What are the benefits of having a a non black spouse?? List them please:
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Amerikan Melanin
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My stomach don’t discriminate breh. I don’t eat raw sushi though. I don’t trust it.So its cool for your stomach to swirl
@Amerikan Melanin
I kinda see where you want this conversation to go, but I don’t see the point in the angle you’re working.
My wife is more Native American than she is black. We both did our DNA/genetic history thing and I’m black, but only 57% African genetically (both of my parents are mixed, as are hers). I’ve lived my life as a black man. I’ve always been for the advancement of black people.
Not that it makes a difference in how I live my life, but why does “swirling” bother you so much?
Kind of a slow day for me, so I’ll try to make time to have a rational discussion about this with you.
I kinda see where you want this conversation to go, but I don’t see the point in the angle you’re working.
My wife is more Native American than she is black. We both did our DNA/genetic history thing and I’m black, but only 57% African genetically (both of my parents are mixed, as are hers). I’ve lived my life as a black man. I’ve always been for the advancement of black people.
Not that it makes a difference in how I live my life, but why does “swirling” bother you so much?
Kind of a slow day for me, so I’ll try to make time to have a rational discussion about this with you.
Treblemaka
President, BYNKRadio.com (Retired)
I respect that you're willing to stay consistent with your values.
Imo "Career women" don't get married for a bunch of reasons but it's not usually because of career pursuits. Almost half of black women never get married and a big part of that is because they don't get proposed to.
While I respect that is the way you want to raise your daughter, If pursuing a good man is more important than a career then you would also be teaching her (as i understand it) to deproritize her own self sufficiency in pursuit of a good man. People without careers earn less, have less stability (in multiple ways), and often suffered increase health problems related to the stress of that instability.
Or do I misunderstand?
ThrobbingHood
“I’m Sorry for 2025”
Just my two cents… there are many factors working against career black women getting proposed to:
1. Way more black women in college than black men. People can debate the “validity” of those degrees but it’s just a statistical fact.
2. The black eligible bachelors know they’re considered a commodity within those circles, and have no need to settle and keep those women in rotation.
3. A lot of black women in these professional circles are prepared academically to prosper in the corporate world but not prepared socially. I’ve met so many of them who really don’t know how to date, ergo, are not wifey material at all and are completely game goofy.
4. Again, the higher up you go, the fewer black faces there are. It’s almost inevitable black folk will date out if they want to marry their socio-economic equal.
That’s why I don’t judge when I see these career black women swirling. The odds are stacked against them. I got lucky but I never deny how I got my unicorn.
It’s unfair to expect career black women to either date down or keep waiting for this magical black unicorn to drop on their doorstep.
cyndaquil
Lv 100 Bold natured
dead assI don't think most dudes just checking for a skin color just looking at who's attractive to them that they can pull
Amerikan Melanin
Veteran
@Amerikan Melanin
I kinda see where you want this conversation to go, but I don’t see the point in the angle you’re working.
My wife is more Native American than she is black. We both did our DNA/genetic history thing and I’m black, but only 57% African genetically (both of my parents are mixed, as are hers). I’ve lived my life as a black man. I’ve always been for the advancement of black people.
Not that it makes a difference in how I live my life, but why does “swirling” bother you so much?
Kind of a slow day for me, so I’ll try to make time to have a rational discussion about this with you.
I guess because I come from a super black family it’s strange to me. Especially knowing how CACs think about us. Can’t imagine having Thanksgiving with CACs.
MoshpitMazi
Moshpit Gxng/ Anti Fash
My current girlfriend is Carribean Indian, the culture difference is cool. I like going and exploring new places and I feel that energy when kicking it w her.
I'll date any race If she fits what I like but I ain't been wit a YT bytch other than some casual type stuff.
Never cared who another nikka fukk
I'll date any race If she fits what I like but I ain't been wit a YT bytch other than some casual type stuff.
Never cared who another nikka fukk
This is pretty hilarious. I've dated BW and dated out (White, Latina) and I actually do find it funny when people make IR their personality so I do get that.
With that said I'm all for people living their life how they want. I still love and support my people. I don't get the obsession with dikk watching tho. It used to be "we don't care who you date as long as you don't talk about BW/BM" to casual jokes about swirlers (which again I think are fine) to posts like this.
There's more things to be focused on and if we're keeping a buck maybe the "Black experience" those people had influenced them dating out. Who are we to judge as long as they aren't on some c00n shyt?
With that said I'm all for people living their life how they want. I still love and support my people. I don't get the obsession with dikk watching tho. It used to be "we don't care who you date as long as you don't talk about BW/BM" to casual jokes about swirlers (which again I think are fine) to posts like this.
There's more things to be focused on and if we're keeping a buck maybe the "Black experience" those people had influenced them dating out. Who are we to judge as long as they aren't on some c00n shyt?
MoshpitMazi
Moshpit Gxng/ Anti Fash
Kasper KArr
Go-getter from the Lower East Side
Nah let’s ask you herpes lips since you tried pinning a messican’s baby on a black man
So I left after that.
He got drunk on rum and I ended up catching him with dirty hoes 1 even had oral herpes. So I went for a meal in Ocho Rios and when I returned he whooped me. 2 weeks later (incubation period) I have herpes on my face.
Treblemaka
President, BYNKRadio.com (Retired)
1. The average bm makes more money than the average bw. That's both with and without a degree. Her career isn't the cause of her "not being able to find a man" scarcity is.
2. The eligible bachelor that isn't marriage minded (so not really eligible) is going to keep a rotation regardless of whether the woman has a degree or not, so that affects all black women not just career minded ones.
3. Most people (regardless of gender) don't really know how to date, and aren't ready to. They don't know themselves, don't do the work to fix themselves, and don't know what healthiest for them from a relationship standpoint. That has nothing to with career.
4. The higher up you go the fewer black faces there are but there are still more black male faces than there are female black faces so that should favor the woman. It's not because of her career she's not getting selected.
A dusty female ain't winning more in life at anything over a career minded woman. If she's dusty it's likely related to her socio economic development during adolescents which carries all the problems that make a woman ineligible to most marriage minded men. It's not that she's career minded that discounts her unless the career is intimidating to the men she wants to date. Its the same personality flaws alot of women suffer from in our community.
Of course a dusty woman is going to be more "agreeable" to a focused ambitious man, she needs his check for a come up.
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I can tell you from a deeper perspective that we, humans, put a lot of importance in our vehicle or body and that vehicle is not who we are.
Your consciousness exist beyond the physical realm. When you die, if your awareness is there and you are ready to progress beyond this physical realm, you’ll come to the realization that many of our flaws, desires, etc. are due to our consciousness inhabiting an animal shell.
We are all part of one larger consciousness and unfortunately let the “rules” of this physical realm dictate our understanding of life. The color and shape of your vehicle may bring you favor or disapproval from the next person, but it ultimately doesn’t define who or what you are.
This. Once I started looking at myself as a soul in a human body shyt changes. When you look back in your previous lives and see that your soul has been different races of people the more this shyt doesn’t hold importance. That’s why relationships are fukked up because a high percentage of people don’t come at relationships at that level. I can literally say all the serious relationships I’ve had came at a soul level. My first one taught me how to love my second one was very spiritual and she opened me up to more new age spirituality but because we came from trauma we both didn’t know how to stop our traumas from destroying our relationship. the third which is my wife today showing me more of the actions of what it is to be a good human being. Like obviously my wife has her bullshyt but she is a good human. She’s compassionate, loyal, and loving.
The races of all three girls my first was Trinidadian and White, My last two were both black. The second one was brown skin and my wife is a redbone. Each girl has given me different perspectives on relationships.
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