And this just reinforces my point that these "norms" of what a man or woman should be, do not work for all black people. I'm not saying it's not something ideal, but we have to be realistic. Black men and women should understand, men have a greater role in the family outside of providing. If statistics are showing that black men are under educated and underemployed, while black women are slowly trending in the opposite, it wouldn't be smart to seek these traditional associations with one another.
One of the best things about some black women is we aren't afraid to step outside of roles if that's what it takes to get the job done and I don't feel some black men do the same. It's like if I can't do X, then I'm not valuable at all. There is nothing wrong with men taking on more of the household and parenting duties if the woman is making the greater salary. He could also be developing himself through formal training or education while doing it. A man's "contribution" shouldn't be tied solely to his ability to go to work.