Unsung Heroes In The Black Community: Stepfathers Get No Praise In The Black Community

[Cel 510 kid ados forever]

If a child is living in your house, eating your food, wearing clothes you bought, using your electricity and water and gas, being instilled with your morals and values then you are their father, period. It's silly that a person can automatically be designated a full fledged parent on the strength of a nut but a person that actually raises a child can be dismissed as a "step". People in general don't respect all that goes into being a parent...the time, the money, the energy. It's more than you could imagine as a non-parent. Anyone that takes all that on and does their thing warrants respect. It takes a special type of person to do so with someone that isn't biologically related. Biggest issue in our society period is people being so damn selfish and not giving a fukk about the next generation.

Dad is the person who made the child. u cant be on earth without a nut. so this post makes no sense. step dads are only there long as they with the mom and many are a joke as well and favor there kids over there step kids. so it only work if the dad not involved and the step dad has no kids

 

[Trapperman Dave]

Like I said before the amount of respect those kids would have for you cannot be measured. If i know im the difference between the young kid going to college or running the streets i'd be a step dad. Those kids didn't ask to be born. Y'all don't think they don't wonder why their father didn't want to be in their lives? Seems some of yall just dap fishing because yall HOH GMB nikkas right?

 

[MalikX]

This is pretty much what most of these nikkaz in here can't seem to separate themselves from... The obsession with "the other nikka"... Grown men, don't give a fukk about the that nikka. The kids bio father/ the bytch's ex is the furthest thing from a grown mans mind.. Lil (minded) nikkaz can't grasp that concept and can't function in a relationship while (insecure) obsessing about the kids bio fathers life.



Because being a deadbeat requires zero effort.. And people fear , hate and make fun of things they don't understand.

Real men date single moms, huh? That's all I got from your post

 

[MalikX]

....I think a lot of black men are just fearful of the father showing back up/or the kid not ever warming up to him and saying the ever dreaded, "you're not my father anyway" (after raising him/her for 10-12 years). If I KNEW the dad was never going to be in the picture again and the kids were decent kids, I could probably do it. Only reason I hate on Russell is because he's an NFL athlete with a crazy amount of options and future was clearly a thug and he chose to make up for HER mistake by marrying her. At the end of the day, the better fathers are usually the one's without kids I can't even hate anymore because I'm not shooting into these pussies and avoiding doing it. As I get older though, it may be about that time to coat those walls

I could raise a daughter that wasn't mine. If you met them while they were young, they would mostly likely come to view you as their dad, and if you met them too late in the game, doesn't matter. They're not a threat.

There's no way I could raise a son that wasn't mine.

 

[FTBS]

Dad is the person who made the child. u cant be on earth without a nut. so this post makes no sense. step dads are only there long as they with the mom and many are a joke as well and favor there kids over there step kids. so it only work if the dad not involved and the step dad has no kids

You can't remain on earth as a child if your basic needs aren't being met by someone else. Those years of investment are far more indicative of parenthood and deserving of acknowledgement and respect than an involuntary response ie a nut. Of course step dads that don't do shyt don't fall in that category. And of course it's different if the bio dad is actually doing his job.

 

[OG_StankBrefs]

Kudos to those who have no prollem fillin dat void but I personally could neva start playin & enjoyin some otha nikka's saved game like dat.


I want mah own shyt.

 

[Cel 510 kid ados forever]

You can't remain on earth as a child if your basic needs aren't being met by someone else. Those years of investment are far more indicative of parenthood and deserving of acknowledgement and respect than an involuntary response ie a nut. Of course step dads that don't do shyt don't fall in that category. And of course it's different if the bio dad is actually doing

I get it but I wouldn't view u like I do someone I birthed its a different feeling and there thing u do with ur real kids u cant do with step cause there not ur kids. the way u discipline them etc. u cant do something to someone else child like ur own. plus they dont carry ur last name or extend your legacy

 

[Marco Zen]

Real men date single moms, huh? That's all I got from your post

I think it takes a certain level of maturity to date one yea..

 

[FTBS]

@Marcelrellu

Those limitations are all self-imposed. You don't have friends that you feel as close to, if not even closer, than some family members? If you could never establish that level of closeness with a person that you aren't a blood relation to then either none of us would ever start families or we'd all be inbreeding. If you are raising and taking care of a child, why can't you discipline them? You living in my house, eating my food, abiding by my rules...why they hell can't I whoop that ass when it's necessary? This is the problem. Too many people view parenthood as an individual act rather than a lifetime's worth of actions. You earn your position as a parent.

You can adopt a child and have their last name changed. Many bio kids don't carry their father's last name anyway. Your legacy is all about what you give the next generation. You can have 50 kids with your name but if you don't do your job as a father, what legacy do you have...that of a bytch ass nikka? Conversely, you can take a child that is not biologically yours and pour your values and wisdom into them and extend your legacy. Shaq is a massively successful icon. Every chance he gets, he speaks on the impact that his father (not the nikka that nutted) had on him and his path in life.

It's not for everyone no doubt. I can't knock a person for wanting to have their own...shyt I did. However, the reality is many people are gonna end up in relationships with a person that has kids. Too many people out here with kids for everyone to just get their own. The people that step up to do the job that the biological parent couldn't/wouldn't do deserve every bit the same respect, if not more really since it is not your biological child and thusly you are making a conscious decision to take on a burden that you really don't have to, that bio parents get.

 

[Cel 510 kid ados forever]

@Marcelrellu

Those limitations are all self-imposed. You don't have friends that you feel as close to, if not even closer, than some family members? If you could never establish that level of closeness with a person that you aren't a blood relation to then either none of us would ever start families or we'd all be inbreeding. If you are raising and taking care of a child, why can't you discipline them? You living in my house, eating my food, abiding by my rules...why they hell can't I whoop that ass when it's necessary? This is the problem. Too many people view parenthood as an individual act rather than a lifetime's worth of actions. You earn your position as a parent.

You can adopt a child and have their last name changed. Many bio kids don't carry their father's last name anyway. Your legacy is all about what you give the next generation. You can have 50 kids with your name but if you don't do your job as a father, what legacy do you have...that of a bytch ass nikka? Conversely, you can take a child that is not biologically yours and pour your values and wisdom into them and extend your legacy. Shaq is a massively successful icon. Every chance he gets, he speaks on the impact that his father (not the nikka that nutted) had on him and his path in life.

It's not for everyone no doubt. I can't knock a person for wanting to have their own...shyt I did. However, the reality is many people are gonna end up in relationships with a person that has kids. Too many people out here with kids for everyone to just get their own. The people that step up to do the job that the biological parent couldn't/wouldn't do deserve every bit the same respect, if not more really since it is not your biological child and thusly you are making a conscious decision to take on a burden that you really don't have to, that bio parents get.

I respect what u saying fam this a great post

 

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