Peer pressure can be good or bad..
Peers are a collective group of people doing the same thing
You either get on board by acting consistent with the group consensus..
Or you are no longer in the peer group
Which is okay,, in a way
But over time the group shrinks until a unifying event pushes the dispersed micro groups back into a bigger clump
Thats just how it goes
Now.. Imagine if we are all farmers
You might elect me as the de facto leader
You say "old timer is a good farmer.. He'll tell it how it is.. He'll represent us"
So i basically stop being a farmer
And start spending all my time pontificating about what a farmer is supposed to be
And pretty soon there is a disconnect where i forget about being a farmer
And now my peer group is other trade leaders...
And i am hanging around with those people and i start conforming to their consensus about how a leader should act
Until that sad day when i get full of myself
Start barking out a bunch of ridiculous demand-ments to the farmers
And some wise soul exclaims "hey
O_t,, you havent worked the land in ten years.. What do you really know about what we deal with everyday??"
And he'll be right
And the peer group will fracture.. Some staying with me out of misplaced loyalty
And others striking out with a new system
Where each person is a farmer and a leader
And they all act as leaders,, and also farmers
But you can't do two things at once and that doesn't work either
Or rewind a bit.. Maybe i don't get full of myself
Maybe i am a great and benevelolent leader for a long, long time
And years of good farming happen .. And i am the right person to oversee the group
But sudden external adversity happens
And we go from peace to needing a more aggressive leader
And i am not exactly a war-time consigliere ..
So to do what's best, farmers really need to dump me and turn to a new (unproven) leader whose style better suits the circumstances
But unproven leader is unproven,, and unpracticed and rough at the edges
Because o_t monopolized the position for years and years and years
there's a million possibilities
Or they try to say "well, we take turns being leaders.. o_t can represent us for 2020, then the next person for 2021, then someone else 2022, etc"
That way the leader is more in step with the group
Problem is.. People will have different styles.. And oh, i don't like the way o_t does things, can't wait for 2021 to get here.. Then next guy will reverse o_t's policies.. Etc
Or i preferred person 1 to person 2, his policies favored me a bit
And person 3 tries to do the most and wants to outshine 1&2 combined
And now for a dose of honesty.. Some people are more capable leaders.. Some people have a good natural handle on it.. And some pretenders to the throne need affirmation and study leadership from a book as a shortcut to power..
So mileage will vary
And you get gridlock, or exhaustion or sick of all the talking, and pretty soon being a farmer is undesirable due to stagnation
And good people leave the group to do something else
These type of dynamics go on and on and on..
Yet dont seem to be considered
Why not??
You have to Start off acknowledging the trade-offs.. And picking out what is acceptable and what is too much
An honest framework to manage the group ,, and equally important represent the group and promote it's interests out in the world at large
Peers are a collective group of people doing the same thing
You either get on board by acting consistent with the group consensus..
Or you are no longer in the peer group
Which is okay,, in a way
But over time the group shrinks until a unifying event pushes the dispersed micro groups back into a bigger clump
Thats just how it goes
Now.. Imagine if we are all farmers
You might elect me as the de facto leader
You say "old timer is a good farmer.. He'll tell it how it is.. He'll represent us"
So i basically stop being a farmer
And start spending all my time pontificating about what a farmer is supposed to be
And pretty soon there is a disconnect where i forget about being a farmer
And now my peer group is other trade leaders...
And i am hanging around with those people and i start conforming to their consensus about how a leader should act
Until that sad day when i get full of myself
Start barking out a bunch of ridiculous demand-ments to the farmers
And some wise soul exclaims "hey
O_t,, you havent worked the land in ten years.. What do you really know about what we deal with everyday??"
And he'll be right
And the peer group will fracture.. Some staying with me out of misplaced loyalty
And others striking out with a new system
Where each person is a farmer and a leader
And they all act as leaders,, and also farmers
But you can't do two things at once and that doesn't work either
Or rewind a bit.. Maybe i don't get full of myself
Maybe i am a great and benevelolent leader for a long, long time
And years of good farming happen .. And i am the right person to oversee the group
But sudden external adversity happens
And we go from peace to needing a more aggressive leader
And i am not exactly a war-time consigliere ..
So to do what's best, farmers really need to dump me and turn to a new (unproven) leader whose style better suits the circumstances
But unproven leader is unproven,, and unpracticed and rough at the edges
Because o_t monopolized the position for years and years and years
there's a million possibilities
Or they try to say "well, we take turns being leaders.. o_t can represent us for 2020, then the next person for 2021, then someone else 2022, etc"
That way the leader is more in step with the group
Problem is.. People will have different styles.. And oh, i don't like the way o_t does things, can't wait for 2021 to get here.. Then next guy will reverse o_t's policies.. Etc
Or i preferred person 1 to person 2, his policies favored me a bit
And person 3 tries to do the most and wants to outshine 1&2 combined
And now for a dose of honesty.. Some people are more capable leaders.. Some people have a good natural handle on it.. And some pretenders to the throne need affirmation and study leadership from a book as a shortcut to power..
So mileage will vary
And you get gridlock, or exhaustion or sick of all the talking, and pretty soon being a farmer is undesirable due to stagnation
And good people leave the group to do something else
These type of dynamics go on and on and on..
Yet dont seem to be considered
Why not??
You have to Start off acknowledging the trade-offs.. And picking out what is acceptable and what is too much
An honest framework to manage the group ,, and equally important represent the group and promote it's interests out in the world at large