Laidbackman
All Star
I'm just saying it's possible, you've gone over this scenario so many times, and told yourself the same story time and time again that he's some sort of antagonist.
It's like me with my story, it took a few days actually, I mulled it over. Maybe I said something wrong, did something wrong, maybe I was or am an offensive neighbor. Like you I take care of my yard. I try to do the things good neighbors do. Then I came to the conclusion, it isn't me. I did a deep look inward, I looked at myself from an outside perspective, I was ready to acknowledge any flaw, wrongdoing, issue problem that I had or caused and I couldn't see it. Then a few months later, I found out about the cancer.
There's been times I've had to check myself and realize I'm over thinking shyt and the issue is me.
I'm not saying you were scared like actual fear, but his actions made you think "what the hell is goin on?"
Looking at it from his perspective (like I did with the crazy white lady)...maybe he's pissed/frustrated cause he's lost or missed his turn, probably a dark ass street your the only one with the light on, he pulls in, then all of a sudden sees you, you're muggin him, he kind of feels like "shyt, this dude probably thinks I'm up to something, I just want to get the hell out of here"..kind of throws out a soft " I'm good/im cool" to let you know he doesn't mean any harm, and leaves.
I don't think you're wrong at all, you definitely aren't wrong for wanting the situation to have been better, like you said a wave or a head nod.
Sometimes when I think back, I realize I did have a little more part in the way people acted towards me than I once thought. When you live alone, you think about things, especially when your miles away from home. I can go back to my childhood, and just now understand why a buddy would sometimes acted this way or that way. Maybe you laughed at them too hard when they were being joned on, and you didn't think they thought anything of it, because they hardly got mad. Come to find out, you really hurt them, and you probably laughed at them more than once when you really weren't suppose to, but they knew you weren't aware of it. But if you know you're a good person, don't get tricked into thinking you bring on bad things to yourself, when it's clear as day the other person was tripping. In those situations, you do have to recognize when somebody is overreacting, and it's best to count to 10. I guess we all could have handle a lot of things better in our past. I guess nobody's perfect.
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