Do you think your father taught you how NOT to be a husband and father?
Tyler The Creator "Like Him"
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Breh I got it so bad because he came within a year or so of abandonment, and even then my spirit felt unease with him being in the picture.
Hell, the wedding photos consisted of me crying and whining all over the place
. Like my spirit knew the dude wasn't going to be shyt and it became apparent.I will never forgive him for proposing to another woman at my mother's funeral. And the fact that he pulled the plug.
Thank god, I couldn't afford to even go up to see my mothers dying days, as if she knew that I would have been doing the OG prison pose with my actions concerning him.
Not only can Tyler relate to it, A lot of posters on here can too. That’s where the hatred of women comes from on here,
I’ll never forget that thread where a lot of posters on here was talking about their dislikes of their mothers because of how they treated their fathers. I wish I could find that thread
I’ll never forget that thread where a lot of posters on here was talking about their dislikes of their mothers because of how they treated their fathers. I wish I could find that thread
RickyDiBiase
The Sword of Jesus of Nazareth
Oh absolutely. And growing up and realizing how he did everyone from my mama to other family members bogus, solidified that.
There's a reason why I can recall almost 30 years ago hearing my grandfather speak highly of a lot of people, and my father was never one of them, and now that I'm older, realizing that's where our animosity stems from.
This thread somehow will be overlooked 
. Like the evil that men do goes deeper than abandonment.
There's layers to this shyt. But accountability and facing the truth is Kryptonite especially involving black families.
Imagine if a mother admits to their child, that the father wasn't much of a coward, but we just couldn't get it together, it's my fault...the scenery would change.
Imagine if a father tries to touch on the subject at hand concerning the failed relationship with the mother.
Hell, the proof is in the pudding that hurt people are hurting, but we will continue the "nikkas ain't shyt" steez because it's society embedded.
The cycle must be broken.
. Like the evil that men do goes deeper than abandonment.There's layers to this shyt. But accountability and facing the truth is Kryptonite especially involving black families.
Imagine if a mother admits to their child, that the father wasn't much of a coward, but we just couldn't get it together, it's my fault...the scenery would change.
Imagine if a father tries to touch on the subject at hand concerning the failed relationship with the mother.
Hell, the proof is in the pudding that hurt people are hurting, but we will continue the "nikkas ain't shyt" steez because it's society embedded.
The cycle must be broken.
Richard Glidewell
Superstar
I don't hate her.......I give her all the grace and then some that you could ask of a saint let alone a normal man/son.......if I could go back and undo myself to give her a better chance at life I wouldn't hesitate but in my mind and in my heart I know she would make my sacrifice useless..........I am well adjusted extension...... successful...... respectable...... but I had to choose because it was never nurtured.........i grew up fighting the temper my father's people told me i had and it's a blessing they did because i understood why the anger and intrusive thoughts were there........ whyi could let them win...... and why i had to completely turn my back to people in things because ihad allthe makings of a TV movie monster until iwas 20.... succeeding in spite of real and construed roads blocks makes me feel so good...... it's the fuel that powers me these days.......
Richard Glidewell
Superstar
Brethren........ there have been a minimum of 4 men my mother convinced might be my father......... after the blood test a decade plus later....... one of them STILL after being shown a blood test that he wasn't........ wants a blood test....... that's one more thing to boost me....... I turned out so well he can not accept I am not his son......... or is it that my mother did such a job in his mind that he is still broken....
Fiji Water
Every moment is an opportunity
Great song and since people are sharing, I'll give you one.
My father was a drug addict, con artist, and Vietnam vet. But he loves his kids. He just didn't know how to deal with me.
When I was 7, he attempted to murder my stepmother for embezzling money from him. He ripped her leg off and threw it into the Doberman kennel. I watched the cops kill my dogs and take my dade to prison. For the third time.
It drove me to suicidal thoughts. Drove me to be the Muslim I am today. I was constantly abused and had the shyt beat out of me.
Even to this day, on the outside, he lives a delusion that he should be forgiven.
And I only forgive because of God.
Black fatherhood can be so hard. But nothing is too hard. And while I commend his mom and love the track, I think that more dads should do better. Like, why you leave me? Even when it was hard, you still gave up?
I have a 2 year old with a woman that never loved me. And I say that as a reflection on myself. My baby mom was difficult and I have a thread on her about it. But if it means everything to the child, not the adult, then fukking be there. Even if it's a whisper. Harry Potter had owls.
I can't imagine ever giving up but I definitely understand.
My father was a drug addict, con artist, and Vietnam vet. But he loves his kids. He just didn't know how to deal with me.
When I was 7, he attempted to murder my stepmother for embezzling money from him. He ripped her leg off and threw it into the Doberman kennel. I watched the cops kill my dogs and take my dade to prison. For the third time.
It drove me to suicidal thoughts. Drove me to be the Muslim I am today. I was constantly abused and had the shyt beat out of me.
Even to this day, on the outside, he lives a delusion that he should be forgiven.
And I only forgive because of God.
Black fatherhood can be so hard. But nothing is too hard. And while I commend his mom and love the track, I think that more dads should do better. Like, why you leave me? Even when it was hard, you still gave up?
I have a 2 year old with a woman that never loved me. And I say that as a reflection on myself. My baby mom was difficult and I have a thread on her about it. But if it means everything to the child, not the adult, then fukking be there. Even if it's a whisper. Harry Potter had owls.
I can't imagine ever giving up but I definitely understand.
RickyDiBiase
The Sword of Jesus of Nazareth
Scustin Bieburr
Baby baybee baybee UUUGH
I see where you're coming from, but that doesn't explain the men who realize "this woman is crazy, I can't let my child(ren) be left alone with her" and they take their kids and dip.
I know a woman where that was her exact scenario. She's close with her dad even though he has flaws(got caught up in the system
) because he made his daughter a priority. He knew what he'd be setting her up for if he left her alone with her mom.If you married the wrong person, your child should not have to bear the brunt of their resentments and toxicity. You're choosing your peace over your child's if you dip instead of constantly making efforts to get your child to a safe place. Your child didn't have a say in who their mother or father would be. You owe it to them to keep them safe as one half of the reason they're even here(something they couldn't have even asked for).
Two adults weren't ready to be parents and were not compatible with each other. An innocent child should not have to pay the price of their parents failures.
Black Excellence
All Star
This thread>the song
