Just to continue off this... men don’t seek validation from their homies/nikkas. We might ask for their opinion on a guh we’re interested in, like, “ what you think about ol guh
”. *homie gives his rundown*. Our decision to pursue her isn’t tied up or based on our peers opinion of a guh unless we are looking to cuff and you hear word that ol guh is a sleeze, then we’ll proceed with caution(or at least we should). If my boy tells me a guh I’m eyeing is hit and I think she’s attractive as hell, guess what? I’m still about to holla.
I remember in high school I wasn’t getting any play until a cheerleader and track runner by the name of Chelsea( tall with a bubble, redbone, pretty face) started walking with me to lunch and shyt and sitting with me in Health class. Then all of a sudden the girls come flockin. Men don’t work like that.
Men see Ashanti as beautiful and gorgeous and want to be with her bc she just is. Not bc other men see her worth so we start noticing her too