I think back to the Nate Parker situation when his movie was about to drop, and his past regarding a rape came up. White people held off casting judgement initially. If you remember, they didn't jump on him right away. What made them go at him eventually is when Black women on social media gave them the green light. The reason those women gave the okay, was because they were in their feelings over Parker being married to a white woman. If Parker had been married to a Black woman, they would have had his back.
That said, regarding Obama, had he been married to a white woman, Black women would have rejected him. A large portion of Black women didn't vote for Obama based on his politics or views. They voted for him because he fit a certain ideal that they dream of. They see themselves as being accepted when viewing Barrack's successful marriage with Michelle Obama. A lot of these women will never get married, will be single mothers, will not ever have children, will be gamed on by numerous men throughout their sexual prime years, etc.. The irony is Obama campaigned with a slogan based on "hope". That's exactly what a lot Black women looking at his marriage needed. It's no coincidence now that he's gone and Trump is in office, the current narrative on social media is Black men being the weakest link. They lost hope.
I agree with the Nate Parker thing in that bw as whole did not support him. What I will say is that Obama understood how to play the game right. In an ideal world who you marry shouldn’t matter, but in reality the historical context of race in our country and IR relations amongst other things that are very specific to the black experience and the black women or black men experience in this country really influences a lot of these issues.
The issue with IR couples is that the opposite gender will have a harder time connecting—a bw will not connect with a bm married to a ww, and vice versus. For some they may even see that person as a traitor. It is no different for other groups. Wm would never support a WW married to a Bm. WW can’t stand Asian women with white men. These groups just aren’t as vocal or direct about it. Black people are very passionate and vocal, sometimes to the point where it hurts us if we talk too much about shyt we’d do well to keep among ourselves.
Anyway, I get why a lot of bm don’t like Kamala, between her history and who she’s married to, she doesn’t have a vested interest or genuine tie to you.
In regards to your second paragraph, I think many bw identified with Michelle and enjoyed seeing a successful black married couple make it into the White House. They were a great model of a successful black family. It was inspiring for those reasons. Michelle looked like a polished, unambiguous bw and Obama was also attractive and a great speaker. That said, I don’t think the current issues taking place online have anything to do with Obama and Michelle not being in the office anymore and bw losing hope. I’m also positive that bw online were talking shyt about bm when Obama was president too and vice versus.
But thats the thing, as I’ve said many times before, the weakest link and divest talk, takes place online. Offline it is a different story. If your only way of measuring how bw feel about bm is through Twitter, forums or online spaces I can see how you would have that view. But if you regularly interact with black people, many black women I know are in relationships, date, and are married to bm. Even when they are frustrated with bm they still date, love, and deal with bm on a romantic level.
you’ve posted other comments about bw that have made me give you the side eye. Some of you really have an interesting view of bw—like damn do y’all interact with happy bw, who are in relationships, married, etc? We are all not single and miserable and hate y’all. Jesus.