Why Men Get So Few Matches on Dating Apps

[Rasille]

Women swipe left and men swipe right a lot more. Women get more likes and messages because naturally men are the approachers, so they sit back and collect likes and messages without reciprocating. Then when someone happens to catch their eye they’ll see what he’s about.

 

[feelosofer]

Those apps are not designed for men to win. Not at least without paying.

 

[MischievousMonkey]

Most men got garbage profiles

 

[Unbothered]

Imo, most men do better pursuing women in person or, at the very least, on social media rather than dating apps. Another thing a lot of dudes won't admit, but most men would prefer to be pursued rather than pursuing, cause it's much easier and gives a confidence boost.

I've always been the type of man to prefer being chased rather than doing the chasing because I get to keep my integrity and dignity in the process. I know some women have dudes on an emotional roller coaster, chasing after them, just to be let down.

Nah I ain't with all that lady, you want me? Shyt you come after me.

Dating apps are full of pretentious and superficial ass people you need tough skin to be on there, shyt I've never invested in dating apps or believed in that culture, plus I'm not paying a monthly subscription just to meet women .

I like to meet women in person or through Facebook and set up a meetup; as a matter of fact, a lot of women I've locally met over the years, including my girlfriend now, have been through Facebook.

 

[Uchiha God]

Illusion (and in some occasions the reality) of choice. Women will generally have a considerably larger number of potential suitors

men don’t usually go into dating thinking about nor ruling women out because of their finances, height, popularity/active social life etc. Being relatively attractive tends to be the filter most used by men - and that’s a lower barrier of entry than the filters women use.

With the imbalance of access to sex - women can afford to be more particular and specific about what they want, whereas a significant number of men employ a “spray and pray”/numbers approach to dating.

 

[Sauce Mane]

I remember reading the ratio on dating apps is crazy

It's like 70-80% men and 30-20% women

You have to really stand out to get matches from baddies

 

[RegB]

^^^^

Met my fiancé on an app. She swiped on me

this is the secret sauce to dating apps hell dating in general,, focus on the women who like you first.. women control the sexual market, and as a man it don't matter who you like as much as who likes you, the type of women I'm diggin are the women who dig me before anything else is considered..!

to @010101..! Not saying he has the same view as me,, but his posts did help me learn this for myself a few years ago..!

 

[TL15]

Easy fix:

1 - have a section for both men and women to objectively rate people based on a full body picture of members of the opposite sex (scale 1-10)

2 - have profiles with no pictures but with physical descriptions (black male, Hispanic male, etc) and hobbies interests music etc. BUT have their scale of 1 - 10 rating. (Example: black male, 5 11, average looks rating voted by users: 7.5, interested in rap music, no pets, powerlifting and reading)

3 - men and women would be allowed to see what the rating is, as well as what they rate themselves, and what they rated a potential mate.

So you could see that “Jessica” rates herself an 8, average user rates her a 6.5, you rated her a 6 and decide that maybe you rate people too harshly, or that you don’t want someone rated 6.5, or that you like her confidence rating herself an 8

Either way there would be more dates if specific looks were removed yet people had an indication of how people looked. Herd mentality: if everyone else thinks you’re attractive I probably want to date you as well.

It would also be a very eye opening way for women to feel the rejection that men feel and “lower” their standards. Lots of women with nerf ball sized belly buttons think they are 9s because a bunch of thirsty dudes will stick their dikk in anything

 

[The Prince of All Saiyans]

Illusion (and in some occasions the reality) of choice. Women will generally have a considerably larger number of potential suitors

men don’t usually go into dating thinking about nor ruling women out because of their finances, height, popularity/active social life etc. Being relatively attractive tends to be the filter most used by men - and that’s a lower barrier of entry than the filters women use.

With the imbalance of access to sex - women can afford to be more particular and specific about what they want, whereas a significant number of men employ a “spray and pray”/numbers approach to dating.

The prestige of the bottle girl

 

[Scustin Bieburr]

The number of men on the apps is insane. Depending on the size and demographics of your city, a woman could go through over 500 male profiles and still not get to yours. You won't even be seen.

The women have such an abundance of choice that they have hundreds of choices, and out of those hundreds maybe only 40 or 50 have potential. Out of those 40, there's probably 30 they REALLY want. Out of those 20, maybe 10 are actually normal human beings and not using the app to cheat or for attention. And out of those ten maybe 5 want a relationship instead of just sex.

The best way is still the old way, meet people through mutual contacts in person.

 

[Genos]

It's like a 3:1 ratio for men to women on a lot of apps

 

[2 Up 2 Down]

More men than women on the apps.
I have done pretty good we I was on the apps and I'm not tall or have any pics displaying how much money I have or how adventurous I am

 

[skyrunner1]

The prestige of the bottle girl

U peep that also

Hilarious how the whole scenario was flipped and made to make a du

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

Those apps are not designed for men to win. Not at least without paying.

that's how they evolved. didn't start like that at all. matter fact we used to have programmers on here from tinder. I remember the game we got too and how we were playing the app against itself to boost our profiles with his advice... before the apps started milking dudes for every dollar they were only really programmed to downplay men's accounts that were too thirsty. you could reverse engineer this feature to actually boost your account visibility (by setting a small radius and being selective with clicks the algorithms would favor you. At some point they started programming them to down your profile so you can pay and introducing boosting and sub features.

the inherent greed of capitalism kills everything.

 

[Ohene]

Illusion (and in some occasions the reality) of choice. Women will generally have a considerably larger number of potential suitors

men don’t usually go into dating thinking about nor ruling women out because of their finances, height, popularity/active social life etc. Being relatively attractive tends to be the filter most used by men - and that’s a lower barrier of entry than the filters women use.

With the imbalance of access to sex - women can afford to be more particular and specific about what they want, whereas a significant number of men employ a “spray and pray”/numbers approach to dating.

she has the right idea

but its more like the bottle girl from Miami shouldnt have access to the Anthony Edwards from the Minnesota Timberwolves