I hate the term free will, for some reason it has a connotation with me of a higher power, maybe religion.
All it is, is a synonym for choices.
What we boil down to, after our genes and DNA is choices. The only thing we can really control are our thoughts, feelings and actions. We might not being able to control initial stimuli, such as what triggers a thought, a feeling or cause to to act, but we can control our reactions. That's what can get us anywhere in the world, that's what can move us up and down social ladders. That's is our greatest tool for survival.
Thanks for answering my questions. I agree on everything you said for the most part, on a surface level.
What I usually do in my life, because I like to dig deeper, is ask the question "why?". To everything.
Why does such thing happen? Why does an event occur this way? etc.
There's a thing the question "why?" "hates".
Randomness. Why did the coin that I tossed end up on this side and not the other?
Randomness: "because. Could have happened the other way around. The result just popped out of nowhere".
The thing is, logic and understanding show us that randomness actually doesn't exist in reality. If that coin ended up on this particular side, this is because you tossed it with this particular force, causing this particular friction with the air also due to this particular temperature, without forgetting to consider the wind... There are no randomness in reality but causes and effects, right? That means we can always ask the question "why" to go back up the chain of causes and effects.
Why do the coin...? Force, wind... Why do the wind...? Differences in temperature from a region to another. Why temperature...? Sun rays reflecting on different surfaces. Why...?
Etc etc etc.
Everything happening in the universe is an effect and has a cause, whether we know this cause or not.
Now, if we agree on all this, and consider the case of the human, who is an element of this reality...
Each decision. Each action made by a person has one or several causes, because there is no randomness like you said.
But what happens if I try to go back up this chain of causes and effects???
Well what happens is that I soon or later end up quitting the sphere of human consciousness, even the sphere of mankind, to find out that the causes that are responsible for the actions we undertake are out of our control.
You "chose"/"decide" to save a person in danger. Why? Because you are brave. Why? Because you've been raised that way and saw examples of people helping others when needed during your childhood. And you have no control over these events, these causes and effects, that made you brave and made you take this decision. You were made and molded by life to take this decision. Thus the reason why we cannot talk of free will, because the reasons you did that are all outside of your control. You don't have control.
The many choices and options are an illusion, because like you said, you always choose something for a reason. And if I look up the reason of that reason, and then the reason of that reason, etc... I'll end up concluding that the primary reasons were outside of your reach.
You can think of 10 different ways of scratching your ear. You'll do that because you're imaginative and because you want to prove to that poster that free will exists. You're imaginative and wanted because... You know the rest. All I have to do is go back up the chain of reasons.
You'll choose one manner of scratching your ear rather than another for a reason. If I go back up the chain, I'll know exactly why and it will be because of something you had no control over at the end of this day.
For free will to exist you have to have randomness. It cannot work without it. Because without randomness, everything is causes and effects. Down to the actions men commit.