

3. “Men are the majority of individuals experiencing homelessness (70 percent) followed by women (29 percent).”
Demographic Data Project: Gender and Individual Homelessness

Also, many women choose single life because their prospects aren’t ticking every box for them. That is their choice. Some single men are like this too, but there’s an enormous subset of men who simply don’t have options at all. Women will always have the advantage on that front because there will always be a “simp” waiting on her front steps with roses and chocolates. Men? Not so much. They get labeled incels, have to settle for paying for sex and companionship.

So when you have the urge to ask what will single women do when they’re old…remember that they have friends, family and options. However, their single male peers likely do not and are probably suffering in silence. I think y’all need to have a dialogue about that.

Here are some topics you can discuss:
1. How can men build strong interpersonal connections to last a lifetime
2. How men can foster and maintain relationships with extended family
3. How men can learn to enjoy solitude and combat loneliness

Hope this helps

The first study is based on faulty data and statistics. The second and third studies are legit. Also, why are women less happier than in the 1970s. Not to mention that suicide rates are rising for both men and women.

Face it. Women aren't happier. The media is lying to you. Cheslie Kryst's suicide is the tip of the iceberg.

 

[Dwolf]

I think you solved everything
Now let's end this gender war once and for all

 

[semicko82]

 

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If this is really how u see marriage, why do you still want to get married?

Why get so defensive about it? It isn’t a sum zero game. People can critique an institution. It isn’t approve reproach. Why do some dudes do this? Talk cash money shyt about women but then be ready to throw a tantrum at the idea that maybe the old ways weren’t perfect and need to be reformed. And many women don’t want it, not the way it traditionally was. That’s the whole point.

 

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Y’all keep saying this thread hit us so hard. The whole reason this thread was made was because of how hard the original one hit OP. There was already an active topic on this, what was the point of making a whole new thread besides flipping it around on men?

Y’all full of shyt if u really telling me u genuinely believe OP made this thread because of Love and concern for black men

The way the topic is titled is even defensive. Had she came from a place of genuine concern she would have gotten a whole different response. But we can clearly see what her real motives were.

You mean the way all the trolling threads and defensive shyt is said by men about women?
But even beyond that, this thread triggered many.
Several posters even called out the deflection tactics. It’s high levels of defensiveness and deflection anytime anyone shines a light on shyt men need to focus on instead of trying to browbeat women into traditional roles or claim they are miserable outside of them.

Both genders need to attend to their own needs instead of trying to assume that how they want the opposite sex to live is what’s best for them,

 

[TNC]

Ya'll think a lot of women today will end up single at an old age?

^this thread got me thinking…

I don’t understand why a predominate male site is obsessed with the idea that women will regret being single late in life when study after study proves that single women are among the happiest subgroup of people on the planet. In comparison, single men struggle to maintain meaningful friendships, are more likely to live isolated lonely lives, and are more likely to be homeless because of it.

I’ve attached some studies below:

1. “In five of the six nations, women who had no children and had been single all their lives had more expansive social networks [than men in the same circumstance] in which friends were an important part of their everyday support system. These lifelong single women were not growing old alone.”

“Women are always more satisfied with the number of friends they have, whether they live alone or with someone else. But the difference is bigger when they are living alone—71 percent of the women, but only 48 percent of the men, are satisfied with the number of friends they have.”
Smaller Share of Women Ages 65 and Older Are Living Alone

2. Women savor their solitude more than men do. When asked whether they enjoy their time alone, women are more likely than men to say that they do.
When "together" means "too close": Agency motives and relationship functioning in coresident and living-apart-together couples - PubMed

3. “Men are the majority of individuals experiencing homelessness (70 percent) followed by women (29 percent).”
Demographic Data Project: Gender and Individual Homelessness

Also, many women choose single life because their prospects aren’t ticking every box for them. That is their choice. Some single men are like this too, but there’s an enormous subset of men who simply don’t have options at all. Women will always have the advantage on that front because there will always be a “simp” waiting on her front steps with roses and chocolates. Men? Not so much. They get labeled incels, have to settle for paying for sex and companionship.

So when you have the urge to ask what will single women do when they’re old…remember that they have friends, family and options. However, their single male peers likely do not and are probably suffering in silence. I think y’all need to have a dialogue about that.

Here are some topics you can discuss:
1. How can men build strong interpersonal connections to last a lifetime
2. How men can foster and maintain relationships with extended family
3. How men can learn to enjoy solitude and combat loneliness

Hope this helps

1. Where in the article does it say this: “In five of the six nations, women who had no children and had been single all their lives had more expansive social networks [than men in the same circumstance] in which friends were an important part of their everyday support system. These lifelong single women were not growing old alone.”

I read the link below this and it mentioned none of this...


2. Same problem as point #1, you said "Women savor their solitude more than men do. When asked whether they enjoy their time alone, women are more likely than men to say that they do." but the accompanying link does not say this or back this claim


3. Men being more homeless IS true, the difference is that men typically do not have the same social and financial networks that women have that carry them in later years if they cannot support themselves on their own. This is no secret to Men and nobody that knows the numbers makes this case. The bigger case is once the social security and networks dissipate, women might see a large and rapid increase in their homeless numbers to rival men, which would be a newer predicament.


But the solution for both is very simple. Men, make yourselves the best version of yourself that you are capable of and then choose from your options. Women, maintain your value and choose the best prospect for the long term and stick with it.

 

[JQ Legend]

Lol I live in reality. I see way more men able to cool it on their 1s than women.

it’s def cap

music, cars, sports, metal shop, wood work, i can keep it going. Those are all soloist hobbies and usually all male dominated. In fact Most hobbies are male dominated who you trying to fool. Us or yourself


When I’m in the studio I prefer to be by myself, when I’m in the gym I prefer to be myself, when I’m half way fukked Up on god knows what I STILL prefer to be myself. Stop this

Breh if you seen the OG thread, you’d see they immediately deflected to saying they’d still have family and friends so they really wouldn’t be alone. That’s a flat out admission they’re not trying to be alone.

Mind you, these same women making this argument about how women would be happier single actually want to get married

Why get so defensive about it? It isn’t a sum zero game. People can critique an institution. It isn’t approve reproach. Why do some dudes do this? Talk cash money shyt about women but then be ready to throw a tantrum at the idea that maybe the old ways weren’t perfect and need to be reformed. And many women don’t want it, not the way it traditionally was. That’s the whole point.

You should be asking yourself “why be so defensive about it?” when that’s exactly what you just did all because I asked a simple question of why do you still want to get married

You literally just threw a whole tantrum in this post because you once again backed yourself in a corner with your hypocrisy of talking about how inconvenient marriage is for women while wanting to get married yourself

A better question is why did you type all that without even answering the question?

You tend to do that when you’re backed in a corner

Same way you did when you tried to tell me how dating and society is in Europe and I asked you 3 times if you’ve ever been to Europe. Instead of answering with a simple yes or no, you typed diatribes that basically translated to “no I haven’t but I read textbooks and charts so I’m better equipped to talk about it than someone whose actually lived there”

You did the same exact thing just now talking all this cash shyt about how inconvenient marriage is for women but when you get asked why u wanna get married you get defensive then accuse me of being the defensive one

Same way OP made this thread out of defensiveness and being offended but accusing everyone else of being defensive and offended

 

[JQ Legend]

You mean the way all the trolling threads and defensive shyt is said by men about women?
But even beyond that, this thread triggered many.
Several posters even called out the deflection tactics. It’s high levels of defensiveness and deflection anytime anyone shines a light on shyt men need to focus on instead of trying to browbeat women into traditional roles or claim they are miserable outside of them.

Both genders need to attend to their own needs instead of trying to assume that how they want the opposite sex to live is what’s best for them,

So you mean to tell me you genuinely believe this thread was made out of OP’s Love and concern for black men?

Only reason anyone is triggered is because of how disingenuous OP is being. You keep talking about deflection when y’all have been doing that this whole thread and the OG one that spawned this one.

This thread itself is literally a deflection of the first one

You just deflected when I asked why do u want to get married

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

So you mean to tell me you genuinely believe this thread was made out of OP’s Love and concern for black men?

Only reason anyone is triggered is because of how disingenuous OP is being. You keep talking about deflection when y’all have been doing that this whole thread and the OG one that spawned this one.

This thread itself is literally a deflection of the first one

You just deflected when I asked why do u want to get married

Do you believe ANY of the goofy threads on women on these sites are out of genuine concern?
And I didn’t deflected. I wanted to know why you were defensively assuming that anybody who levels critique of the institution of marriage means they wanna call it off altogether. It’s like you can’t fathom the idea that maybe people want companionship but without the unnecessary bullshyt that goes with it. Furthermore, stop making general exchanges about me or any poster in particular personal. This isn’t about me. This is about some men literally being triggered whenever the spotlight is drawn to their own issues while they worrying about women.

 

[semicko82]

I think a lotta women kinda are like cats. They want men in spurts…when they want them and then wanna be free to do whatever when they don’t. That is obviously hard to do in relationships. While men might go through it from a socio-emotional way as they age, what hits women harder than desire for companionship is money. Chicks will find a way to socialize. But retiring without enough income is their beast of burden. That’s why a lotta chicks in recent generations have focused on that bag over everything mentality. It ain’t fear of dying alone that keeps them up at night. It’s fear of dying impoverished or helpless.
Economics is at the heart of these issues for both men AND women. It just plays out differently.

At least you're telling the truth about this. Most modern single women just want to play this role

 

[Wiseborn]

Why get so defensive about it? It isn’t a sum zero game. People can critique an institution. It isn’t approve reproach. Why do some dudes do this? Talk cash money shyt about women but then be ready to throw a tantrum at the idea that maybe the old ways weren’t perfect and need to be reformed. And many women don’t want it, not the way it traditionally was. That’s the whole point.

The marriage shyt can be fix tommorow if alimony laws were bushed and Child support payments were capped.

Again the problem is always MONEY.

 

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Breh if you seen the OG thread, you’d see they immediately deflected to saying they’d still have family and friends so they really wouldn’t be alone. That’s a flat out admission they’re not trying to be alone.

Mind you, these same women making this argument about how women would be happier single actually want to get married


You should be asking yourself “why be so defensive about it?” when that’s exactly what you just did all because I asked a simple question of why do you still want to get married

You literally just threw a whole tantrum in this post because you once again backed yourself in a corner with your hypocrisy of talking about how inconvenient marriage is for women while wanting to get married yourself

A better question is why did you type all that without even answering the question?

You tend to do that when you’re backed in a corner

Same way you did when you tried to tell me how dating and society is in Europe and I asked you 3 times if you’ve ever been to Europe. Instead of answering with a simple yes or no, you typed diatribes that basically translated to “no I haven’t but I read textbooks and charts so I’m better equipped to talk about it than someone whose actually lived there”

You did the same exact thing just now talking all this cash shyt about how inconvenient marriage is for women but when you get asked why u wanna get married you get defensive then accuse me of being the defensive one

Same way OP made this thread out of defensiveness and being offended but accusing everyone else of being defensive and offended

You always try to make these exchanges personally about the people in them instead of staying on topic. And this thread is addressing the original assumption I already covered that is widely heralded by many men worldwide. Namely the old cat lady trope. I already provided historical context for why this false idea of women necessarily being miserable when they are single is both inaccurate AND ironic b/c as decades of studies have demonstrated, men need to be more concerned about themselves.

Im not defensive about marriage. I’m accurately refuting the nonsense some dudes claim about women when it comes to the institution and providing insight into why a lotta women feel that way, have been running away from traditional roles, delaying marriage AND childbirth, and why some elder women in their twilight years don’t even wanna be “a nurse and a purse” or caregiver to a husband as they age.
They don’t mind companionship, but don’t want the shyt a lotta men feel entitled to bring with it. And that resonates with me as well.

 

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The marriage shyt can be fix tommorow if alimony laws were bushed and Child support payments were capped.

Again the problem is always MONEY.

It’s not just money tho. Why is it so hard for men to understand that a lot of women don’t want to cook and clean for somebody. Take care of children, while working. Be taken for granted by males who think they are entitled to tell chicks what to do. Delay or defer all of what they want to do with their lives to be lifetime caregivers to husbands, kids, dogs, elders and anybody but themselves. Women literally telling people that AND matching it with actions. They only wanna get in marriages after they got themselves together financially and lived a little. That’s why they delay marriage and childbirth. Not because they hate men or marriage or anything like that. They want the companionship, but not the games, cheating, entitlement, heartbreak, work and lack of self-care that can come with it. Especially when you don’t have any financial leverage for yourself to get yourself out of the situation if it goes bad.