What is benching? The latest dating trend has some feeling ‘disposable

[Neuromancer]

There’s shame in this game.

“Benching” — a sports term used to describe putting a player on the sidelines during competition — is a move making some people feel like sore losers in the dating game.

There’s shame in this game.

“Benching” — a sports term used to describe putting a player on the sidelines during competition — is a move making some people feel like sore losers in the dating game.

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Match chief dating expert Rachel DeAlto told The Post that benching is very similar to the “breadcrumbing” trend.

“You like them, you just don’t like them enough to prioritize them,” DeAlto explained.

Feeling like a backup can damage a dater’s self-esteem.

“It is an innately human desire to be wanted and seen. Being benched creates a cycle of unmet expectations and unclear boundaries, and the person being benched will likely start to feel like they aren’t
important,” DeAlto added.



It is an innately human desire to be wanted and seen. Being benched creates a cycle of unmet expectations and unclear boundaries, and the person being benched will likely start to feel like they aren’t important,” DeAlto added.

What is benching? The latest dating trend has some feeling ‘disposable’

“I was so insulted that he had the self-awareness, but also the nerve to say the quiet part out loud, so I told him I needed space,” one dater told The Post.

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[jdubnyce]

Great sex’ can happen if you have these three things: experts

Dear Abby: I have a crush on my pickleball partner — but she’s married

And "Benching" is not new....we've been managing rosters for years

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

And "Benching" is not new....we've been managing rosters for years

true not new at all

at this point my hobbies and goals are more important...

when i run into one that changes that cool...until then.....

 

[shopthatwrecks]

peckerwoods done discovered a new term..thats played out

 

[Commish]

Benching is par for the course, especially on online dating apps, sites and even within the conventional realm.

Those who choose to put themselves out there must accept what comes with it. People, especially on online services, gonna do whatever they feel is best in order to gain a favorable outcome. Unfortunately, it may come @ someone else's expense.

Gotta develop a thick skin, roll with the punches and hope for the best. Lastly, check your ego because nobody cares about your feelings, even those with good intentions.

 

[Neuromancer]

And "Benching" is not new....we've been managing rosters for years

These things only become popular headlines when white women do them.

 

[Paper Boi]

I'm starting to think all of these people are severely mentally ill


I know way too many regular people, who you'd swear would never be able to find a relationship because the apps are so toxic/the dating game is out of control etc. etc. that are in relationships.


all these people that are dealing with all these modern dating issues need a reality check

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

Act like a common thing is some new fukking phenomenon!


I hate Journalism.

 

[Neuromancer]

Act like a common thing is some new fukking phenomenon!


I hate Journalism.

It's because white women started doing it that it gets notoriety.

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

It's because white women started doing it that it gets notoriety.

Started????????????


Sure!

 

[Scientific Playa]

Almost everybody I knew or know that had/has any old job and a working hoopty to get around town has/had a roster to manage.

 

[Piff Perkins]

Lot of women realizing they aren't the hot friend, they aren't a 10 etc and it's making them mad. You see a lot of articles about "toxic" dating practices or experiences that really just boil down to average people being mad they're treated averagely. Applies to brehs too. If you know you're not tall, handsome, charismatic etc then it's time to lower your standards fellas. Your grandad married a 6/10 and built a good family life. What are you waiting for?

 

[re'up]

These increasing labeling classifications of somewhat normal and in some ways healthy behavior as toxic is probably not healthy, and a lot these things are all ego based (the list has become endless

ghosting, breadcrumbing, benching, zombiing, you are labeling basic human behavior as this deviant thing. (ghosting, is one that is pretty unhealthy, at a base level)

there's this idea that you meet someone and get on a fast track plan to marriage and anything else is unacceptable

life is often more complicated. Sometimes people probably "bench" me, and I probably "bench" others, sometimes it's not even on purpose,

but the underlying theme is that it is intolerable to some people that you aren't the priority, to me that's all part of the game.

 

[Neuromancer]

Lot of women realizing they aren't the hot friend, they aren't a 10 etc and it's making them mad. You see a lot of articles about "toxic" dating practices or experiences that really just boil down to average people being mad they're treated averagely. Applies to brehs too. If you know you're not tall, handsome, charismatic etc then it's time to lower your standards fellas. Your grandad married a 6/10 and built a good family life. What are you waiting for?

Whoa RedPill Piff.

 

[Scaaar]

true not new at all

at this point my hobbies and goals are more important...

when i run into one that changes that cool...until then.....

Yeah that's what type of time I'm on. I want a bigger home in like 5 yrs so I cut back on stuff to save one of my biggest expenses was just socializing and dating multiple people. So I just fell back and started working on me. Most chics didn't mind and just went about their lives but there was one that still tried to say I manipulated her. It comes with the territory when you're moving out here.