Whats your opinion on having kids?

[mr. smoke weed]

Well?

I'm 33, in a serious relationship and will 100% not have kids. My gf is on the same page and we're good with this. However, when other people here about this they often think were selfish, or will miss out on something amazing. Which I think is none of their business.

So where you at?

 

[OfTheCross]

Well?

I'm 33, in a serious relationship and will 100% not have kids. My gf is on the same page and we're good with this. However, when other people here about this they often think were selfish, or will miss out on something amazing. Which I think is none of their business.

So where you at?

Do you, breh.

I got 1, and it's great, but you don't have to have kids. Especially if your life isn't set-up to handle the task.

 

[invincible1914]

Well?

I'm 33, in a serious relationship and will 100% not have kids. My gf is on the same page and we're good with this. However, when other people here about this they often think were selfish, or will miss out on something amazing. Which I think is none of their business.

So where you at?

Me and my wife don’t seem like we are going to have kids. Like it’s not going to happen. I’m good with it, but it doesn’t matter how hard your stance is. You’re going to feel it. You’re gonna see somebody playing with their little man and something in you is going to be like

 

[AZBeauty]

I wanted more kids but I only have one. All I think about is how much joy we brought to my grandmother and when she was on the decline, everyday one of her grandkids took a day to stay with her. She didnt have to go to a nursing home and she died peacefully while all of us were there. I think about it all the time. My paternal grandfather died in a nursing home, we didnt even know until almost 2 days later.

So my thoughts on having kids all have to do with your grandkids. When you get older, they are such a joy to have around and will probably keep you out of a nursing home. If you dont care about that kind of stuff, then don't have any.

 

[Poetical Poltergeist]

Have them if you want them. If both of you are content with not having children aint nothing wrong with that.

Just don't be surprised when your lady changes her mind and wants one or two. But if you have one might as well have 2. My oldest daughter would be so lonely without her sister and I am glad we had another so she wasn't an only child. My wife is an only child and has no brothers or sisters to lean on or help with her parents. Its a burden.

 

[Hood Critic]

It's a personal preference...

If it does happen, it's a life changing experience in a lot of ways.

 

[EndDomination]

Will likely have them in about 4-5 years if my present GF and I get married and are situated comfortably in both of our careers.

I support anyone who doesn't want children just as much as I support anyone who wants to have children - do you baby.

I think a lot of people look at healthy and well-situated couples and assume they "should" have children, because it'd likely be a "good" household. It makes sense, but no one should have children they don't want.

 

[Rhyse]

I love my kids. They are grown and just remember you never stop parenting no matter how old they get. It is hard. You never know what hand you will be dealt, no matter how well you try to parent. They have brought great joy to my life. The constant worrying about their health (physical, emotional, and mental) and safety is stressful. You won’t be perfect. Ever. It’s expensive. It is the greatest sacrifice and should not be taken so lightly. My kids have been good. They haven’t given us many problems. Just normal kid stuff. But still if I were to have the choice now knowing what I know about life and where this world is I would have chosen to not have kids. I would not be up for the task of bringing kids into the world as it is now.

 

[Mindfield333]

It’s not selfish. It’s selfish to me that folks have kids just because they have the ability too or want someone to take care of them when they age

 

[Arcavian]

The shyt didn't work out for me

 

[GnauzBookOfRhymes]

Well?

I'm 33, in a serious relationship and will 100% not have kids. My gf is on the same page and we're good with this. However, when other people here about this they often think were selfish, or will miss out on something amazing. Which I think is none of their business.

So where you at?

One thing to keep in mind is that these opinions etc can change on a dime. I've seen it many times before with friends and then experienced it myself! One thing I would say is that if you are absolutely clear, to always make sure that your gf/wife is also made aware. I say that bc oftentimes women will keep their actual desire to have kids a secret if they think 1) it will end whatever otherwise healthy/enjoyable/loving relationship they're in or 2) they think they may be able to change YOUR mind later on. Either way anyone who tries to shame another into having kids is a goddamn idiot and worthy of being ignored. The ONLY people that are allowed to do that shyt is your parents LOL

Me and my wife don’t seem like we are going to have kids. Like it’s not going to happen. I’m good with it, but it doesn’t matter how hard your stance is. You’re going to feel it. You’re gonna see somebody playing with their little man and something in you is going to be like

No disrespect and not trying to pry but is it bc of health issues or just your lifestyles won't accommodate?

 

[GnauzBookOfRhymes]

Will likely have them in about 4-5 years if my present GF and I get married and are situated comfortably in both of our careers.

I support anyone who doesn't want children just as much as I support anyone who wants to have children - do you baby.

I think a lot of people look at healthy and well-situated couples and assume they "should" have children, because it'd likely be a "good" household. It makes sense, but no one should have children they don't want.

Many men, even when comfortably situated etc, never feel truly "READY" for kids. I tell ppl it's like someone who is trying to decide whether to go it alone and open their own business. The initial fear of taking the leap can become overwhelming. If you and your wife know you want kids, are gainfully employed and truly love/are committed to each other, take that leap breh.

 

[MaxBundles]

Me and my wife don’t seem like we are going to have kids. Like it’s not going to happen. I’m good with it, but it doesn’t matter how hard your stance is. You’re going to feel it. You’re gonna see somebody playing with their little man and something in you is going to be like

So what exactly is stopping yall? Age? Career? Medical reasons?

 

[MushroomX]

Everyone is entitled to their choice of having them.

That being said, I believe that being a parent is probably the most stressful and the most financially burdening thing one could take up but also be one of the most fulfilling life events.

I don't care what people thinks, Kids COSTS money; from baby supplies to school supplies to healthcare... and throwing in food. Your going to have to invest money in something that is a living person.

Not to mention that a child's development is needed not just from peers, but from the parents. It's a common trope, but a child with two loving parents (even if the parents are same sex/alt. gender) will ultimately have less pitfalls. Not to mention as well that our world, especially for these young kids, will be even more integrated and diverse, leading to culture changes even more.

It's vital to explain not just life events; death, birth of a sibling, but also being honest about the world. Some of the worst parenting I think, is a parent being too afraid of being honest with a child, then again this my opinion. However the key thing is that your building a foundation for them, so that when you die, they will be ready and not fear the future without you.

 

[invincible1914]

So what exactly is stopping yall? Age? Career? Medical reasons?

We didn’t stop. She just hasn’t got pregnant, and I’ve been going in raw for almost 7 years now.

One thing to keep in mind is that these opinions etc can change on a dime. I've seen it many times before with friends and then experienced it myself! One thing I would say is that if you are absolutely clear, to always make sure that your gf/wife is also made aware. I say that bc oftentimes women will keep their actual desire to have kids a secret if they think 1) it will end whatever otherwise healthy/enjoyable/loving relationship they're in or 2) they think they may be able to change YOUR mind later on. Either way anyone who tries to shame another into having kids is a goddamn idiot and worthy of being ignored. The ONLY people that are allowed to do that shyt is your parents LOL


No disrespect and not trying to pry but is it bc of health issues or just your lifestyles won't accommodate?

I don’t know what it is. She has three other sisters and only one of them has had a biological child. The other nieces and nephews were either adopted or step children.