All the misinformation and stupidity, in a thread that started out so informatively, hurts my heart.
People judging abuse potential by looks, nikkas acting if being from the hood automatically makes you a lesser black man, nikkas thinking abuse is as simple as punching a women, dudes acting like being a nerdy dude somehow makes you a better potential mate, etc.
A big issue I see when it comes to the domestic abuse of black women is that black people, in general, don't seem to have understand that mental illnesses can't just be "loved through or ignored".
Men who are abusive have a mental disorder and there is NOTHING you can do to fix it except point them to a professional (The lack of support and belief in professional help for mental issues is also a problem in our community) but it's hard to get this point across because most abusive people are VERY good at keeping their worst side hidden until you're already ensnared.
Girls that I mentor and teach, I think the most effective thing we can do is try to teach them to spot warning signs as soon as they appear. To make sure that they have an understanding of finances even if they plan on letting their man handle it and those kinds of things.
-Consistently, insulting remarks about subjects you're sensitive, usually done under the guise of teasing or playing around. These things can affect self esteem over time and indoctrinate you to the abuse to make it seem more normal.
And stuff like that but I don't think that's gonna really solve the underlying problem which is that there is a lot of mental disease, left untreated, because our community doesn't trust the medical community. These abusers are typically showing signs when they're younger but they're receiving no help or guidance, predators are formed, and black women are paying the price.
I'm really hoping I can help finance and build a black owned-operated medical practice with black doctors, nurses, pharmacists, etc.
. I bet if that same writer and those filmmakers made something about black on black crime Ya would shyt on their credibility.
so explain this one away
Why would god create such monsters
Those are the times when bein racially ambiguous pays off.