Just a minor fyi breh, taking care of the elders of the family (when you have the time) is often how you get the valuable information (the kind that is particular to your genetic code) necessary to ensure the prosperity of your family.I get the point and the intent OP, but the whole idea of being with someone just to basically have someone to take care of us when we're old always seems kind of using other people type mentality to me. That can't be the primary reason for having a spouse or kids.
Me anyway my moms died 20 years ago and I have been living away from my family/alone since I was 15 (I'm 42) so I don't even really know what a "family" looks like/works, what are its "pros" and "cons". My ex told me I would end up alone, she was probably right
so all that created the situation we're in now. Plus for years my Pops didn't even want us to go back and he only came like a couple weeks a year, not enough to really build, on top of the fact that there's a real cultural gap between him and myself. I did end up living 3 years with my father just some time ago, but let's just say that some foundation has to be laid down when you're young. That ship of us "bonding" or whatever had sailed a long time ago. It just how life happened for us. Plus once again he's back in Africa while I'm here in Europe. I resent a lot of stuff that he could've done (my moms too, but she's gone). He had his reasons, but he could've shared a lot with me (if only the culture, the language, the story of my family, etc) and he chose not to. All right then, but I've built myself a whole other life/personality now so I'm no longer seeking those stories and whatnot. It is what it is.I swear I’m not trying to be divisive when I say thisbut coming from an African home and seeing how heavy “ADOS” are on that ‘break generational curses” vibe it’s startling
Like of course I get it but…gotdamn EVERYBODY gotta start from scratch and disavow your folks?!
And while that’s happening, the culture is aiding and abetting, giving a false sense of security and unity among ‘everybody black’, as if that can replace family. Even if only on a subconscious level: Shaderoom referring to each other as ‘rooomates’, ‘the cookout’, referring to strangers as ‘family’ just bc they black, celebs completely b*stardizing ‘my brother’, black women calling each other ‘sis’
Like that’s cool and all but that is NOT the same as real family… but for a younger generation and some older, I really think that subconsciously gives a false sense of security. And of course that security will not be there in real life long term
Life dont work like that OP.This is true however I seen men and women who exercise and not obese or overweight deal with health issues. Shyt happens in life even in unforseen times. U can't predict and plan everything in life fully.
Yep. Brunch culture.So true. A lot of professional women drink like hell too. And are on antidepressants and shyt. They still front like life is beautiful and perfect tho.
Life is tough for us all, but they are tricking our women the most with this career >family and love BS.
Women who may have a figure but after a certain age it’s a struggle bc if their diet and ‘I love food!’ mentality .
But I digressIt ain’t, but it’s much harder if it ain’t on your radar at allLeave it to the coli to make it seem like getting themselves in a relationship and finding a lifelong companion is as easy as buying a TV
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And y'all wonder why brehettes are the ones quitting on the idea of marriage
