Why aren't you married?

[Dwolf]

I'm a single black mother

Why didnt you get married before the single mother stuff?

 

[Michael9100]

I'm not where I want to be career-wise yet.....

 

[Rawtid]

How many baby daddies you have ?

As for me, I'm not ready to settle down. I got too much on my plate to worry about a relationship that will lead to marriage.

One my nikka and no more!!

Why didnt you get married before the single mother stuff?

It wasn't an option.

 

[DemureNatural]

I stopped thinking about marriage back in 2009 after cohabiting for 1 full year. At 29, I'm of the opinion that we can just be long term partners...if the man wants to marry me, I'll make it clear that it's unnecessary unless he desires a child (and I love him enough to give him one, after I've decided he's father/husband material, of course). I'd still keep my house and rent it out!

 

[Chris.B]

Why didnt you get married before the single mother stuff?

It wasn't an option.

Oh I see, so he was the pregnant one in your relationship?

 

[Ikwa]

If I didn't want to have kids and flee from fornication I wouldn't get married either.

Seeing guys do over time just so they don't have to go home

 

[Rawtid]

I stopped thinking about marriage back in 2009 after cohabiting for 1 full year. At 29, I'm of the opinion that we can just be long term partners...if the man wants to marry me, I'll make it clear that it's unnecessary unless he desires a child (and I love him enough to give him one, after I've decided he's father/husband material, of course). I'd still keep my house and rent it out!

The only way I could live with a guy is if I were legally obligated to do it. Relationships seem like a waste if marriage isn't the end game. Crazy but that's how I feel.

 

[NairobiFire]

Been there, done that..not in a rush to do it again

 

[chkmeout]

Because i can keep getting better girls then the ones i got now? Aint no need to settle when i aint even hit the peak yet

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[DemureNatural]

The only way I could live with a guy is if I were legally obligated to do it. Relationships seem like a waste if marriage isn't the end game. Crazy but that's how I feel.

That's not crazy, that's smart! Do what's best for you and always strive for personal happiness!

 

[Remote]

Haven't found the one yet.
I'm glad I haven't been married though.
Seems most people get married in their mid-to-late 20s and I've changed a lot since then. So whomever I would have married then...I probably would have divorced by now. For the simple fact that I wasn't really mature and my perspective on things was a lot different.

 

[concise]

i'm just scared

yup.

 

[Egomaniacal1]

Because life partnership >>>>>>> marriage

All of the positive commitment and companionship attributes, not so much of the negative legal ramifications.

 

[Oye]

I've grown fond of being by myself and truth be told most women will give me all the basic benefits of marriage.

I'm also undecided if I want kids or not.

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

I'm too young to worry about dying alone and I'm too old to believe in happily ever after.