What's your racial preference?

[Tae]

• Great points made. Here in the UK black women used to be seriously angry at black men in interracial relationships, as a young boy and in my adolescence I witnessed many a black man with white women get cussed out in the street by irate black women, occasionally even leading to violence against the white woman. However as white men and other races have started showing more interest in black women in recent years, their mouths have been become firmly shut about this "issue". Black women's "loyalty" to us is largely just a facade, one of the greatest lies ever told. In fact it is quite normal and relatively understandable for women to prefer the dominant race in the society they live in due to image and economics i.e white men in the West.

You are talking about two different generations of women.
It could be that the older women are still NBABM and the younger new generation of women think that line of thinking is bullshyt and are more open to dating and marrying men of different races.

 

[intruder]

It's just sad from a black woman's view to see black men lusting after women that's not black. I wouldn't really expect too many men to agree with this anyways.

I'm basically drained with discussing this.

I don't see it that way.

I feel like black-american women tend to demand that black-american men be loyal to them more than any other ethnic group does their male counter-parts. I see it all the time where they criticize men for dating interracially. It happens too in other cultures but not as much. Hell some other cultures almost encourage it, really. I date Haitian and non-haitian females and never have i felt pressure from haitain women when i show up with a non-haitian or latina. But if i show up with a latina around my african-american female friends i could see the objection in their eyes on some "really??? WTF" type sh!t. But they do have a point tho that most successful black men in America tend to go after non-blacks but i think there is more to it and thats a whole other discussion in itself.

But my view of it is not that blacks are more likely to date other races but that other races are more likely to stick to their own kind out of prejudice or preference. Whites are the least likely to mate with another. Next come Asians.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

But that's just the result of me paying attention

 

[KinksandCoils]

I don't see it that way.

I feel like black-american women tend to demand that black-american men be loyal to them more than any other ethnic group does their male counter-parts. I see it all the time where they criticize men for dating interracially. It happens too in other cultures but not as much. Hell some other cultures almost encourage it, really. I date Haitian and non-haitian females and never have i felt pressure from haitain women when i show up with a non-haitian or latina. But if i show up with a latina around my african-american female friends i could see the objection in their eyes on some "really??? WTF" type sh!t. But they do have a point tho that most successful black men in America tend to go after non-blacks but i think there is more to it and thats a whole other discussion in itself.

But my view of it is not that blacks are more likely to date other races but that other races are more likely to stick to their own kind out of prejudice or preference. Whites are the least likely to mate with another. Next come Asians.

Not even close.....

But if that's how u feel I can't change that. I'm done discussing this issue like I said earlier so we can agree to disagree.

It's not about who is pressuring u anyways.

 

[Malik]

Yall nikkas arguing about nothing man.

88% of black men that marry, marry black women.

if the other 12% wanna date non-black women, who cares.

And please STOP perpetuating the LIE that black men marry out the most.

LATINOS AND ASIANS DO.

Who marries out most: Likeliest to "marry out" were Asian Americans at 28 percent, followed by Latinos at 26 percent. Black Americans, a group that used to marry out less, followed at 17 percent. Non-Latino whites were still the least likely to marry out, with only 9 percent saying "I do" to someone from another group.

There's this cool site called Google. Its like a giant virtual encyclopedia full of information from around the world. Its great. You just type in anything you want and it brings up what you're looking for.

You should use it sometime.

 

[Biscut]

My Nubian white princess. You're a hater if you say else wise.

 

[WheresWallace]

Hell yea, because if Beyonce or Alicia keys was dark or brown skinned they would still look good to me, because it's that symmetry, bone structure, and body type that attracts me and not skin color. But I understand that attraction isn't something that is unconditional like love, plus it's natural to be attracted to people that look like you.​

Its natural to be attracted to people who look like you (in theory) because of familiarity and associating those looks to beauty. But when you are black and watch a lot of TV with white programming then you will be attracted to people who look NOTHING like you. Because those un-relatable images are associated with beauty.

Its the reason why people bleach their skin across the globe...India, South America, Africa, ect. Its the reason Asian men and women have surgery to make their eyes wider (more westernized)...its the reason we have so many PAWG worshipers here.

 

[luckyse7enz]

You know...keeping the thread's question in mind: is there any way to have a racial preference outside of your own race without being chastised for it?

I definitely recognize that there are plenty of instances where a person may have some kind of self-hatred thing going on when they have an outside preference and I definitely don't agree with that at all.

However, other times...in a FEW instances.... (and let me try to choose my words carefully here), I think that it can be more of a culture/relatabilityshared interest/convenience thing.

Let's say there's a guy (race can be whatever) that doesn't really have a racial preference as far as attraction goes. He just thinks "beautiful is beautiful."

Let's say he is diverse with what he likes and has a a few personal interests, style, and tastes that may not sync up or put him in close contact with as many women from his own race, not because he wants to be different, but because he likes variety in everything.

Wouldn't it be a matter of convenience that he ends up being attracted to people with similar interests and if those people happen to be...nerdy Latinas or hipster Black chicks, or white chicks that like to dance...and would he deserve to be faulted for choosing whichever he clicked with first or should he go "This girl and I have DOPE chemistry. She fukks with Jeezy and Incubus, can quote "Breaking Bad" AND Patrice O'Neal, BUT our racial backgrounds are different and I'd look like a sell-out so I should just let her pass by.

Is that how it is?

 

[rapbeats]

why do black men tell black women this to keep them dating outside their race? as if black men dont use black women for sex! black men using black women bodies is why you see so many single black moms. they were just a hit it and quit it

you are correct. but just a hit and a quit. is no where near as bad as. You're my bed wench slave B... thats the kind of stuff some of them are on. but keep telling yourself otherwise cause it says so on TV. lol.

 

[rapbeats]

Sorry but as a black women who has dated non-black men since high school my experience has been the complete opposite of what you have suggested. There are a few things that I want to address in your post that highlight the larger issue of interracial relations between WM/BW and the reaction of the black community. Your comments are based on your own biases and reflect your low opinion of the desirability of black women.

1) I have NEVER been called a "black bytch", "N-word", "C-word" by a white guy. I would never date or be in a relationship with any guy who would disrespect a woman in that manner. But I will say that I have been called a "bytch" more in the past few months since being on this site then I ever have in my life.

2) In my experience I have always been protected, supported and included by the non-black men in my life and their families. I have travelled and gone on family vacations with my boyfriend's family. I have lifelong friendships and connections with many of these people.

3) Contrary to the popularly held belief of paranoid black men, white guys aren't talking about you. They aren't thinking about you. You aren't really a factor. You are not a topic of discussion. I think that many black guys feel that white guys who are with black women are bashing them because that's what black men do when they are with non-black women.

But I would like to address something else in your post which is the overall attitude that (in your opinion) black women aren't desirable so we should just deal with whatever black men decide we should be. This attitude is far worse than any derogatory comment a non-black man could hurl at a black woman. In your effort to make your point you have diminished the black woman as a desirable object of femininity and that is the problem. There was no LOVE for black women in your post but it was tinged with a certain disdain that is reserved for an unwanted stray cat.

The marriage rate between WM/BW has been low not because white men aren't approaching black women but because MANY BW flatly rebuff the advances of WM. Many black women in the past would never consider a not black man as a romantic partner but this is changing.

The marriage rates between white men and black women are increasing (I will post stats when I have the time to source) and out of all interracial marriage pairings, WM/BW marriages are the most stable. WM/BW marriages are also more stable than ALL same race pairings with the exception of Asian men/Asian woman (http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1741-3729.2008.00491.x/p




So you firmly believe that insulting black women and our desirability is beneficial? I feel really sorry for the black women who will read what you wrote and co-sign in agreement.

of course you would. you like to dabble in the other side you want others like you to do the same to make what you do OK. and maybe you got lucky and had no bad run ins. good for you. but your situation is more an anomaly then the norm. believe it.

remember i didnt say much. i posted what WHITE guys were saying on their own. dont fight me.. Fight them. dont get mad at the black guy for exposing them to you. get mad at them for lying to you.

 

[mariahcooper]

you are correct. but just a hit and a quit. is no where near as bad as. You're my bed wench slave B... thats the kind of stuff some of them are on. but keep telling yourself otherwise cause it says so on TV. lol.

It is just as bad, theyre being seen as good enough to smash but not marry. Most of the white men i see with black women are serious, especially since its not encouraged in white society so they have to really want to be with a black woman.

 

[JoeClyde55]

It is just as bad, theyre being seen as good enough to smash but not marry. Most of the white men i see with black women are serious, especially since its not encouraged in white society so they have to really want to be with a black woman.

BW seem to want to romanticize BW/WM relationships. They are no different or special.

Who are these women you know that said they were loyal to black men and then flipped the script when a white man looked their way?
Pleighboi it is about PREFERENCES if a black woman says she won't date white men because she is loyal to black men then she is foolish.
Most of the black women I know PREFER black men, just like many black men PREFER black women, but if someone good looking from another race starts to show them love they are not going to turn him down.

So basically you are agreeing with what I am saying. I think a lot of people are confusing this "loyalty" word with marriage rates.

#1. BM having higher IR numbers doesn't mean shyt. All that means is that some BM decided to marry the woman he was dating. That doesn't mean BW don't date out as much or find non-bm attractive.

#2. BW women would date out. If she found that particular guy attractive. If you go on dating sites. Especially Black ones. It is flooded with 40+ white male divorcees. Looking to get a young black girl fix. Now I'm sure some Black women reject these men. That doesn't mean she wouldn't date a White guy. She may not be attracted to the particular one asking her out.

But the bottom line is for BW and BM. If you are attracted to a non-black person. Racial preferences aside. You will most likely go for it.

 

[OatmealCreamPie]

Yall nikkas arguing about nothing man.

88% of black men that marry, marry black women.

if the other 12% wanna date non-black women, who cares.

And please STOP perpetuating the LIE that black men marry out the most.

LATINOS AND ASIANS DO.


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But aren't marriage rates for Black people down overall? It seems that most of the BM that I see with nonblack women are shacking up so they wouldn't be included in those stats, but even if you were to account for that I don't see it impacting BW negatively.

 

[Truth Hurts]

Japanese, sorry but if you had one before that should not surprise you one bit

 

[godkiller]

Please phase yourself out ASAP

@ this delusional bytch not knowing anything about sample size or statistics. Numbers factor into rates. If a number is too low then it gives a wrong rate. If Mark Sanchez were only judged by 3 good games he played, he would be GOAT

The is a difference between lowest NUMBER and the lowest RATE. Learn the difference.

Your response to @Poitier doesn't respond to what he said. The number is related to the rate. There are so few WM/BW marriages (low sample size here is like Mark Sanchez's low sample size game tape in college where he looked great) and the people who do them are so atypical of the normal black and white groups (essentially they're older and richer since older people generally have more money whereas most white and black couples are younger and poorer) that the stat is worthless.