This is all I’m saying.
Preferences aren’t the issue. Going out of your way to literally hate on somebody and carrying vitriol in ur heart for somebody that hasn’t done anything to you simply b/c of the color of their skin is social conditioning. Then accusing them of being insecure or ugly just for sharing or for having legitimate gripes about their experiences is the way we deny and try to pretend there is an issue.
I don’t think it’s just blk women who go thru this shyt. I think blk men go thru it too.
But getting angry or resentful or accusing people of lying about their experiences with the shyt doesn’t help us get to the bottom of the problem. I don’t think anyone who finds someone with light skin attractive is a self-hater. Nor do I think having a sole preference for somebody light or dark is an issue.
But when you start using harmful stereotypes to justify ur preferences like calling dark skinned women masculine or light skinned men feminine, and other stupid shyt, that’s a clear indication of social programming.
In addition to the self-hate programmed into our community via our music, media, imagery, lies in research presented about us, there is also a larger dynamic of personality traits and archetypes categorized arbitrarily according to color schemes. Good vs. evil corresponding to light and dark. Masculine and feminine, dirty vs. purity.
When u layer those deeper social dichotomies on top of our racist history, you get an image of blackness and femininity that has been demonized in a way that renders black women in comparison to white women as being associated with negative categories much like black men are portrayed negatively in comparison to white men. Black women naked sold on auction blocks in juxtaposition to white women being so pure that someone even looking or accused of doing so resulted in the torture and lynching of blk males.
The extent to which the image of blk females, particularly those farthest from any approximation of stereotyped whiteness in skin tone and in physical features like hair, body shape, and the like has been turned into a negative and is continually undermined today is something I’m glad people are starting to unpack and expose.
In the end, the journey to self-love has to happen in spite of the ignorance we are inundated with on the daily. But it’s helpful in the initiation of a shift in cultural paradigms for people to share the shyt they have gone through so others suffering understand that their concerns are legitimate.
I mean a few generations ago we literally had shyt like brown paper bag tests and there has been legal precedent needed for blk women in schools just to be able to wear their hair the way it grows out of its heads. I’m not even dark skinned and I’ve seen some of this shyt for myself, so I can’t even sit and front like ever dark skinned person that went thru this shyt is just ugly and insecure and using excuses.
that's 40 to 50 pounds right there.
after every workout.
