Would You Date A Person Who Has Aspergers?

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Thanks.

How do you make money if you don't work? Disability check? Are you a virgin? Do you get anxiety?


Music and selling clothing at this point. Real Estate because I was blessed with a good opportunity but that just started for me. Im working on the disability check, Im halfway done with the process. And I lost my virginity at a normal age... never had a trouble with women but my taste has changed to a more abstract ... unique type of lady. Ive dated a wide spectrum (slowly) and really found what I dig in a person, as far as what they are into. I guess you could say I'm into crazy women and im trying to find that balance.... I like women that have quirky hobbies like me and arent afraid to basically tell me (or anyone) to fukk off cause thats what their life revolves around. I can appreciate people being what they want to be. I guess it inspires me and gives me confidence and at the same time lets me feel normal in a way. I get anxiety BUT the more I understand myself and figure out what makes me tick, the more comfortable I am completely. Drugs didnt help me way back and I learned that using a crutch actually made things worse (weed would add to it) (alcohol would hide it) but really all it was doing was making me worse. So I stopped both besides a drink from time to time.

All I can say is, if I didnt tell you that I had aspergers you wouldnt know ... Its a strange feeling if you are able to be aware of it. It doesnt stop me from doing anything in life ... but it does make me a very offbeat person. Like I would say too Mike Epps probably has Aspergers... there's a certain aloofness and the fact that he doesnt want to make movies ... its like that. I really cant explain it. Dre dre ... Eminem ... Prince ... Andre 3000 .... it can almost be related to them... like an extremely strange person who seems mysterious ... but is actually in their own bubble. You can pick out alot of people based on just those examples... maybe a Dave Chapelle since he's usually in control of what hes doing, it probably makes things impossible for him when he feels boxed in. Alot of lines are crossed trying to see who has it, but the people with it have the same traits ... like someone else can want to be in control of things (like the chapelle example) ... but realistically they are more just about business. A person with aspergers could really give a fukk less as long as they are comfortable. It becomes a dire situation like a house on fire, they will flee that box because its the only thing that they cant handle
 

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I have no problem communicating its just that I cant communicate to a bunch of people at once
and alot of those symptoms are just signs to look for ... like the ritual thing. I dont do any of that... I guess that would be on a bigger spectrum. Its really hard to judge or explain but you can link the symptoms to the people in my last post, they are people that appear (in my opinion) to have a version of it. It never stopped me from doing what I really want, Ive dated lawyers ... nurses ... normal gas station clerks ... bald, punk rock white girls ... beautiful black women ... it all comes down to how people want to view you. One person could think Prince is creepy as hell and another woman could think him being mysterious is a challenge and exciting. Its all perspective, so I would say ive connected with people way past just face value and that means more to me. Its more of a common passion, intense one on one bond. Male or female, I kind of deflect the wrong people so it works out
 

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No.

I'm a very social and communicative person - I'm attracted to charming men with high emotional intelligence and a way with words.
You sound like a pretentious, annoying ass, stupid motherfukker fr. You're the type of bytch I'd stop talking to as soon as I hear your convo. You sound like a motherfukker who only talk about dumb shyt but thinks you're smart irl
 

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Are you autistic?
Yep - statemented at 5 with "very strong autistic tendencies", officially diagnosed with ASD and dyspraxia at 20.

Can people usually tell that there's something wrong with you?

Funnily enough, I had this conversation with work colleagues yesterday - they all said they would never be able to tell if I hadn't told them. It's mainly because I've worked very hard to be able to hide my idiosyncracies to the point that I basically present as normal with a few eccentricities here and there. I don't stim in public, I manage sensory overloads pretty well and I'm a bit better at reading social cues well enough to appear highly competent socially. Only people who've grown up with autistic siblings/children have been able to tell somewhat.

Do you know anyone with autism?

I know a few people with it, I have cousins who are also midly autistic.

Would you date someone with autism?Why/whynot?

I would date a girl with autism if she was like me and we were compatible.

If you have autism, is dating difficult for you? If so, how?

It is very difficult because I have high standards for myself and I don't consider myself well equipped enough to date currently. Not necessarily because I'm autistic, but more because of the dyspraxia - I don't really like the fact that I'm living at home at my age. Thankfully, I'm working in a job that has decent progression in it, plus I'm still hoping to make money from other stuff eventually i.e. piano teaching. It ties in because I think part of being in an adult relationship is having a certain level of independence and I am personally of the belief that I must do the work to be better overall. Being more competent domestically, financially and physically are goals I want to pursue for myself, but the added bonus is that it will make my relationships hopefully mch smoother and more egalitarian.

It doesn't help that I still have teething problems when it comes to flirting and shyt like that but I'm getting better at it, but if in doubt I just tend to keep it neutral.

Answers above in the quote :ehh:
 

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Nope. I get annoyed when people cant look me in the eye when they talk to me.

And every single person I know with Aspergers has difficulty maintaining eye contact.
 
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