Same, I’ve seen self hating full black people, so I can only imagine a half breed. This is what happens when black people either choose to raise, or let their kids be raised, in all white spaces and don’t do anything to help shape their black identity.
She needs to just keep it real about how she was raised and apparent resentment she harbors towards her dad which clearly affects her outlook on blackness. People may not forgive her or accept it, but you’d have to respect honesty over canned responses and “I didn’t know/I’m still learning” excuses