When I die, I don't know if there's anything else after that. And since I don't know, part of why I wanted to have kids to make sure I would carry on in some way.
Whats your opinion on having kids?
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When I die, I don't know if there's anything else after that. And since I don't know, part of why I wanted to have kids to make sure I would carry on in some way.
Poetical Poltergeist
Precise and cold hearted
I'm like you. I'm content with no knowing what will happen. I dont know if God exists or not.
Thats not why I had kids tho.
That's fair. When you were in my position (one kid), you said you wanted another because didn't want your child to be an only child. That's not why I'd have another. People have different reasons, and usually more than one.
TheDarceKnight
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I was trying to tag the dude I quoted, and I tagged you by mistake. My bad breh.Ummm... I dont think we've spoken before, breh. So I think you got the wrong poster. Im assuming you thought I was a philosophy Major? That sentence was phrased kinda funny. Or maybe you are the philo major? Im personally the exact opposite of a philosopher. Im a computer engineer.
We dont really draw meaning from our observations. Nature kinda implies meaning through laws(thermodynamics, Newton, electric theory) but we don't really delve deep into it. I can show you correlation in data, but thats it.
Kids are something that you are either all in or all out...there is no in between. You life is no longer yours. Your time, your money, your energy all goes to his person/people first. I got 3 and they own my heart. However, shyt is certainly not easy and I'm sure I'd be miserable if this wasn't something that the wife and I planned for.
Ironically, you and your girl sound like ya'll are more fit to be parents than a lot of people that actually have kids. Ya'll have actually thought about it, talked about it, and are in agreement. So many kids are the result of a one night stand or two people that barely know or even care about each other or people doing it just because they think they are supposed to. There is nothing more selfish than having kids that you are not equipped to care for properly.
Ironically, you and your girl sound like ya'll are more fit to be parents than a lot of people that actually have kids. Ya'll have actually thought about it, talked about it, and are in agreement. So many kids are the result of a one night stand or two people that barely know or even care about each other or people doing it just because they think they are supposed to. There is nothing more selfish than having kids that you are not equipped to care for properly.
I hit 28-29, after barely having a serious relationship for 6 years and out doing whatever I wanted, blowing all my money on food, drinks and friends etc.
It got old.
I got old.
I sort of realized that if I was lucky enough to stay relativity healthy, a 1/3rd of my life was over, and what was I going to do with the rest of it?
I didn't really 'think' of like 'how I need to have some kids now!"....it was more of a 'i think I'm ready to move on to the next stage of my life.'
For me, the next stage of my life logically involved having a family...but it was also about having a long term relationship and the stuff that came with it. My older sister had kids young and was and is a fairly lack luster parent. I know a couple who were having some problems and thought a kid would fix it and it is now a divorced situation and a floating kid who they both love, but don't put first.
Everyone is made to have kids, but not everyone's made to raise them
It got old.
I got old.
I sort of realized that if I was lucky enough to stay relativity healthy, a 1/3rd of my life was over, and what was I going to do with the rest of it?
I didn't really 'think' of like 'how I need to have some kids now!"....it was more of a 'i think I'm ready to move on to the next stage of my life.'
For me, the next stage of my life logically involved having a family...but it was also about having a long term relationship and the stuff that came with it. My older sister had kids young and was and is a fairly lack luster parent. I know a couple who were having some problems and thought a kid would fix it and it is now a divorced situation and a floating kid who they both love, but don't put first.
Everyone is made to have kids, but not everyone's made to raise them
Peter Parker
Superstar
Selfishly, I would like children to carry on things but I don't think I would want to be in a relationship or have the kid more than half the time which is fukked up because kids are probably better off in two parent homes and me nor anyone I know grew up with had both parents.
So if it happens it happens but i'm not gonna chase it or think about it
So if it happens it happens but i'm not gonna chase it or think about it
I didn’t think I wanted kids until my sister had two. I get such joy from hanging out with my niece and nephew that I now want kids.
the cac mamba
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id have to say im the opposite. everyone i know with kids, i dont envy them at all
obviously wouldnt knock having kids, im sure its amazing in a lotta ways. but im pretty indifferent to it
Thanks, I appreciate that.
I have an insane cousin whos financially stable and has 4 kids, and she said it was the best and sometimes the worst decision she made/makes (she had more kids and we stopped talking). I certainly do respect people who are good parents to their children, but I find that to be waning.
lmao not what i was expecting from you. I was expecting the fukk kids rant from you.id have to say im the opposite. everyone i know with kids, i dont envy them at all
obviously wouldnt knock having kids, im sure its amazing in a lotta ways. but im pretty indifferent to it
the cac mamba
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i just turned 30, and realized my dream of moving to vegas with a bunch of money. and i plan on spending the rest of my prime years living a selfish, hedonistic lifestyle, spending that money only on myself. kids dont factor into that all
and for the record, nothing about that makes me a good person or citizen
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It's your choice. People will call you out of your name either way. Enjoy your life. If your parents, or especially her parents, start leaning on you, it may get harder.
I got two, personally. Twin girls. Wouldn't want it any other way. I will say that our situation is pretty ideal. My father in law and sister in law live in our home. This lets us actually have a life and work outside the kids. It would be harder and more expensive if it were just the two of us and the girls.
Edit: Becoming a father made me feel more like a man. Gave me a significantly higher sense of purpose. I have a family to protect and provide for.
I got two, personally. Twin girls. Wouldn't want it any other way. I will say that our situation is pretty ideal. My father in law and sister in law live in our home. This lets us actually have a life and work outside the kids. It would be harder and more expensive if it were just the two of us and the girls.
Edit: Becoming a father made me feel more like a man. Gave me a significantly higher sense of purpose. I have a family to protect and provide for.
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