For many Black men who have options, that weight and shape does matter. Her shape is tragic to say the least. So I am not going to assume she is a swirler based on a stereotype about brothers being willing to date badly built and maintained women. I am pretty sure the brothers she would be open to approaching her are not looking for her in the condition she is presently in.
There is no stigma against bigger black women in the black community.
This is why I'm saying some of y'all have to be cacs. Because even if you prefer slimmer sized black women to pretend that brehs in general have this major problem with bigger/thicker black women just tells me y'all aint around black people.
The woman says she feels invisible to the men that approach HER FRIENDS.
These are NOT black men she is talking about