Not like I used to. My girls fam is going to Mexico in November. We usually all vacation together. But we can't take our daughter on a plane yet. If she freaks out I'd hate it for the other people. Sometimes she hates half hour car rides. Plus I don't want to be just taking care of her in another country. We won't enjoy it as much. Between therapy for her for multiple things, special school, home physio therapy and just trying to be good to her, and understanding, not much time. My in laws are life saviors and babysit every weekend. I work days, wife's an overnight nurse. So without them we'd be in trouble. Even our sex life has been minimized. Trying to fix that, but stress kills a woman's libido.
What's your mid-life crisis?
- Thread starter Digital Omen
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I'm in Toronto Canada. Our provincial government hates special needs people (Doug Ford). Kids are almost ignored here. We get the help we can, and every 3 months or so come out of pocket (aprox $1500)for very intense private physio therapy sessions with a world renowned children's therapist. We also have the CEO of Sickkids Toronto as our daughters main specialists. He's actually the doctor who kind of discovered her genetic disorder maybe 10-15 years ago. GRIN 1. But to get here it took pulling teeth. Family doctor was negligent AF until I wrote her a very sternly worded letter ketting her know I was very disappointed she wasn't taking our concerns seriously. She was missing so many milestones. After that letter, her whole tone changed. Since then the process has been slow, especially genetic testing her, myself, and moms, but it's progressing. Now we have so many people invested into helping her. But there is still so much more that can be done here. If you're a family without help, or low finances, you're totally vulnerable and in a horrible spot.
I can identify for sure with elements u posted above. So glad u have family! Thats a gamechanger to keep ur sanity and maintain any kind of 'normal' life. When I say normal, I mean what we all imagined. That's a bit of a fiction for millions and millions in America
It is, except when it comes to people of needs. It's the one thing the US has us beat on. In the US, we'll at least some states, parents like myself arw paid to stay home and care the child. They understand that helping to create a bit of self sustainability is cheaper than the state having to raise the person later in life. That's what jeeps me up at night more than anything. Knowing when we're gone, there is a good chance she's left to some strangers in a institution. It fukking sucks.
Every night before I'm about to fall asleep this flashes in my mind and keeps me up at least another 1-3 hours. My insomnia this summer has been almost crippling. Weed isn't even helping anymore.breh this got me legit choked up
Digital Omen
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What are you doing tagging graffiti and smoking blunts ? that was my teen rebellion
the cac mamba
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free, or efficient. take your pick
bourgeoisie tall freak
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i think going through the quarter life/ 1/3 life crisis (getting burned out of work and stopped full time career work for a few years) will prevent me from the midlife. cuz that is when i took time to relax, fukk around, grow personally and know myself better.
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bourgeoisie tall freak
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does the kid take a nap? i don't have kids but i will still watch other people's kids and still be working on my laptop and i'll be damned if i don't get food in lol. child care seems easy peasy tbh but i been watching kids since i was like 7 so i am not phased by it as a grown ass woman.
BaldingSoHard
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Yeah he naps but it's usually not till I get home from work when she would make herself lunch anyway.