I'm a little confused (there's like 5 diff convo's goin on right now ) but what ratio are you referring to?
The thugs nonsense. You equate a black man that is studying IT/hard science in college with little interaction with women as "lame" when he can't attract women he wants. You may be the exception, but there are brothas out there that are suffering and need guidance of game to make them more well-rounded peoople. Women are important, yes, but they ain't as important as building wealth.
Hell, the term "lame" needs to be defined properly and not be thrown around like "c00n." What is "lame" and why does it matter post-high school?