Topic for the grown folk: Keeping the peace in your household

[Texas2step]

Like most people said already just set the tone early, pick your battles, and remember it takes 2 to argue.

Also I used to just let her have her way. I knew she was wrong but I wanted her to see for herself and that would minimize most arguments

 

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Have side pieces

 

[Heafcliffe]

THIS. This also lets them know low key that when you DO choose to go to battle, that it's more than likely case where she now knows that she . If you constantly going to war, your words lose effect over time cause you always going the rah-rah route.

My wife is cool, too, but every now and then I gotta go ahead and get buck and let her know that I ain't playing. She's Puerto Rican, and it seems like they need that in their lives for some reason. It seems like everything can be cool for a good while, and she'll come at me about something that I know SHE KNOWS is stupid. Then I'll give her the face like "you bored? you wanna start an argument over THIS?"





THIS was the biggest problem we faced when we got married. She came from a family that all lived within like a ten block radius. So it was nothing to them to have a bunch of people in their house. I didn't come from that. So we'd come home from work, and I'm thinking we gonna chill, and she got her sister and cousins wanting to come over, and I'm like . I told her if she wanna be around them, go to their house, or at least do it when I ain't home. I'm in my house trying to , and I got a house full of women running their mouth. We got it addressed. That's partly the reason why we moved here after most of them moved to Florida. Now we never have to worry about the "drop by" again.

Now, her mother can't live by herself, so she'll split time between our house and her sister's house in Florida. I had to set some guidelines and parameters then. Again, my wife comes from a family where everybody is around and all in each other's business. I'm not from that. My pops taught me to keep my business to myself. So my wife might want to discuss something with me, and my mother in law will be around like , and I'll be like "come holla at me upstairs". She knows now not to discuss anything with me in front of them; I don't care if it's just us talking about where we going to dinner next week. I hate having a conversation with HER, and she got her unit, all ears, listening to our conversation. She would be like "but we not talking about anything deep or personal", and I'm like "I don't care it's just the principal of it. Why you gotta be all in my convo? Watch the TV or something. Mind ya business"

I feel u on the mother shyt. My mom falls back. Not really in contact like that (nother story) but her mom calls like everyday. She not trying to be in our business or anything butshe could relax with sometimes. My fiancee knows my feelings and I got nothing but love her mom but stop calling about:

-seeing a church friend on 12th street today
-you new furniture came
-you trying a new recipe for okra

You get my point. Trying to enjoy my fiancee alone.

 

[unit321]

Ladies and Brethren in marriages or serious relationships, I have a question.

What are some things you do to keep the peace in your household or relationship?

I go out on 3 mile jogs just to keep my blood pressure in check.

What do you do to minimize or squash disagreements and/or arguments?

Well, I would like to just shoot my sister-in-law in the head because she's a retard idiot biotch, and then drop the body off in Southeast DC. But, I'm a nice guy so I don't do that. Plus like the Bible says not to kill so there's that too.

Was this like a serious question or something?

 

[rlg]

All jokes aside...I think that's just gonna make her want to argue more just to test your gangsta.

This man speaks the truth on this one brehs. I'm in a situation where I let small things go for so long that my woman could be happy. Now, when I'm trying to put my foot down on certain issues it's a problem because she has become spoiled and used to getting her own way. I'm going to fire her here soon.