That shyt is real. I use to think parents were exaggerating until experiencing 2 year old tantrums. When does it get better? When you can you start to reason with them?
Those of you with kids. How did you survive the terrible 2's and 3's?
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3s worse than 2s as they are smarter, louder and still need help regulating emotions.
Sometimes you have to let them get the tantrum out, depending on where you're at.
With my kids, i found things got better around 4, going into kindergarten
Sometimes you have to let them get the tantrum out, depending on where you're at.
With my kids, i found things got better around 4, going into kindergarten
I've always heard 3's were worse. I thought it would be easier since you can at least reason with them.
The hardest thing for me currently is the public meltdowns.
OP it gets better like 4/5.
Honestly until then just put most of the burden on wifey/grandma.
Find excuses to not be around; work as much as you can.
then once they're little people and have chilled then start getting real involved.
good luck breh
Honestly until then just put most of the burden on wifey/grandma.
Find excuses to not be around; work as much as you can.
then once they're little people and have chilled then start getting real involved.
good luck breh
Richard Glidewell
Superstar
My little terrorizers were funny. I knew what the tendencies were that made them cranky and was proactive. I didn't have to deal with much if any though......my daughter was just mean in general.....all the time.......my baby boy would get energetic when he tired and start doing dumb daredevil shyt to stay awake.....he's 8 now and still kind of does lol......but even to this day I grab him go sit somewhere quiet and he's out in the blink of an eye literally
They're smarter, and can reason back breh. Such small beings yield so much power
3s definitely worse than 2s
And if they stop napping early too?
Oh shyt
I got my kids to keep their day time naps until the summer before kindergarten
Oh yeah and the public meltdowns, sometimes you just have to let them get it out. Depends on your tolerance for the behaviour and public perception
I remember my daughter had a meltdown at a water park, this was a family vacation. She was about 3, maybe 4. I was already exhausted because we didn't sleep the night before. I fukking screamed at her the loudest I ever had. She shutdown, but had a terrified look on her face
I felt horrible after
Breh I wish lol. I'm pretty much a single father. Her grandma gets her together though but she isn't available like that.OP it gets better like 4/5.
Honestly until then just put most of the burden on wifey/grandma.
Find excuses to not be around; work as much as you can.
then once they're little people and have chilled then start getting real involved.
good luck breh
RickyDiBiase
The Sword of Jesus of Nazareth
Hope things work out for you in the end breh.
Oh damn man; well my advice would be to find a step mom ASAP.
next chick you smash you better use all the cheat codes; liquor honey packs whatever. Lay it down like its the last peace of ass you're ever going to get in life.
good luck breh
Adam3000
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3's are WAAAYYYYY worse than 2's. In fact, my daughter was easy as hell at 2 I thought. At 3 she was rough. She is OK now at 5 but still has tantrums.
My son was already bad at 2 so I worried how much worse it would get. He is 3 now and it is as bad as I could imagine. 40 minute long tantrums sometimes.
It isn't easy and the advice I will give is:
1) Nothing is personal. Meet every "I hate you" with a "that's OK, I love you though." Because they don't mean it. Make sure they don't get older and actually start meaning it....always give a positive and loving response.
2) Flat out ignore their tantrums as much as possible (if they aren't breaking things or hurting themselves). Let them work it out themselves. The more you try and stop their tantrum the more you will drag it on.
3) Always remind yourself that your actions now have long term consequences. If you want to react strongly with anger and violence, you will teach your child that those are the methods for dealing with things. Take a breath and be as calm as you can muster. The tantrum will eventually end.
No matter how "good" of a parent you are or strive to be, this is just the reality of being the parent of a toddler. It is hard. It is mentally and physically exhausting. You can't escape it. So just don't make it worse.
My son was already bad at 2 so I worried how much worse it would get. He is 3 now and it is as bad as I could imagine. 40 minute long tantrums sometimes.
It isn't easy and the advice I will give is:
1) Nothing is personal. Meet every "I hate you" with a "that's OK, I love you though." Because they don't mean it. Make sure they don't get older and actually start meaning it....always give a positive and loving response.
2) Flat out ignore their tantrums as much as possible (if they aren't breaking things or hurting themselves). Let them work it out themselves. The more you try and stop their tantrum the more you will drag it on.
3) Always remind yourself that your actions now have long term consequences. If you want to react strongly with anger and violence, you will teach your child that those are the methods for dealing with things. Take a breath and be as calm as you can muster. The tantrum will eventually end.
No matter how "good" of a parent you are or strive to be, this is just the reality of being the parent of a toddler. It is hard. It is mentally and physically exhausting. You can't escape it. So just don't make it worse.
It's stressful at times but you get thru it. To the future parents, the kids only act up based on what you taught them or how you treated them before.
Oh damn man; well my advice would be to find a step mom ASAP.
next chick you smash you better use all the cheat codes; liquor honey packs whatever. Lay it down like its the last peace of ass you're ever going to get in life.
good luck breh
Belize King
I got concepts of a plan.
My little one just turned 2.
My big one will turn 5 this month.
My big daughter is neurodivergent so I have no advice for you. The little one has started to trip recently. She knows daddy don’t play though.
So far
My big one will turn 5 this month.
My big daughter is neurodivergent so I have no advice for you. The little one has started to trip recently. She knows daddy don’t play though.
So far
Richard Glidewell
Superstar
I always tell people children are the absolute worst versions of people.......they inherently have all the worst traits and behaviors possible and it is up to you to prune and share them like rose bushes to remove them thorns.........they don't know better until they are taught better..........thinking back that's probably why mine were easy was because they were early communicators......well early understanders.......my son at 1 and 2 would take instruction.......my daughter and I just pointed grunted and nodded ........