I think he did have control of his crew but the rest is accurate. But really out of all those guys in the DiMeo crew he was the only option. Uncle Junior, Bobby, Paulie, Sil, Christopher, Carlo fukkin' Ralphie they all would have been worse than Tony.
Idk breh, he had a high turn over rate of soldiers and workers, just a few off the top of my head
Killed Ralph over some p*ssy and a dead horse
Furio nearly killed him over his wife
Couldn't keep Tony B and Feech satisfied with work after coming home from jail, so he got rid of them after they defied him
His boy p*ssy was a rat
His own nephew who was supposed to take over the family was a junkie and he ended up killing him
Paulie almost had them in a war w/ NY bc he gossiped like a bytch and he was also never happy
Sil was the only one I can think of who kept his shyt in order