Ghetto & ratchet doesn't automatically =fight. I don't understand how a grown man goes 10 yrs without a fight
being civilized, not hot tempered, having total control of his/her own emotions and being around others who are the same. The fact that you even said that out your mouth lets me know that you put hands on your girl/wife.
Fighting outside of sport/ or physical training is primitive for the most part.
(there are rare exceptions, but like I said if you don't associate with idiots it probably would never happen)
I occasionally throw on gloves and box with my homie but that's as far as it goes for me. Haven't fought someone out of anger since I was an immature teen.
How do your fights usually start? I bet it involves some hot headed idiot you were associating yourself with, or you were in the vicinity of idiots
(bars, clubs...etc....fights rarely break out at libraries and bookstores), or you might have been the idiot who started it. That's usually how it happens. Most civilized people don't go out their way to insult or disrespect others so fights are less likely to happen